I am confused about the fog business also. I believe that the ws will say and do anything to justify his/her actions. my husband hid an affair for almost 30 years. now he is dishonest (I think) about an emotional affair this year. I think they hide and lie because they don't want the accountability or wrath. They don't want to Pay for what they have done. My husband keeps saying , I just want this to be over and we can be husband and wife again, yet radical honesty is not there.