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We are awaiting the 25th of this month. That's our court date. We're suing the OW for primary custody of the children. If you read my posts you'll see that she is a real piece of...um....er...work, yeah, work...that's the word!
To this day she is still using the children to try to gain access to the Wookie. He sees it for what it is now, tho, and loathes her for it.
That's about it for me. It's been a very exhausting 3.5 years. I didn't know if I'd keep breathing through it. I did...but I didn't always want to. I know you know what I mean.
- Kimmy [/quote]
Three and a half years?!?! Goodness!! I would have never lasted that long. Your made of strouter stuff than I!!
Let me just say that again.... THREE AND A HALF YEARS ...
Now thats a marathon I would have never finished.
I wish you the best of luck on your court date.
Sincerely
Bobby
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...well....only 2 years of it was spent de-frogging him...um...de-FOGGING him....
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And I didn't know squat about MB till after I found out about OC#2. I was totally winging it....and winging it badly.
Stouter stuff???
I almost didn't make it.
Seriously.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Over the years the pain comes and goes, sometimes I get angry but I eventually "forgave her". That was the hardest and I mean by forgave is I set her down looked deep into her eyes and start listing off every detail i could think of
I forgive you for betraying our marriage
I forgive you abandoning us
I forgive you for what you did to yourself
I forgive you for lieing to me
I forgive you for the pain and suffering I went through
I forgive you for telling me you don't love me anymore
etc etc
Each statement made her eyes well up a little more
after about the 12th statement I switched and started asking forgiveness
I hope you can forgive me for not being a more attentive husband.
I hope you can forgive me for not being a involved father
I hope you can forgive me the harsh words
I hope you can forgive me not helping with the house
Each of those statements made the tears flowing faster and the most emotional part is when she took my hand in hers looked at me with green eyes full of tears and said " Am i worth it", I answered yes and we had a hug that lasted several minutes.
From that point on things got better. It was a do-over. Yes there were relapses and YES, i took some cheap shots but I paid for them believe me. We have two DD and two DS. Oldest S is much better. OM tracks us down every couple of years to ask "how is my daughter" W. promptly tells him to stop calling and that he doesn't have a daughter. If she had listened to him DD would be in a bio-waste container in some landfill. We are celebrating our tenth anniversary on 10/12/06 and I have taken the initiative to plan it because I'm so glag we got this far.
Our song after getting back togethor is by Shania Twain and we still look at each other when we hear her sing "still the one".
now im misty eyed
TTYL My wife read this thread, she says she doesn't remember me saying this. I am not sure if she says "she just doesnt remember" or I am a big fat liar. I'll post later once I ask her. She also didnt appreciate the slip-up when i put her name in instead of just "W" She also has some other parts of the story she disputes never happened or I somehow altered in my favor. Ill post whatever she disputes here later.
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Don't worry too, too much. WSs "forget" some of the worst stuff....I think they do it to protect themselves from what they did. When the Wookie "forgets" I just shrug it off...we both know who the reliable one was at the time. And I surely don't need to make him feel worse than the does about it.
What really matters is who she grew into being...not who she was. She couldn't be the wonderful, learned, wise person she is now without going through this.
The Wookie and I have been together 11 years (12 in Dec) and I wouldn't trade him in for anything...even after all the pain.
- Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Don't worry too, too much. WSs "forget" some of the worst stuff....I think they do it to protect themselves from what they did. When the Wookie "forgets" I just shrug it off...we both know who the reliable one was at the time. And I surely don't need to make him feel worse than the does about it.
What really matters is who she grew into being...not who she was. She couldn't be the wonderful, learned, wise person she is now without going through this.
The Wookie and I have been together 11 years (12 in Dec) and I wouldn't trade him in for anything...even after all the pain.
- Kimmy Thats funny i just realized your S is Wookie and my S is Pookie
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