What sucks even more than spying is that feeling of your world collapsing and nausea that comes with seeing the truth, the words they say to someone else are like you don't even know them. But, be strong!! Spector kept me from looking like a total fool. Whatever your spouse is telling the other person about you, Spector reverses all that. Whether it be, "They don't love me, They don't care....." This busts their a$$e$!!! Spector says to the OP, "try messing with me again, don't think I don't know your a piece od $hit!!"

Shine,

I'm sorry, I will not expose myself, I am 2 years into my marriage, after the affair, after 15 years of marriage to my middle school sweetheart. I have 3 children. My spouse and I rose to local fame in our community. I have tried very hard to conceal my situation. I have tried not to reveal whether I am male or female, although I'm sure I've slipped. Would someone consumed with sales go to all this trouble, or is this a clue as to someone who really was devastated by an affair. I feel no obligation to meet your challenge. As I've said before, Spector exposed the affair....so why would I let other people be blind. After waking up at 3AM in the morning one night, and checking the computer, my world crashed down and I was speechless and shaking. Then Spector gave me knowledge of deception that I did not know was possible, I knew then that I must know and others as well. I'm sorry of your suspiscion, but it is not my concern. As you can see, there are a lot of other people here who are also giving info. about what they've used. Is this a plan? I think not. I believe a lot of people here choose to remain anonymous, count me in. As a after the affair, I chose to limit the damage to my family via exposure, it would seem wise to do the same now. There's also this nagging feeling that the pther person is getting off on this, you seem like them. Does this sound consistent with someone who has been betrayed? Although I can assure you that I have been absolutely devastated, lost 20 pounds, drank myself into being naked on the floor, wanted death, did not eat for 4 days, then only small amounts, I cannot assume my words will convince you, nor do I care. The same goes for your words of apology if you intend to do so, don't bother, please. Oh yeah, Radio Shack is not the place for software, right? Sorry, for the sales pitch.

All blessings,
Me

Shine,

Doing some research; in looking at the responses of this post, most are thankful, except you. Then I went and looked at your posts (since you say, "You don't post here very often", over 250 times) and found that most of your posts are critical, critical about gramer (did you see that?), demeaning and overall acting superior. Then I looked at my posts, which are consistent with what I've said all along. Also, obvious is my advice for some, which were half of my posts before this one, was to leave their mate, this would not be good for sales, now would it? I only post this response to you because you have attempted to discredit me and damage my reputation and integrity. I've had that done enough, thanks again. Now, for the sake of others here, and their lack of interest in our dispute, and since our personality's obviously clash. Please don not communicate with me anymore, as I will not communicate with you no matter how you try to taunt me. I do not have to justify my existence here or anywhere else. Wherify phones are not WiFi either. Best of luck to you.

All Blessings?
Me

Well, I spent about an hour replying to you and it got lost in cyberspace and became no longer valid.

the short version is you have my heartfelt apology. I reconned you to be a troll on this forum.

Developz, get some help from the wonderful people that populate this forum. Open up and tell your story of pain and devastation that has been heaped upon you.

Hate me if you will, but I don't feel the same. I've been there and done that.
Please accept my heartfelt apolgy, and I will understand if you don't.

Much more to say but may become lost as was the last hour long reply I had to you. Guess I got timed out.

Belive it or not, I'm on your side!
Jerry

Jerry,

I rehashed this, fought, battled, cried, yelled, sought revenge and basically tortured my spouse and I everyday for 1.5 years. My story is just not something I want to rehash. For me, at this point, I have learned that "I must go forward." An affair has taught me so much. The lessons I've learned is what I have to offer here. The things I wish I would have known then, can be said now. But, not everything I have to say can be heard by new victims. I have to chose what I should say carefully. I take a huge responsibility in influencing someone's marriage, HUGE!! I feel that I would be guilty of sin if I misled them.

I will consider what you've said about telling my story. It would be helpful to know why you think it would be important to others. You see, if I told my story, let's say I get support and sympathy, then I will then get angry at my spouse again because "I was right, see!!" It's just not good for me. Now, if the purpose was to convince others that they are not alone, there are so many stories here for that. In telling you this, I realized I could tell my story to inspire people because we made it, but it would be hard for the people that didn't and some shouldn't. I think if I do it, I'll post it in "Just Found Out," so that people will know they are not alone, in fact that will be the title.

I do accept your apology, thank you for it. You are completely forgiven, do not think about it again, ok?

One more thing I've learned is, after talking with so many people, getting great advice, reading many books, I realized the decision is mine based on feelings only I know. I only want to help people make that decision with the information they deserve. I don't want to influence anyone to stay either and they look back, cheated on once again, and they say, "Why did I get inspired by idiot dveloperz, I should have listened to my little voice, I knew it."

dveloperz,
Thanks for accepting my apology. I truly mean that. I thought about you all day at work and felt horrible that I had injected more pain into someone's life, whose obviously seen enough for a lifetime. I'm just more pig-headed than the average bear. Ask anyone here, the'll tell you(LOL).

It takes a big heart to forgive, and sounds to me like you've got all the right tools.

Great job in your recovery. Keep it up.

All Blessings,
Jerry

It does suck but it is the only way you will know the truth. I found out everything also by using spector. Stuff I probably never would have known otherwise.

dveloperz -

Wow, the GPS phone is a good one, and very reasonably priced, considering the price of gas. I drove around trying to catch WH for almost 6 months before D-day. Then when he promised NC, did it again.

Much, much easier to stay home sitting at the computer, staying out of traffic, catching them in the act.

I LOVE IT!!!!!!

This is exactly how I felt when I saw all the notes. Spector is great for knowing but, make sure you really want to know. All the emails as well as I saw his lookups of poems for her (17 pages). Which made me sick. Spector is really the best out there to watch on the pc. He has several anti-spyware tools on his pc also, so I had to make sure that Spector would not be found. Tested it they didn't detect Spector its so good. The did detect another spywar tho. This is is illegal to put on your pc without your spouse knowing BTW.

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