Peter, can you still drive the car with expired registration until you can finish your mortgage assumption?

Also, if you buy it close to the time you close, they have already pulled your credit and a car loan typically takes 30 or so days to show up on a credit report, so you won't have an issue.....

Also, I think in my state (NC) they can only make you spend up to $300 or something to fix a car for passing inspection...

Things to look into.

Also, I have read your thread- you are totally beating yourself up waaaaay too much. Everyone has faults, everyone makes mistakes. It's only bad when you refuse to remedy them. I know you feel like you did too little too late, but geez, man, cut yourself some slack! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

The hardest thing to learn is that you can't stop other people from making choices that affect our own lives.

You will be a better person, you will learn about yourself, you will make strides to become the best person you can be.

You will make it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Heh, wow. So anyway I bought a new car. Sent my wife a text saying I had some news. She called and asked what was up. I told her about the old one breaking down and buying a new one. I also told her that everything should still be ok but there is a possibility we're going to have to sell the house and take a loss so be prepared if the assumption doesn't go through.

She said, "Thanks for ruining my life again."

With a smile I said, "Me ruin your life? I know what I did to cause this and I wanted to change. You still haven't accepted your responsibility in this? In the end you chose to have an affair. I can't shield you from the consequences."

She hung up on me.

Ah me. Such is life.

Oh, I asked her for a ride to the dealership, she said, "I think not."

Where are my divorce papers!? I need to get out. She's never going to find the strength to face truth, apologize, or start recovery. I do love though, that she is stressed about it now, and not me. Is that wrong? I've lost 50 pounds worrying about our lives and the aftermath, I think a little reality crashing into her's is not such a bad thing.

Thank you for your kind words and advice MrsRob. I'm not really too worried about the house. My debt/income ratio is still reasonable, not what I wanted it to be, but still reasonable. I think everything should be fine. If not, then at least I won't be 'house-poor'

I wanted to explain to her that things MIGHT not be cut and dry like we'd hoped and to just be prepared. Apparently, I continue to "ruin her life". And no, I don't believe her when she says that, I just wish she'd see the light. Our lives are "ruined" because of the A. She still will not even admit that it WAS an A. It has now been 5 months. So...

I've plan A'd to my hearts content with no progress. Plan B is not an option as far as I can tell. Onward with divorce!!!