He has ALWAYS had difficulty sleeping now THIS hasn't made it any better. As well as, he has one very physical job, plus he is/was working on a building to start another business AND making calls and arrangements for a building and some land we are working on selling.
I said all that to say.......what on earth can I do to help him.
I asked him, he said, "Nothing"
Suggested that he should go to the DR. for some meds to help him sleep....he's not PRO-medicine.
Ended up bringing up the 6 months that I spoke to the OM...
What can I do?
He said, "You don't do that to someone you love."
I said, "People that love each other unfortunately end up hurting each other as well"
I don't know where my head was at, my self-esteem, I felt on the very bottom of his list. Felt like he needed DRINKS in him to *see me or *spend time with me.
{Now I'm not talking bad about him....just stating our history}
Felt like he has been self-medicating himself with weed...to get by in life...to calm his nerves. When actually it is a depressant.....of course, he wouldn't admit to that.
I felt like SCREAMING.......I'M HERE WAITING FOR YOU, DON'T YOU WANT ME.....I HAVE TO WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE AT THE END OF YOUR ROPE ....TO WAKE ME IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT FOR YOUR *time*.....AFTER YOU'VE HUNG OUT AT THE BAR, TALKED TO FRIENDS, HAD A FEW DRINKS, HAD A LITTLE WEED, MADE A FEW PHONE CALLS......AND THEN COME HOME....
So finally, I wrote a quick note suggesting that he phone Dr. Harley

How did we lose each other?

I cherish every moment we are spending together ~

We are leaving for Mexico this Monday~~~

I need more advice......everything I say "sounds so stupid to me"

There is no quick fix for this.

It will take time, and patience.

People loose each other all the time by not paying attention to the things that helped them fall in love.

You can fall in love again, and you can stay in love if BOTH of you are willing to do what it takes.

It's like playing the piano. Anyone can press a few keys, but if you want to play well, you have to practice.

If you want a good marriage, you need to learn what that takes, and do the things it requires.

It means you need to, and it means he needs to.

You are leaving on a trip. Go and enjoy the time, and the place. Don't think so much about what is needed, and will it work, because you can't force it to work in that time frame.
You may as well have a good time, and worry about all this later.

If he won't have a good time, then you have one anyway.

I need more advice......everything I say "sounds so stupid to me"

Time and patience. When things seem to go wrong, tell yourself that over and over.

Don't beat yourself ups so much, it will wear you out, and hurt your efforts. OK?

SS

I've started "Fall in Love Stay in Love", and "Surviving an Affair"....just ordered "Love Busters" and "His Needs Her Needs"
Gonna' be POSITIVE on our trip......and "work" on enjoying every moment we have together.

He says sometimes he feels like a fool for staying....I said I don't blame him...
I also asked, "If you left, do you think you would regret it 6 months from now?" Maybe I should have said, "A year from now"....because 6 months isn't long.
I have to be positive.....because we've "reflected" each other's feelings many times.
If he would just be able to "rest" in the night and "recharge". Dealing with problems and crisis is somewhat more attainable....when your body/mind is rested.