Kinda like two thirds of the King Ranchers in Houston.

Guy Smiley, how 'bout that update?

Aw, Fox, you're so sweet. Thanks for digging out my thread.

Okay, so when last we left our hero, he had agreed to surrender his Sunday of Memorial Day weekend on the condition that the evil OM not come along on whatever trip the Sippy Cup Queen (SCQ) elected to take with the kids. Our hero knew full well that WSs are liars and that they would probably do whatever they wanted despite any agreement made, but he figured he had covered his bases as best he could by standing up to the madness, even if it was only symbolic.

Thursday rolls around, and no indication has come from the SCQ about travel plans. Further, DS7 does not know anything about a trip. Guy Smiley is tempted to ask Her Majesty where they will be going, but then he steps into a phone booth and changes into Super Dark Guy. Super Dark Guy knows about technology and figures he can communicate with DS7 and DD3 via the kid cell phone (they have indicated that they want him to do this). And so our hero drops off his kids on Friday morning, wishing them a great trip.

Guy Smiley gets a call from DS7 Friday evening. DS7 has visited Super Dark Guy's Fortress of Solitude in an attempt to retrieve his baseball mitt but couldn't find it, and is it perhaps in the Smileymobile? Why, yes, says Smiley, it is, but the Smileymobile is in the shop until Saturday morning. Would DS7 like to have it then? DS7 says yes, but Smiley receives an email from the SCQ later saying not to worry about it, because she will get him a second glove. Confused, Smiley attempts calling DS7 on the kid cell phone, but no one answers.

After the Smileymobile has been rescued from the shop, Smiley tries calling DS7 on the cell phone but there is no answer. He tries again later Saturday evening and still gets no answer. Finally, he calls the SCQ's affair phone and gets no answer. He leaves a message. On Sunday morning, he tries again. Nothing. He leaves another message (I don't know where you are, I can't get through to the kids, please have them call me).

Our hero spends Sunday evening hanging out with neighbors, consuming adult beverages and grilled edibles. Super Dark Guy brought marinated shrimp. Mmmm, shrimp. When Guy Smiley gets home, he has a text message from the Queen (Just got VM, poor reception in mountains, kids are fine). Guy Smiley is a little chafed that the Queen has not informed him where she has gone and has apparently taken them somewhere without good cell phone coverage. Guy Smiley wonders offhand if maybe there isn't a reason why the SCQ doesn't want the kids talking to him while on the trip. To avoid this unhelpful line of thinking, he changes into Super Dark Guy and shakes it off by spending his Extra Day sleeping late, playing softball with the neighbors, and taking a walk on the beach (which was cut short due to the influence of adult beverages consumed while playing softball).

A remarkably good weekend, all things considered.

Today is the party for DS7's baseball team. Super Dark Guy will pick up DS7 and play in the coaches vs kids game (it will have to be Super Dark Guy, because Guy Smiley is still sore from softball yesterday), to be followed by the party. He wonders whether the Queen will show her face at the party. He is determined not to pump DS7 for details about who was on the trip--he knows he can do this, because he is Super Dark Guy!

GREAT story...you have an amazing abiity to tint everything with humor...I am happy that you can vent that way!!!

Super Dark Guy to the rescue!!! (swelling, heroic music in the background!)

I need everyone around me to let me be dark...I get sucked into thinking about what BDS is thinking/doing, having nasty gossip fests about him..I HATE gossip...makes me very angry...WHERE IS THAT PHONEBOOTH!!!!???

Yer funnee!

You sound really good. Could have been a big trigger and you handled it well.

What must the waywards think when they STILL have to sneak around behind the BS back even after the A is out in the open? You'd think they would feel like little kids hiding candy behind their backs so Mom and Dad didn't know. If they think there is nothing wrong with what they are doing, why sneak? 'Cause they knows it's wrong.

I'm playing the same game with WH. He had DDs this weekend and had a "surprise" for them. They went out of town on Saturday night....to the same hot springs I took them to a couple of weeks ago. He took Bab's and her DS7, too. DDs were NOT happy with this "surprise". I called them a few times and they didn't answer their cell phones. Payback for when he can't get a hold of them, I guess. Oh well, I didn't let on it bothered me, just left cheery message telling them I hoped they were having fun with Dad.

Glad to hear you had some relaxation, too. Carry on Guy Smiley, Super Dark Guy, and whomever else is helping you! YOU CAN DO THIS!

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Guy Smiley rides again! Good job!

I have aching hamstrings from doing some yard work, heavy lifting and weed pulling.

I didn't have as stellar a time at my cookout, as Wonder Woman and her sister, Super Girl, were at odds.

I love the sippy cup link, Chris, you rock!

LMAO...OF all things to find, Chris...YOU find it! Good Job MAN!

SDguy...amazing, JUST amazing! I'm so proud of YOU! Major Kudos! For consuming large qualities of adult beverages...LOL...I can't...so I'm told! LMAO

It's NOT a cajun lie!

Raise your hand if you thought the SCQ would keep to "her word" about not taking the kids on a trip with OM. <Surveys the room> Uh-huh. You can keep the ITYS's to yourself, thank you very much. Super Dark Guy knew what was going to happen, even if Guy Smiley was holding out some hope.

So Guy Smiley picks up DS7 for the big parent-kid baseball game, and it takes DS7 all of 90 seconds to tell Guy Smiley that he went on a trip to a cabin in Lake Arrowhead over the weekend, and, um, yes, OM was there. Along with OM's brother and maybe OM's mom, too. They all drove up together in one car, including OM's kids. Guy Smiley seethes, but he's not surprised by this. He manages to tell DS7 that he's glad that DS7 had a good time. It slips out that the SCQ had told Guy Smiley that OM would not be on the trip, and so Guy Smiley was angry about that, but that DS7 didn't do anything wrong, and Guy is happy that he had a good time.

On the drive to the game, our intrepid adventurer's head races with all the things he wants to say. "You must be very proud of yourself." "I guess we know what your word is worth, don't we?" "Did you know you were lying to me at the time when you gave me your word, or did you decide later?" "Why didn't you just tell me where you were going and what you were doing? Better to let your son do it, right? Where he will be faced with his father getting angry? Nice parenting there, you gutless coward." Smiley realizes that saying any of these things could lead to an impromptu Plan FU (and man, wouldn't THAT feel good) and knows that . . . this is a job for Super Dark Guy.

IHC, it's not a complicated costume change--Southern California is very casual, and Super Dark Guy has seen the Incredibles, so he avoids capes--typically just putting on a different denim shirt (not black, though, because those are too hot) or sometimes just sunglasses. Anyway, Super Dark Guy takes over and has a really good time at the baseball game. For a superhero, he is awfully slow on the bases and makes some really bad throws, but a good time is had by all.

Triggering again when the Queen calls to find out whether she should pick up DS7 at the game or will Guy Smiley drop him off. Super Dark Guy doesn't answer the phone, of course, and refuses to call back, so the SCQ comes to the ballpark (she is strategically late enough that the post-game party will have broken up), and Super Dark Guy has to see her for the kid exchange (and because he wants to hug DD3). Our hero refrains from asking DD3 (in the presence of Her Royal Highness) what she did over the weekend or why she didn't call and just tells her how much he missed her. He is very cool toward the SCQ and says nothing to her.

Then Guy Smiley retreats to the Smileymobile and calls Mr. and Mrs. Smiley (Hi, Mom!) to vent. After that, back to the Fortress of Solitude, where his company is his faithful sidekick, the Fearsome Siamese Kitten (will you PLEASE stop biting my leg?). The FSK is desperate to make a contribution to this post (23333333333). Tonight is probably a Xanax night, but not tomorrow. Super Dark Guy is trying to Let It Go, and doing a reasonable job, he thinks.

Sigh. Life (and Plan B) goes on.
00000 (there goes FSK again)

Well, sorry that happened. Does OM's mother know that SCQ is married?

You did an excellent job with your son. He is lucky to have you for a father. It is good that he can talk to you truthfully.

I'm sure she knew ahead of time that OM was going. These WS's have no conscience.

(((((Smiley))))

You DID a Fabulous job...I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this...

Hi, FSK...Great typing! Love on your daddy for us! will You?

Super Dark Guy...

I like the costume...it fits you SO well! I have to give you your Kudos...you changed in a flash...that high road will get you everytime!

Do you ahve a lawyer? I was wondering if you could draw something up that says that it's not allowed to have sleepovers with OM...I ask because we can do that here...

I wish you the very best night's sleep that you can muster up...what a day you have had...be kind to yourself!

Supporting you all the way!

Rin

I was gonna post something, but FSK said it all.



Number of lies told by SCQ.



SCQ's cool points.

Your cat is a very good judge of character. It's also Asian which means it's very good at math, hence writing in numbers.

Does it know binary?

So I woke up this morning to the depressive thought flood, and I don't have any appetite (Hello, Ensure) but am otherwise okay. I'm determined to obsess over this as little as possible.


According to OMW, yes. OMW was also told by OM's mother that SCQ would never be accepted by his family, but we all know about blood and mud. And it's hard to know what to trust from OMW. Apparently, she is mentally ill enough that OM has been awarded full legal and physical custody of their children.


Yep. The beauty of no-fault states. "The court won't interfere in her personal life. Without evidence that the kids are being put in danger, I am SOL." is basically what I heard from both my lawyer and the court-appointed mediator.

Thanks for the support, guys.

Guy Smiley, you KNEW that she was lying, 'cause her lips were moving...

It still hurts, I know, and I only experienced a teensy amount of this when PWC was living with Aimless, but the feeling doesn't just fade. I felt like my child was in danger. Crazy thought process, but that's what it felt like. I had nightmares that PWC and Aimless tied me up while I was asleep and then took my son away from me. It was horrible, and won't soon be forgotten. I am super protective of DS, you guys know that, probably due to my upbringing in a fractured home.

You are doing all that you can, and it is close to unbearable to read your post and not fly out there and punch your WW in the jaw. So selfish, the fuel of waywardom. So shortsighted, that even the best glasses or surgery cannot help them.

What do they say?..."I know what I'll do, I'll introduce the kids to my OP so that we can be one big happy, and I'll show everybody that this IS love, and that BS really isn't the one for me, although we did produce these kids together, and I disrespect him/her as a parent everytime I expose the children to MY stupid mistakes, but, oh well, such is MY life..." or something shortsighted like that. ERRRRRR, just pisses me off, guy.

You, on the other hand, are a wonderful father, taking such good care of your children, working on your own personal problems. You know what?, you are going to be just fine. You can do this, Plan B, y'know. You will get through this better than before.

Now, drink the Ensure...drink it!

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You know, I think I'm onto something with the split personality thing. Guy Smiley is the nice, trusting, hopeful guy who wants to reconcile his marriage because he believes the wonderful person he married is still in there. He still thinks thoughts like "If only she would. . ." and wants to do something to make it better. Super Dark Guy understands the reality of the affair--that W is gone, replaced by SCQ, and while W may wake up some day, there's just about nothing he can do to bring make it happen. He knew that SCQ was lying and knows that there is no point in talking to her about anything and that a dark Plan B is the way to go.

Call me crazy. This will give me something new to discuss with my IC, anyway. Here's another advantage:

While shopping on Saturday, Guy Smiley bought a new tube of epoxy (glue). His old tube of epoxy had been misplaced, and after looking all over h#ll and back, he decided to just get a new tube. Smiley needed to repair FSK's feather toy in an attempt to preserve his legs (FSK is a sidekick much like Cato in the old Pink Panther movies--she waits around corners to ambush him). So our hero bought the epoxy, and it was sitting on the kitchen table (amid quite a bit of other stuff). Throughout the weekend, he sees the epoxy several times on the table. Last night, he decides to glue the feather toy back together and goes to get the epoxy, but it's gone. He looks around--Smiley cleaned up the kitchen but doesn't remember having moved the epoxy. It's not in any of the places he would have put it (he looks four or five times). He even goes out to the trash and sorts through the kitchen trash (dead bananas, excess marinade--yuck) to make sure he didn't accidentally throw it away. No luck. The epoxy has vanished. "Aha," Guy Smiley thinks. "It must have been Super Dark Guy. . . ."

Now THAT's crazy.

LMAO...LMAO...OMG, I have had those days! LMAO

I'm dieing laughing here! I have had a good laugh like that in awhile...

YOU, dear sir, ARE A NUT! And I'm proud to know you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I agree with SL, YOU are going to be just FINE!

One of my cats, Oscar, used to ambush me on the stairs; he would rush my ankles and bite them and bat at them (his previous caretaker had him declawed). Maybe you should have named the kitty Cato...

Guy Smiley...I am sorry you had a rough weekend and start to this week.

Super Dark Guy...I applaud you.

Ya know I am closer then sl...I actually could take on the SCQ!!!!

Maybe SDG could "help" BDS out and I could "help" the SCQ. We would both have some pent up aggression to release...LOL.

I have been thinking this week was a bad one, but now I am ready to swing back into the normal "LIFE IS GOOD" mode that I had gotten used to.

Too many triggers, too close together = ROUGH week.

You ARE a great dad...putting your children first...AMAZING!

Fresh trigger as I drove to pick up kids and realized that the SCQ lied to our daycare provider and the kids as well. When the SCQ picked up the kids on Friday, she told all of them that she still didn't know where they were going. Then, of course, she didn't tell our provider where they had been when she dropped them off again (our provider is chatty and wants to know the details about our trips)--our provider had to get the details from DD3.

"If what you're doing is so appropriate, why do you have to lie about it?" "Wow, you're so much better off now. You must really enjoy talking to your friends about your new life."

Venting. Trying to get this chit out of my system so I can enjoy my kids. And FSK.