You can't believe the promises of a WS. Check with your school and see what options they give you. If you can go to work and hold your credits and classes, that may help you get over this hump. It is good your family is helping you out.

Separate your finances and change the locks on the door ASAP!

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Hey, long time no talk! Things are going well. My husband and I have been talking a lot and hanging out. He has pretty much ended things with the ow. I guess he originally was just going to take a step away from her to clear his head and really think about things, but then she flipped out b/c he hung out with me- so he has ended their relationship..I have still seen a few phone calls on the records, but not like before. I guess she lied to him a lot and wasnt honest about what all her husband knew about the whole situation- which we all knew that.

My husband still hasnt moved home as he is still trying to figure out if he loves me as a wife or just a friend-- which sucks that he has to think about it, but I'm not pressuring him as I want him to make the right decision. I dont want him if he doesnt want me. Its just really weird b/c he has told me that he cant quite thinking about me and wanting to have kids with me. This whole situation has really allowed us to open up to each other. We've had a lot of really good conversations lately and have really enjoyed each other's company.

He has admitted that he's messed and apologized. He's not proud of what he's done and the many ways that he has hurt me. He's aware that he cant take it all away, but is trying to do the right thing now. He admires me for how strong and patient I have been through this whole thing and knows that I can survive without him- which I think he was a little surprised at.

I guess I'm just amazed. I'm sitting here thinking of how bad this whole thing was and how I have changed for the better b/c of it. I guess if we work out, it will only make our marriage better! What doesnt kill us, makes us stong!

Don't let him sweep this under the rug. Make sure he has NC with the OW. Change his number if you have to. You two need to work on your M again. Now is the most critical junction. Continue meeting his needs. Insist on STD testing before you have SF.