Good morning all

Rin- I think you might be right about the planets or maybe the full moon. I have faith in me to but god is the one I get all my strenght from. My motto is F.R.O.G ( fully rely on God) that is the way i'm living my life because I can't do it without him.

Gave WH plan b letter yesterday. I told him that I didn't want a divorce. Ask him to call our sons. He told me that he would call the boys last night but he didn't and when OS called him he didn't answer the phone.

It hurts me when he ignores the boys. And it hurts the boys. Last night YS couldn't fall asleep when I went to bed I asked him if he was alright he said he was but I could tell he had been crying.

What kind of man does this to he's children.

I'm not really liking my spouse right now.

what going on. There is usally positive things going on on this board but every post I have read seems like we BS are giving up. This is making me so sad.

It seemed like last week things were going good for most of us.

WHAT HAPPENED??

Just a short update. I have not heard a word from WH. I guess thats good since thats what I asked for.

He hasn't even called our sons.

How does a father just ignore his children?
Has anyone had this happen to them?

My friend told me I need to call WH and tell him he needs to call and see the boys. But I can't do that I'm in a dark Plan b.

What should I do?

I'm feeling really down today.

Ok I did something this morning and i need some feed back.

I got to wake about 3:30 this morning. I had two things on my mind

1. Call OW and tell her what this is doing to my sons.

2. E-mail MIL and tell her want WH is doing.

Called OW she didn't answer so I left message on voice mail.
Just told her that it was in her power to stop the pain that my sons are in I keep referring to them as WH sons not sure if that will make any difference or not. I'm sure her and WH are together today because it's his day off.

I've decided not to e-mail MIL but to call her. Last time I called her I couldn't tell her but for some reason I feeling stronger right now.


Please let me know if I did the right thing by contacting OW.

I think it was great that you got her voice mail instead of talking to her! I'm sure you were able to remain calm that way.

I would use that strong feeling that you have this morning and would call instead of email. It's best that she hear your voice.

YOU can do this!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks Rin. My Pastor and I talk yesterday and she told me that i need to tell my MIL. She prayed over me and I think that is want has given me the push i need.

Talked to WH Mom. She and I talked for almost an hour. She said that she is not suprised. Just yesterday her friend asked if she thought that may be what happened.

She said it must be some kind of sign with me calling her today.

She is going to talk to him. And that she has been thinking it was about time that he moves out.

So we will see what happens.

I feel better now after telling her.

Why did I wait so long?

"Why did I wait so long?"

Did you ask yourself this question? The answer may be surprising to you!

Good Job! Pat yourself on the back and keep up the good work! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Rin- Everytime I ask a question you give it back to me you've been hanging out with LA to much.LOL

"Why did I wait so long?"

I think I waited because I didn't want to shead WH in a bad light. I kept thinking how would I feel as a Mom.

She did seem very pleased that I told her.

WH is going to be seeing our sons today I'm happy about that boys have been mooping around.

I know your not hanging around the board as much. I'm glad you stop by to keep me thinking.

Good Morning, Hope evryone had a good weekend.

There has been no fall out from WH about my call to OW and MIL. It leaves me wondering if either one said anything to him.

I do have a confession, I talked to WH last Weds. when he came to see the boys didn't get into anything to heavy just told him he needed to spend more time with the boys. Told him I will be out late on Friday the 20th and asked if he will take care of the boys.

I was very calm when we talked I showed no emotions which is very good for me.

He did finally admit that he is still screwing the ****** he has been lying about that for months.

After he left I felt so empowered and he seemed so depressed first time that he and I had been together that I didn't do plan A I didn't LB. I was just calm it felt so good.

Everything was going along great the rest of the week until yesterday. And then I became sad and I can't understand why.
I guess its par for the course good days bad day I should be happy that there are more good days than bad.

One other thing when i talked to WH he never said anything about divorce. Thats good right?

One thing that was kind of a bummer last week I testifed for a friend in a child custody case I hope it never comes to that with WH and I. It does look good for my friend but you never know.

That pretty much updates.

One more thing I dyed my hair black <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />