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I am asking the moderators to step in and decide if this woman has any business on this site. I am asking myself why you 1) came into the thread of someone you have identified as a troll and 2) don't seem to have the common sense to stay out of threads started by someone you have identified as a troll. Any takers?
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CS-- Sometimes you make very keen observations. Other times, ,,,,well,,,
seems like you want to piss people off.
Maybe that's your style, or maybe it depends on your mood that hour. (Heck, I'll share my bi-polar meds with you...oops, I don't have any...contrary to what WH thinks) Perhaps you have identified a personal shortcoming of mine. Point taken (but I should tell you this: I am philisophically opposed to the chemical alteration of a person's mental state unless it involves Bailey's Irish Cream...LOL) It was a good question. Folks are TRYING to give you their best answer. Nope-SOME mofos is just drowsy, and need to back up off the keyboard. Basically I asked "What time is it?" and some folks came back and said "Use splenda as a substitute for sugar." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> BTW, what is your answer to the posed question? So far, I am with Dobie Dobe but I want to see some more opinions...
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Whatever, CS.
Married men or women, if they are happy, will not send subtle signals out to others.
There are single people out there that view a married person as a challenge and conquest.
I think you could find LOTS of answers to your question, and none would be wrong.
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Do some people gravitate towards people who are married?
Serious question actually. Yes, I think that there are serial mistresses and serial "fix it men"..people who are the OW / OM on a routine basis... Your thoughts?
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*** You are ignoring this user *** (((Doing a church dance))) Well halleluhah! Pass the Kaluhah!
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I agree with Zoomba. I think that a married person can look at someone and say hey they are attractive and not think any further because that person is putting out subtle clues that they are not available.
Others put out the subtle available signs.
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Married men or women, if they are happy, will not send subtle signals out to others. Didn't someone smart up in here say that men and women are different in that men will still take the opportunity to cheat even if they are in a happy relationship???? What say you, dear zombie? There are single people out there that view a married person as a challenge and conquest. This is sick, but I'll bet you are onto something....
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I agree with Zoomba. I think that a married person can look at someone and say hey they are attractive and not think any further because that person is putting out subtle clues that they are not available.
Others put out the subtle available signs. So you are saying that it is mostly on the married person?
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Nope didn't say that, I always believe that people hold responsibility in their actions no matter what they are.
However as a married person I believe that we have to let others know that there is no chance for anything here, that this kitchen is closed to all others.
I have met several married men, with their wives and have received subtle signs, however my kitchen is closed and I try very hard to keep my boundaries up if I know I am in a dangerous situation.
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If they are so happy, why are they cheating? Are they bored? Are they looking for a little variety? Do they have some personality flaw that drives them to sabotage their happy life??
Guess they really aren't so happy after all.
Someone posted recently about drama, and there's plenty of those addicts out there. Throw that into the mix.
I don't buy that happy married people cheat. There is something missing for them to go looking elsewhere.
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However as a married person I believe that we have to let others know that there is no chance for anything here, that this kitchen is closed to all others. I am in 100% agreement here. But, what of the folks who are seriously into married people? What is going on in the minds of these folks & how in the heck do they sleep at night????
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Who are these people? I don't know any. I mean where did you get this from? That there a whole bunch of predatory people out there just looking for married people to have A's with.
I must live a very sheltered life.
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I don't buy that happy married people cheat. There is something missing for them to go looking elsewhere. When I read that I thought the same thing, but when you challenge gender stereotypes-especially up in this piece-you are risking a BIG cyber azz kicking.
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But, what of the folks who are seriously into married people?
What is going on in the minds of these folks & how in the heck do they sleep at night???? Then we have to make sure they have no doubt that the kitchen is closed. And I'm sure there are ways to do this. As to how they sleep at night, my guess is not very well or I would hope not very well. They may tell you they are happy but inside they are not, they are very sad and hurting people.
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Who are these people? I don't know any. But then I don't hang out with young single women at bars. Young single women aren't the only demographic being discussed... When we think of someone who "tempts a married person away" from their spouse, we think of a young attractive woman...I think that we all know that this is not always the case.
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Friends,
While you all give the time of day to *********, there are actually people who need help desperately.
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You're right there, CS. A lot of the serial OW/OM have other self-destructive tendencies that take their physical toll.
Me - BS
DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003
DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007
Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
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I believe that some people are predators- they go after the married person as a challenge-
just like you go after everyone on this site who is doing their best to follow the MB principles
I see you as a predator- too bad your name is such a sweet name- you surely do not live up to it.
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Are there any statistics on predators? I would imagine they come under the heading "serial" cheaters which seems to be a whole different kettle of fish.
BigK, you are right. There are people needing help and this sure isn't helping anyone.
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