Good evening...

I don't know if anyone here still remembers me...or cares about this update....

I am on my way back from California. I left early because Ann's father in law died last week, his funeral was yesterday and she left town Saturday morning. I left Calif Saturday morning also and am currently spending 2 days in Texas resting up from 1400 miles on the road.

Last night I talked to xW for 3 hours....

She broke down and apologized for everything she has done, told me she couldn't believe what she has put me through, how she didn't know how I stayed with her as long as I did.

She told me how she misses me, she remembers how good I was to her and how she misses having me there to tell her I love her. She misses snuggling at night...traveling with me with I go on trips.

I told her I would forgive her...but I committed to nothing else other than to say we would talk again. I didn't ask about OM.

Anyone who wishes to say "I told you so"....feel free to jump in and do so....

Georgia..

Hi F.G.G,

I don't know much about your story but this sounds huge for any divorced person who had a wayward spouse.

I'm curious...would you consider a relationship with your ex wife?

yes..

Thanks for the update - my mantra is "affairs always end".

This gives me hope

Me too!

OH MY GOD, GEORGIA....

"ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WHEN YOU BELIEVE"

I've spent the day in a canyon..thinking, meditating, and praying...

Tonight I called my pastor and we talked quite a while.

The bottom line is...I'm going to go slow...let the dust settle...and really think this thing though before I contact her again...

I know I can't marry Ann with my xW wanting to get back together and asking me to forgive her.

This is hard...

Georgia

I'll add....

what I told my pastor is... I think we're going to get back together. Maybe too optimistic, once she finds out about my baggage she may not want to.

But...it's a start...

Although i didn't follow your full story I do remember you well when I fist came here 16 months ago.

I have heard many times that the WS will seek reconciliation when they feel they are loosing the BS. I'm happy for you but this is going to be tough with Ann in the picture now.

B is right...A always end!

My x wanted me back too when she found out I moved on. It's very predictable and happens a lot. Do not give up a good thing (if that is what you have in Ann) for a known cheater xw.. just mho.

Stay prayerful and Listen to the Spirit...because as you know HE is working in this....

I have a question.

Since you have been divorced and are currently engaged to another woman...why did you allow this conversation to occur?

Does your fiance know that she is second choice? [by this I mean does she know that if you can work things out with your ex wife you will regardless of her investment or the promises you have made to her...she needs this info...it is unkind to string her along]

I would say that either you were not as committed to this engagment/marriage as one would hope [as was suggested and summarily dismissed when you posted your engagament announcement...that your grieving period was not over yet in which case I feel very bad for your fiance who has been little more than a diversion/tool] or you aren't getting off to a very good start with enforcing protective boundaries around the relationship.

I suprised by all the yee haws and kudos.

I am not one bit surprised by any of this....

I think Georgia knows EXACTLY what I mean...

So was I. Actually, I was disgusted.

There is A LOT more to tell about all that is going on.

Keep in mind this conversation happened last night. I haven't talked to Ann since Friday night when I left her townhouse.

Boy...I'm going to open a whole pandora's box here if I try to summarize...but I will anyway.

Under one condition...

I'm hungry..there is a Fridays in the hotel. I'm going to walk downstairs and eat while I do this...

Wifi in the hotel....

Back shortly...

I am not disgusted.

Eerie to me because this is as I would have predicted.

YOU should be disgusted as another person is going to get hurt because georgia decided to get involved in a relationship before he was truly ready to do so... and another persons life is about to be ripped out from under her... I guess it's a just a free for all in the world of infidelity. Heck, this clown is already being unfaithful to Ann. Great lessons learned huh?

The lack of morals and caring displayed on these boards someitmes is shocking.... people just trample all over others and use them... yes, use them... while waiting for something "better" to come along. Imagine poor Ann in all of this... gets dumped for the XWho... and why... because she trusted in someone to care enough for her to not let something like this happen. Poor girl.

wow..how about waiting for FACTS before jumping to conclusions...

Please?

MEDC:

You do not have the RIGHT to tell me how I SHOULD feel because it does not fit with your viewpoint.

Also, it is not OK to call GEORGIA or anyone else a CLOWN.

I do not FEEL DISGUSTED but it's perfectly OK with me if you feel that way.