Knock, Knock.

Where are you?

Hmmmm, well I see Chris has responded to my Bat Signal! So where's Super Dark Guy?

Your response should be that of super hero Larry Boy (from veggie tales)

I AM THAT HERO....

Ya know, every time you "arrive" to MB.

Okay...he's taken this "Super Dark Guy" thing a BIT too seriously....

The suggestion was to go a bit darkER...not go into a black hole.

Sorry, guys. Busy weekend, and I'm still tired. Friday was DD4's birthday, so when I picked up the kids Friday night, we went out for dinner. DD4 got to choose, so it was a delicious meal at the International House of Pancakes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Surviving making the career day presentation after the FBI agents obviously went to my head, so on Saturday I had a birthday party for DD4. We only invited three little girls from the neighborhood (our daycare provider had one for her on Friday, too), but, still--single dad has birthday party for 4-year old girls. I had activities. I made gift bags. I made cupcakes, and the adults raved about them. First, they said that they were impressed I had made cupcakes, but then after they tried them they seriously complimented them and asked about the recipe. I am not making this up. Getting ready for the party (house-cleaning) and trying to keep DS7 from imploding under the pressure of not being the center of attention led to serious exhaustion Saturday night.

After a late start on Sunday we went to Legoland and had a pretty good time, but tiring. When we got back "we" started packing for them to go beach-camping with our daycare provider (T), an incredibly nice lady who has basically become extended family. The packing exercise extended into Monday morning, but I got them dropped off and had a productive day at work. Today I had jury duty but didn't get a case.

So, it was five straight days with the kids for me, followed by the two days camping with T. Then they were to come back to me for Wednesday and Thursday, and then we leave for the Outer Banks for over a week. This means that the SCQ would have gone something like 17 days without seeing the kids. And she didn't complain or ask for additional time. But my son did. He told me that his heart drooped when she dropped him off and he realized how long it would be (and then my heart drooped). At his request, I reached out to the SCQ and asked her if she wanted some additional time, so she's picking the kids up Wednesday (FSK says ;hp[p[) and keeping them overnight. Super Dark Guy isn't real happy about this, but Guy Smiley is pretty sure this was the right thing to do. The kids aren't in Plan B.

Emotions bouncing around--from angry to indifferent to her returning to confident that she will want to come back some day.

Thanks for checking in! I think I'm doing pretty well.

I would have chosen IHOP too <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

A new one: Super Daddy Guy.

He's the one who bakes cupcakes and throws birthday parties for 4yo girls AND takes them to Legoland AND takes the kids camping.

Glad you checked in. And once again, this one hit me between the eyes:
I hear ya.

Good Gugamooga! You are Super Dad! Incredible! I bow to you...

Thanks!

Sis, I was trying to get caught up on your thread and saw where you had the urge to DO something like call WH. I fight that one, right down to the urge to call the SCQ and try to reason with her. She's also a very passive person, so I was interested in what Mulan had to say. I'm still a couple of pages behind, though.

Glad to see you back, amigo. Sounds like you did great with the birthday party. Don't doubt for a minute that you can raise your children by yourself. It isn't easy as a couple (believe me, teenagers are tough!), let alone when you are single. But it can be done, and done well. You're a great dad, don't let anyone tell you different. The proof will be in the amazing people your children become. Day to day can be rough, remember that this isn't forever. They will continue to learn and grow, just as you will.

Making cupcakes? I thought that was what the bakery was for. Dude, you have to be careful; you are embarrassing the rest of us dads here.

Hmmmmm…..impressing the women by baking cupcakes…..BRILLIANT!!

Heh. That's how scattered I was. I don't think it even occur to me to *buy* the cupcakes.

Another frantic day trying to finish up stuff at work and now packing because we leave on vacation tomorrow. No time to post. Maybe from the beach. The other one.

Take care.

Have a wonderful time, guy! Hope you get a well deserved break from the monotony of Plan B, and let your mind be at ease for a week.

ENJOY!!!!

sdguy, how u b? Hope you are having a great time on vacation! Post when you can.

Fox

Hey, Fox

The vacation is great. I've been very busy doing, um, well, not much at all. Sleep late. Wander down to the beach with the kids. Eat. Read. Take the kayak out and see if we can get out amongst the dolphins. Drink. Eat some more. Watch my kids play with their cousins and aunts and uncles and grandparents. Going multiple hours at a time without thinking about my marriage.

I overheard my son talking on the cell phone with the SCQ the other night, and he was questioning her about where she was and who she was with. It was clear that she was being elusive with her answers. DD4 didn't want to talk to her--she said no when offered the phone. She told me a few minutes ago that she missed her and wished she was here, though. I told her I missed her, too.

I'm doing well at leaving all this stuff behind. If I post it here, I don't have to think about it anymore. No one is talking to me about it, although I have always been open about it.

I hope everyone is having a good week. It sounds like Chris is.

Having family there to help with the kids will help you get some much needed R&R. When I was there, I was with my son most of the time, so I didn't get as much me time, but I enjoyed it no less, just differently. I look forward to some time without my son, to just be silentlucidity, not mommy. I haven't had that in what is years at this point.

I hope you have a relaxing time.

That was the best part of Plan B!!

Have a great vacation Amigo. Give me a call when you get home. I have a story to tell.

Stories can be emailed, too, y'know...and cc'd to others...y'know...