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Strivn4Better #1783478 12/05/07 08:42 AM
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SD,

A little secret on keeping the kitten from attacking.... get another kitten. They will play with each other. It really has helped in our house. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Now we just have two kittens to attack the christmas tree when it goes up <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I wonder how many decorations will become casualties.

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MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
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Retrouvaille 9/04
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My cats used to eat the tensil, and that is an odd sight when you are cleaning the litter box (not to mention dangerous). I stopped using tensil for that reason alone. My cat likes to play with the ornaments on the lower brances, so I don't hang anything really valuable down there.

We did have a couple occassions of our cats CLIMBING the tree!

And, Still is right (Hi Still!), if you have two kitties, they tend to keep eachother occupied.


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Hi Silent,

TJ.... just wante d to let you know how well you are doing. Someday I hope to be in the same shoes...speaking of shoes have you found ant yo match your dress?

JF done.

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DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
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MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
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TJ going on...

I found a lovely pair of shoes, but am unsure. I will probably hit a store this weekend just to be sure.

About hoping to be IN my shoes; I would hope to be in sexymamabears shoes. She did it right. Her FWH (tst) is doing it right. They are following MB and finding it much easier to learn the necessary communication, under strict guidance.

My M recovery will probably take lots more time. I'm not thrilled with this, but it is what it is...

TJ over, AGAIN.


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Silent,

You are right... right now I would like to be in some sort of recovery. But SMB is the way to go if it ever happens to me.

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Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
Moved out (him) weekend after labor day
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Yeah, that's what PWC said...

Funny! If only that were my problem.

The shoes--are they the ones you linked? Just curious.

I've had two cats before. I think you get a different relationship with your cat(s) depending upon whether you have one or two. I like the relationship I have--it's just that she has so much energy!

Thanks for stopping by, Still. Haven't seen you around for a while.

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My cats used to eat the tensil

We had a cat that would eat the tinsil then would do one of those classic cat freak out sessions when it was hanging out the wrong end.

I think that was the same cat who once horked up a really nasty hairball into one of Wayzilla's dress heels.

Good Cat!


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We had a cat that would eat the tinsil then would do one of those classic cat freak out sessions when it was hanging out the wrong end.


OMG! The image that creates! hahaha!

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I had forgotten about the Lambada with the tinsil. That is a joy to watch.


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SD.

I have been around just keeping updated on everyone else. Have been thinking of updating my thread.

Just so much to say... well you know how it is.

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DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
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MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
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I had forgotten about the Lambada with the tinsil. That is a joy to watch.

Less joy to clean up after.

I guess that's one I'll have to get used to. We had an unspoken division of labor. I was in charge of insect [spider] control. The SCQ was in charge of irregular bodily emissions (including kids projectile vomiting).

I'm told that you get used to it, and that if you have to throw up yourself in order to be able to clean it up, well, that's okay, too.

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My freezer in the garage got unplugged a couple weeks ago and by the time I found out, it was hideous. There was about an inch of stinking goo in the bottom and I literally had to control my gag reflex as I washed it out in the driveway. Yuck!

Well at least DD19.975 is accountable for her own flying phlegms now.

The glorious single life!


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I'm told that you get used to it, and that if you have to throw up yourself in order to be able to clean it up, well, that's okay, too


BLAHAHAHHAHAHHA!!!! I'm in that boat with cha'! LOl

Chris, I feel you on that one too! That was the largest things I ever saw moving around! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Probably the only thing in life that I can NOT handle! insect, bugs, snakes, etc...I'm cool! YUCK!


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chrisner, that makes two disgusting stories you've posted tonight; first the one on Foxy's thread and now the refrigerator nastiness. You are grossing me out! Gag me with a spoon! (Do the girlies still talk like that out your way, guy?)


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Can't answer. I'm too busy barfing out.

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I got cranky this afternoon. Probably it's a touch of sleep deprivation. Or maybe two hours at the dentist.

Tomorrow I turn 40. I *had* been having a bit of fun speculating on whether the SCQ would acknowledge it at all. But not the way that sounds. Not in the desperate-for-some-sign-of-caring way, but rather the what-is-that-curious-thing-over-there-and-what-will-it-do way. Will she have helped the kids shop for me? Will she actually say something?

Anyway, it was fun for a while, but with the mood shift, all I want to say to her is Go ***** yourself.

I'm celebrating by having lunch with a bunch of former colleagues tomorrow, doing a happy hour on Friday with neighbors, and the kids and I will go out for dinner tomorrow and maybe put up and decorate the tree. And maybe I'll work in a massage. Plus, if the weather is good, I'm going to do the paragliding thing on Saturday.

Wait, that sounds pretty good to me. Why am I cranky?

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****HAPPY BIRTHDAY*******

The BIG 4-0??!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Just a number,,,,,right?! Lol!


What time is paragliding scheduled????!!!!

Celebrate YOU for the day and the weekend!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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Happy Birthday sdguy, thank goodness you are older than me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I don't turn 40 til June!

This is YOUR day, your milestone...do not ruin it by making it about a WS. You are a wonderful man, with wonderful children, who should be proud of his accomplishlments.

Don't give her this power sdguy, you deserve better.


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ROCKIN, Guy! Happy Pre Birthday to you!

It sounds like you've got lots of fun coming your way, which is nice! Good for you not thinking on the SCQ too much; it's your day.

Judging from what you posted, you sound like one blessed man.

Oh, and I don't turn 40, until the year 2012 <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />


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Thanks, All.

I think maybe I've been down because this seems like one of those Significant Days, like I should make some kind of decision about something. But I'm going to push that away (really not too hard) and enjoy the day.

A co-worker made me a big plate of brownies (with peanut butter). Yum.

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Just a number,,,,,right?!

Yeah, but I've noticed over the past week or so that I feel more physically, um, challenged? Maybe just psychosomatic. Instead of old and broken down, I think I will refer to myself as weathered and broken in.

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and I don't turn 40, until the year 2012

Well. . . I mean . . . but I . . . Oh, yeah?

Bugs, the paragliding is not scheduled. You just show up at the glider port, and it's first come, first serve. It depends upon the weather--the winds have to be right, but they are most days. I'm hoping it's extra good for Saturday, but they're talking about a storm coming in, so maybe not. I told my parents I was planning to do this, and my mom liked the idea enough that they're giving it to me for a present (and has threatened to do it herself when they come back). Don't tell SL, but I'm going to get even for her age crack by posting some pictures once I've done it. I live in a beautiful place.

I am blessed.

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