LOL MEDC

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Pep -

LOL???????

Should we really bow out of the moral implications by posting what you did -

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Gee

it is actually wonderful that life offers you so many options GG

I don't see anything to be upset about
you have not done anything immoral or illegal ... you might be emotionally ahead of yourself ... but I see that is coming to an end about now

so anywho ... enjoy making this decision

REALLY

life is good is it not?

Pep

STD's.... Mimi... are you really sure YOU want to discuss STD's???????

I was REALLY just kidding in reference to the ALIENS.

I thought you guys were kidding, too.

I've made it clear many times to Georgia about the things that I think that he is doing WRONG.

IMO, this is not the worst thing that he has done.


Sorry. I certainly wouldn't want to HURT you, BELIEVER.

I am just not upset by this ... it is rather expected in my opinion

the "engagement" had temporary written all over it

it does not bother me that you find it so upsetting ... but for now, I remain frosty man, frosty

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I too Mimi, am having a difficult time discerning friendly joking fun from serious insult tossing ....

so I prefer to stay frosty ....

and just speak my piece my way

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Yeah hunny

LOL the "kool aid" remark he made

it made me laff

Pep

I don't like KOOLAID...

Anybody for Diet Green Tea..Citrus Flavor???

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In other words, LIFE'S TOO SERIOUS..NOT TO HAVE FUN!!!

kool aid leaves a red mustache

Or green..or blue..or even orange..depending on the flavor...

A three hour discussion and not once did GG ask if the xW was still in contact with the OM?

GG, were you too scared of her answer and didn't want the fantasy of getting back with your XW to end?

she is drinking my Lipton diet green tea with citrus!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> A woman of good taste! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

okay folks...I'm here..live and in Memphis.

Let me go back and read the posts....I'll be back.

GG,

U may not like what you read. Remember we come to various conclusions based on our experiences, POV and what you wrote.

If this were another person writing the same what would you think?

Step out of your shell and take a look at it from another perspective.

Don't let it hurt you, instead look at what you can learn from all those posts.

Then, go get some rest. Something tells me you got some soul searching t/d.

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L.

My goodness...I had no idea I had generated such controversy.

Again, what I am going to do right now is NOTHING! I have not talked to Ann since Friday night, I likely will talk to her sometime tomorrow.

There are way too many ? being asked here for me to try and address them all. I am troubled by the "out looking" accusation and don't understand it., really.

And...I will say that it is obvious to even me that I have made some stupid, stupid choices. I can offer evidence of the traps that a BS can fall into.

And...to even say that I have "options" I think may not reflect reality. yes, we are still engaged...but likely only because we both agreed to not have any serious discussions while she was dealing with a death and marriage concurrently. Not really a time to plan the rest of your life...

I will add this....

During the last discussion that we had, she told me that she just needs some time and "please don't give up on me".

I do not agree with the outlook that I hurt folks (women)with impunity. Nothing could be further from the truth.

And...how do you know when you are "over" xW When she calls and repents...do you just say "sorry...too late and hang up on her? I doubt any of you here have ever gotten to that point...

Again...it seems to me that WOF has the history that most closely resembles mine. And...WOF..it certainly crosses my mind as I project what a recovery with xW would really look like. Even in the discussion the other night, I heard elements of "justification"...(Well...he was depressed and he needed a friend...blah ...blah...blah), but for the first time ever intermingled with "I know how wrong that was to have such an R with another man and how much I hurt you").

So...I will go back and reread and restudy the thoughts put forth her. I am so tired I am about to fall over. The next time (if there is a next time), I'm flying...

Georgia

MEDC,

You said
Well, what puzzles me is that he did NOT ask for your advice nor anyone else which is why I have NOT told him what I thought of the situation. Yet, you seem angry and adament that he follow YOUR advice and take YOUR opinions as truth. That is what is confusing me.

As for Ann, they are engaged NOT married. Yes, he should talk with her, but he never mentioned that he would not. Yes, he should do many things in my opinion but he probably will not. It is NOT worth getting heated over.

Or as Pep. says, it is time for FROSTY. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

What is clear is that right now GG doesn't know what he wants or should do. And apparently this is true of Ann and his exW.

So you see my confusion is about your attitude not what you said. I was hoping that perhaps I missed something but apparently I did not.

God Bless,

JL

I think this situation clearly reflects the FAR-REACHING nature of our choices and decisions..both GOOD and BAD...

Georgia has been open about his mistakes..well, lately he has been open (some of us remember and know about the PA).....

I think that's taken lots of courage...

I don't think he's alone in having done things that he is not proud of...

If you read back through MY NOVEL on here, I made lots and lots of goofups and mistakes and have done many things through this that I wouldn't dare to share here or anywhere else....

I think this is a case of HUMAN NATURE and the DESTRUCTIVENESS OF AFFAIRS..which, as I said before, is FAR-REACHING....

Georgia, I think you remain a GOOD SOUL out here trying to make in this world like the rest of us....

None of us are PERFECT..

WE FALL DOWN BUT WE GET UP....

In honor of Pep and JL-my sages and mentors:

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With all due respect... if you come to a forum and publically post something.... you are bound to get opinion and advice.

I didn't ask for your opinion (but always welcome it) and yet here you are offering it. Wow... amazing how that happens huh.

And ENGAGED means committed in my opinion. If it doesn't in yours... well, that's your opinion... and now I know it.

What is apparent is that he should have been more loyal to his fiance than he showed. That is the MOST apparent thing right now.

Thanks for sharing your views.

Good morning...

I've still not heard from Ann. I do know she is back.

BTW...I have shared with my pastor all (ALL) details (which he already knew) and mentioned that will definitely be hurtful should there be a recovery. His words "there's enough sin on both sides to around".

And...by the way...I do agree that by posting here I am implying solicitation of opinions....so I have no problem with the offering of same.

I do have a problem with folks offering opinion as fact and then dismissing those who disagree with them rather than respectfully dialoging.

Those who pray...pray that I will not make any more stupid, selfish choices and have the wisdom to know.

Thanks -

Georgia