Kat - don't know if you've seen this but I just think this issue is so important.

std thread on recovery forum

thanks moveforward !
He was very unfaithful to his wife... he used to drive truck for a living and was not home very much. He was gone for weeks at a time and she was ill for years and he got those needs met elsewhere. his wife passed away and three years later he married me. He was open and honest about his messing around on her and the story was beleiveable. He said she never wanted sex as she was too sick etc.
He is seeking help from a professional that works for his company and he starts next week. He has been more attentive then ever before. he said it is actually a relief to be caught and it helps greatly to put a stop to it. he says it made him feel aweful every time. I read about sex addiction and I think you are right. So that freaks me out...and as I read I think I may be exhibiting some codependent behaviours.
I truley do love him for all the other traits he has. He is really great all around guy with the exception of this. I sure did not see it coming, not at all. I am not sure I can get past this for the rest of my life. I didnt out up with this behavior from my ex husband that I was married to for 21 years. He was a drunk... he worked his butt of but did not contribute... he was unfaithful in the early years of our marriage but we got past that. There were other issues that I tried to deal with for 21 years and it certianly was not competing with other women. I am not sure how I even feel.. numb I think

well anoher couple days have passed... He worked nights again last night and said he was so tired he was going to go right to sleep. I went off to work and I thought maybe I would surprise him by going home for lunch.. something I never do as it is very far..when I arrived home he was not home. I was freaked out instantly. I called his cell phone and he said he was over at his daughters apartment to pick up something and was heading home right away. So I told him I was at work and proceeded to drive over there to see if he was actually telling me the truth. He was there.. and I waiting outside to see if he left alone... yes he did thank god and on the other hand I was disappointed.. why that is i dont know. Anyway long story short.. i followed him to see where he was going to go and he went home. I was sick all day. when I arrived home he was still sleeping and there was a dozen roses with a little mussy note on the table for me. I didnt even know what to say.. nice yes.. thanks.. yes.. maybe he is really truly trying????