How long would it take to forget? What if they continue the relationship again?!
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There's NC right?

Your wife has to be totally honest with you... be tranparent, and trust will come, takes long.

This pain will fade with time... or not... but you can divorce at any time.

Now concentrate on RECOVERING, that means, fill the questionaries with your wife, meet each others EN.
Think of the great future you two can have if you both fight for it.

All you want is to have a family, that's good. Be strong I am a BS I know how hard it is.

Be honest with her about feeling bad, or when you have triggers and or fears... comunication.

The new baby might be making you feel "trapped" or tied up... don't let it happen. It's not the best time, but whatever happens he'll be as good as your other children.

Believer - Nope, I always want to have 2 kids with I grow old and bald. So, not giving up the baby, is my baby.

Is there a way to speed up the "forgeting" process? I really love my wife very much but sometimes the bad feeling is stopping me from loving her 100%.

Is so sad that after 6 years of marriage, I have no sweet memories to treasure, and only future to look forward. How to complete a life without the past, everything that happen today needs the past as the foundation. It is so unfair, I work so hard to built this family and someone can just wrecked it for their own pleasure. How could people be so irresponsibility?!?! I hate the OM!!!!!!

I have a piece of information that could ruin the OM's career. Is about the things he did without his employer's knowledge and it is against the law in our country. I have it for the last 2 months and doesn't know what to do with it. I want to forget about the whole thing and throw it away but as the same time, I want to report to the authority about his wrongdoing as he breaks my family into pieces.

I know what is the right thing to do but the bad thing will make me happy. I really hate the person I turn into today!

still unsure what to do with the documents.....