I do not think he will hurt me physically. He has never touched me or the children - ever. He leaves the house before he would do that type of thing.
I feel like I have demanded respect in the past several, several times, for years off and on and he literally just does what he wants to do regardless of my feelings. I have kept a log for 2 years of inappropriate parenting in case of divorce (no, not a great MB thing to do) and re-reading it convinces me more that D is the only way to go. You tend to forget the levels of conflict you had once you hit a better period. This period definitely qualifies as the worst.
I do not want the children here when I expose him. But I do not know how to work teh timing. I know I can't tell him I know anything until his D papers are served. Do I make sure I'm there when they are served? Then we discuss it? Do I call him from somewhere and set a time to discuss it? Do I pack his clothes up and have them down at his mom's house the day I know he is getting served? I do NOT want him packing in anger or me packing his stuff up with my 5 year old around. That would be traumatic. But at the same time it would be traumatic for her to come home and find his closet empty and a lot of stuff gone (they share a closet).
And our DD's birthday is in less than 2 weeks <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />. I really do want to wait until after her birthday at the very least. But is that just living in denial? And then there's Christmas and I don't want to emotionally mess up christmas for forever for my oldest DD. So do I try to just do Plan A until after Christmas? I am really confused about all this. I am trying to live in Plan A as much as possible right now while all these decisions are going on. I literally repeated to myself today that I could not control him, to not react, to just make small talk, etc.
