She goes behind your back and has a sexual affair with your best friend putting your health at risk for STD's. She not expects you to mend your frienship with this man who stabbed you in the back and humiliated and disrespected you with your wife in the worst way possible? She tells you she misses his company and wants to go back to all being friends again?.....Unbelievable!

If you had been having sex with her best friend behind her back and you finally got caught and then asked her to mend her friendship with your lover because you really miss her company; do you honestly think she would consider it?

It is clear that your wife simply does not get it. She should be doing everything possible to regain trust from you. Many husbands would have walked out on her so she is lucky that you are willing to try to recover. For her to ask you to restart your friendship with a friend who continued to have sex with your wife behind your back because she misses his friendship and that you should hang out together is truly mindboggling. How can she not understanding how totatlly humiliating and disrespectful her request is? This goes beyond withdrawal. This is a woman who has not only a broken moral compass but who has no problem continuing to show utter distain for the feelings of her husband. Why would any spouse want to be friends and hang out with a friend who continued to screw his wife while still being friends with him? Apparently your wife has no boundaries and has no fear that you will walk away from this madness since she continues to downplay what she has done and makes requests of you that boarders on lunacy. I would think about contacting an attorney to understand your options. This may also hopefully knock her out of the fog. Do not put up with this. I wish you luck.