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Ok...just got off the phone with MIL...
The first 8 minutes of the call was all about how her daughter's current predicament is all my fault...no good SOB...if you'd been here...blah, blah, wah, wah...started sounding like Charlie Brown's teacher...
When she stopped to take a breath, I was able to get her to promise to check on W and D...
Ear is still ringing...
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Perhaps send her copies of some of the topless pics?
(No, not really. Sorry, just kidding.)
That was a good/right thing to do, Low.
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8 minutes can seem like an eternity <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Pep
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Low,
My vote is to call her. She is still your wife, even if you two are separated. Let her know, maybe, that her daughters are worried. See where it goes from there.
I think a call is human kindness. You don't have to be working on reconciliation.
Don’t go flying home to rescue her, at least not yet.
If you don’t find out how she is doing you know it is going to drive you nuts.
Life is better with a dose of compassion.
What we think or what we know or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence. The only consequence is what we do. ~ John Ruskin
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I'm in the "call her" category.
None of us are whole.
None of us can always cherish.
Somtimes it's compassionate to reach out to someone who is hurting just to reach out -- even if there is nothing in it (like being cherished back) for us.
It's okay to do that stuff sometimes.
Even with someone who hurt us.
It makes us the best kind of human.
Sunny Day, Sweeping The Clouds Away...
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JJ,
Low said he was not able to be around her and remain detached at the same time, which would be detrimental to his personal recovery and/also possibly to a reconciliation in the future.
My line of thinking was with that in mind,
while allowing his children to be with him away from her pain at this time for their own emotional safety. Also, she may need some alone time to put herself back together.
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D called back...freaked out
Apparently, W is MIA...not at work, not at home, not answering cell...
This is not good. I'm going to give mother-in-law a chance to talk to her...then I will go home if I have to.
This hard to deal with long distance.
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she may be on her way to visit her dentist ... or his wife
keep calling her on her cell
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