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LadyLayla #1739013 08/31/06 08:05 AM
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Exposure 101


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Suzet* and 2BNormal,

Why don't you guys just make use of the "Ignore" feature?
Myschae,

There is no one I want to ignore on this board…NO ONE – not even the people I have disagreements with…but even if there was someone I would like to ignore, I will not do it and I will never make use of the “Ignore” feature. Unfortunately I'm not the type of person who believes to just put someone on the "ignore list"...that is not my style...and that's also not my style in 'real life' (where there isn't "ignore buttons" to make a person "disappear")... I will rather deal with the person and get to the bottom of the problem/issue (like I do on this board with people I have disagreements and/or issues with)...

Also, the other reason I will never put someone on my “ignore list” is because I'm just a too curious person to do something like that! It will be very hard for me to ignore someone because I will be dying to know what they are saying the whole time! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Suzet*

*chuckles*

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There is no one I want to ignore on this board…NO ONE – not even the people I have disagreements with…but even if there was someone I would like to ignore, I will not do it and I will never make use of the “Ignore” feature. Unfortunately I'm not the type of person who believes to just put someone on the "ignore list"...that is not my style...and that's also not my style in 'real life' (where there isn't "ignore buttons" to make a person "disappear")... I will rather deal with the person and get to the bottom of the problem/issue (like I do on this board with people I have disagreements and/or issues with)...

Also, the other reason I will never put someone on my “ignore list” is because I'm just a too curious person to do something like that! It will be very hard for me to ignore someone because I will be dying to know what they are saying the whole time.

As you like...

I suggest it only because you seem to be a focal point for a pretty circular discussion. Generally these things only remain 'fun' if they're fed. Such is the nature of the internet. If you (the generic "you" broadened to include everyone involved) are getting something out of it, then I suppose it will continue.

It just seems to me that 1.) you'll never come to an agreement - even one to disagree and 2.) nothing new has been said in the past several iterations.

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Myschae, I understand what you’re saying… I’ve probably repeated myself too much lately…

Anyway, thanks for your concern! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Myschae, I understand what you’re saying… I’ve probably repeated myself too much lately…

It's certainly not just you. Nothing new has really been said on the 'other side' either. I figured you might be tired of "hearing" that, as well. I chuckled when you wrote that you'd be 'too curious' to know what would be said. Can't you guess? It doesn't really vary much. And, although the rhetoric is occasionally creative, most of the time it is too repetitious to be distinguishable from the rest.

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Anyway, thanks for your concern!

You're welcome.

Good luck to you.

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Pep,

While I don't necessarily disagree with you on this subject, it boils down to [color:"red"] YOUR personal opinion. [/color]

EGG ZAK LEE !!!!

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I am not going to comment exposure itself, but just this part:

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"wimpy" is not attractive to most women ... agree or disagree?

Absolutely! Not attractive in any case and from any reason.

If I were WS and my BS tells everyone about my affair (to the family, at my work, to my neighbourhood, to friends, everyone), I would see him being a very 'wimpy' ("oh, people, come and help me, my wife is cheating on me, please help me people to get her back, oh I'm so helpless to do it by myself")
VS. – he faces OM and tells him "you know pal. If you ever get close to my wife or ever contact her in any way again, I'm going to ****EDIT******". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
THAT would be so sexy and attractive to ME - my man fighting for me, as a man.

Aren't we different…?
And because we ARE different, ONE strict rule CANNOT help everyone…

I.e. be more flexible, guys… you are very good, in general, but it looks you never think that your advice can hurt some people’s marriages… And you must know that yes you (we) can…
So, be careful…

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I prefer:

early exposure

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[color:"blue"] ditto [/color]

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VS. – he faces OM and tells him "you know pal. If you ever get close to my wife or ever contact her in any way again, I'm going to ****EDIT*******".
THAT would be so sexy and attractive to ME - my man fighting for me, as a man.


EXACTLY! Love my man for doing this!

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B2M said: <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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– he faces OM and tells him "you know pal. If you ever get close to my wife or ever contact her in any way again, I'm going to ****EDIT******".

... and then ... when contact resumes the BH must follow up on that promise!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

making bravado ultimatums that one has no intention to carry out is ... I donno, I can't think of the right word .... can you B2M?

Reading all the WW comments over the years ... the WW mind-set might say ~~~> SEE HOW CONTROLLING AND CRAZY YOU ARE !!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> .... WW are nutz.

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Not only that Pep...but imagine how sexy it will be when WS uses BS "history of violence" in custody battle and then WW and OP ride off into the sunset with the children and BS rides the bus to prison.

To me that looks weak, reactive, undisciplined and frankly..trashy.

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VS. – he faces OM and tells him "you know pal. If you ever get close to my wife or ever contact her in any way again, I'm going to **********edit************".
THAT would be so sexy and attractive to ME - my man fighting for me, as a man.


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EXACTLY! Love my man for doing this!


so very mature.... you want your man to stand up for his W who acted like a ***... and threaten to do physical harm to another to win you back. Now I am all for handling things directly and am not against getting in someones face... but hearing this from a FWS is just ridiculous. It is YOUR job to stand up for the marriage YOU damaged... yet you want the little fairy tale of a man fighting for you. Grow the ***-up.

And as far as Kiwi, 2B and Suzet all having a support each other party here... well, I guess enough has been said about that.

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[which is not to say I didn't indulge in fanstasies about doing that very thing]

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VS. – he faces OM and tells him "you know pal. If you ever get close to my wife or ever contact her in any way again, I'm going to****EDIT******".
THAT would be so sexy and attractive to ME - my man fighting for me, as a man.


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EXACTLY! Love my man for doing this!


so very mature.... you want your man to stand up for his W who acted like a**and threaten to do physical harm to another to win you back. Now I am all for handling things directly and am not against getting in someones face... but hearing this from a FWS is just ridiculous. It is YOUR job to stand up for the marriage YOU damaged... yet you want the little fairy tale of a man fighting for you. Grow the ***-up.

And as far as Kiwi, 2B and Suzet all having a support each other party here... well, I guess enough has been said about that.

MEDC - My H didn't threaten "physical" harm. Sorry you misinterpreted. Also, my H was not trying to "win" me back. He already HAS me fully! I was referring to when my H called the OM after this last attempted contact in which I did NOT respond to. And my H is not to stand for HIS marriage when such a jerk of an OM tried to contact me?

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... and then ... when contact resumes the BH must follow up on that promise!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Why, doesn't a WS deserve that? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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making bravado ultimatums that one has no intention to carry out is ... I donno, I can't think of the right word .... can you B2M?

Silly. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
But you have to be convincing enough <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


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Not only that Pep...but imagine how sexy it will be when WS uses BS "history of violence" in custody battle and then WW and OP ride off into the sunset with the children and BS rides the bus to prison.

To me that looks weak, reactive, undisciplined and frankly..trashy.

Lets recall GOOD FATHER'S real world sitch for an example of this very injustice orchestrated by the WW.

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but imagine how sexy it will be when WS uses BS "history of violence" in custody battle and then WW and OP ride off into the sunset with the children and BS rides the bus to prison.

Yes, if you have witnesses. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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To me that looks weak, reactive, undisciplined and frankly..trashy.

The same as any affair, right?
So, if you can fight for WS and not put him directly to the trach can, why not using trashy means of getting him back?

I mean, I did not... I let him go, and he kept coming back...

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[which is not to say I didn't indulge in fanstasies about doing that very thing]

See? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
As I imagined being WS and what I would think if...
My "fantasy" says - exposure wouldn't work SO MUCH for ME.


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MEDC - My H didn't threaten "physical" harm. Sorry you misinterpreted. Also, my H was not trying to "win" me back. He already HAS me fully! I was referring to when my H called the OM after this last attempted contact in which I did NOT respond to. And my H is not to stand for HIS marriage when such a jerk of an OM tried to contact me?


you seem to have a problem with the English laguage.... you said you would want your H to do the same thing (****EDIT*****). That is physical violence. I don't get surprised by back peddling when it comes to you though. As far as should your H stand up for you.... only AFTER you have done everything in your power to stand up for your M. Until then, you are not worth the effort.

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