SFA:

Start with Plan B.

And get your Plan D info in order.

You are flopping around like a fish out of water.

And your WS is enjoying every minute of it. So, Take control.

Decide where you want to go, and make it happen.

You are so caught up in the daily details and little crumbs that you never MOVE.

So start MOVING.

Plan B the WS and MOVE her out.

Until she is uncomfortable, she will never change.