I could use a little help here from the women…..


What would be appropriate gift ideas for a lady friend whom I have been dating approximately 2 months?


One of my guy friends said ear rings. When I said I felt that was too “serious”, he said that considering our ages (thirty-something’s) and income levels, a $100 or so gift is pretty much the norm. It’s not the dollar amount at all, but the inference of jewelry. It seems, like as I said, a “serious” type gift for someone who has only been dating several weeks.


I mean, even if you feel totally infatuated with someone, like they are just the best, 2 months is still not a very long time.


But then again, what do I know? I am so far behind the times that it is not funny. Seriously, it is not funny, it stinks!

Oh yeah, some additional information. She owns a company that produces spa and skin type products, so a gift basket of Bath & Body Works type stuff wouldn’t be an option.


I am probably over-analyzing this whole deal.


I want to get her something nice, but not something that is going to freak her out. Does that make sense?


So, any suggestions?
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I am not a lady, so heed my advice with care.. But, how seriously have you been dating her? "Two months" can mean anything from a couple of dates to where my ex and I were at that point, i.e. engaged <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />. So, that is an important piece of data you haven't given us.

Having said that, I think earrings are fine for either extreme or anything in between. If it's been a couple of dates, give her the $5 Claire's stuff (kidding!!), if it's serious, go for the 1ct diamonds <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />.

Aren't you glad you asked?

AGG

In that case......
Can I be your GF AGG? Can I, Can I , Huh? Huh?

And I'm not talking the Claires purchase either!

K.

TD~
I'm not good at this stuff either, but I'll give it a shot.

What about a certificate for a massage?
I think I'm with you on the earrings though. Unless you're totally over the top with her, I think it's kind of soon.
Does she like wine? How about a nice basket made up with some nice stuff in it/ornament? {I like Lenox myself}

See, now, this is exactly why we don't start dating someone near the Holidays. J/K!

We'll see what the other gals come up with.
Good Luck!

K.

I think the earrings are a bit much. Even if you do feel head over heels in love you know it's infatuation (ask AGG) at this point, even if you don't want to admit that.

I like Karona's idea of a gift cert for a massage. I shows you've thought of her comfort. Also, the basket with wine & nice gourmet goodies is a good idea. Make it more personal with things she's told you she really likes or that you've shared & enjoyed.

Does she exercise? Does she have a favorite store or type of item she considers an indulgence to buy for herself?

You know you have to let us know what you buy, right?

I would have thought that a massage is more intimate than earrings <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Shows what I know...

AGG

I didn't mean for him to give it to her AGG. I meant, someone else.
Do you still think it's too personal?

I think the earrings would make me feel guilty/funny this soon though.

Very key, listen to her likes! She will be most amazed when you show up with one of them. It's all about the details!

K.

LOL AGG!!!

I'm with Karona on the this one. Earrings are not appropriate YET and I'm not too sure about the massage gift certificate AGG might be right on that. The wine basket is a very nice idea. Does she collect anything? What about certificates to the garage where she has her oil changed and things like that? Nice leather gloves?? Certificate to her favorite restaurant??

Let us know what you finally decide. And get extras for us girls! lol

Yes, I understood <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

An orchid, on the top of a nicely wrapped box
and in the box... a candle, and various oils for massage, bath minerals...
And if you can use them too, no wasted money at all <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

It depends on the girl and occasion. Birthday or Christmas?

If she has lots of coworkers, have some flowers delivered to her work for a birthday. Not roses-too early. Not carnations=cheap. It makes a gal feel great (and you look good) for all her coworkers to come by and drool over her beautiful flowers and wonderful boyfriend.

For Christmas, pick something that shows you notice her. For example: an addition to a collection she has, DVD of a movie she likes, CD with a song that the two of you like, tickets to an upcoming event that you can share.

A woman wants to feel like she matters to you. It's not the $$ of the present but the thought that goes into it.

Don't just sign a card. Always add a handwritten note.

BF and I started dating at the end of Oct....when Christmas came around he cooked a beautiful meal and gave me a DVD and a CD. It was very thoughtful and it meat alot to me.

I'm not big on gift certificates, gift cards, etc unless it is for someone that I hardly know. Giving gift certificates pretty much always looks like you either don't know the person well enough to pick out a gift, or aren't interested in putting that kind of time or effort into it. JMO.

I like a gift that shows that he pays attention. What interests her? Once, I got a book from a guy I was dating. It was rather obscure and I had only mentioned it once but he remembered. I was touched. It wasn't the dollar amount that impressed me, it was that I knew he actually listened to me and cared about what I like.

Buying present for people is alway tricky at best, even with our SO that we have know for years. Taste and style changes in people but after 2 months you should know some of her likes and dislikes. Go with your feeling and heart and you might hit the spot! Anyway, if she likes you, anything from you would be appreciated!

But again, this is from a man's point of view! And what the ****** do we know???LOL

A cashmere scarf

TD, this is only proper answer to your (this kind of) question.

So, have you listened?

Yes, if it's with heart and feeling it can't fail!!
But when buying for men, a little logic for spice doesn't hurt!LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I agree, the earrings are way too personal at this stage and if your lady friend is anything like me,I am very picky about jewelry.

If you respond back soon we may be able to narrow it down.How much have you been dating in the 2 months and like was mentioned, what's the occasion?

Oh man.

Just break up with her and get back together after Valentine's day. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

... unless her birthday is in March in which case you can get back together in April. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

OK, really. If she cares about you, she will accept whatever you give graciously - and if she does not, maybe you just should break up with her and not get back together in April.

-AD

Is she a fan of ovies or television? If so, a "collection" DVD set or maybe a collection set of her favorite music artist on CD. How about tickets to a play and dinner? Do you live in a cold climate? A cashmere scarf is an awesome gift, as are leather gloves.
I agree with AGG, it depends on what kind of relationship yours has been for 2 months.