Thanks Marsh

If you could see me right now I am glowing and I know WW had to see that a second ago.

I really feel great about today and even have a smile on my face right now from your approval. Keep teaching and I will keep learning.

LOL

It's impossible to understand what waywards are thinking.

But, I'd take this as a good thing. You were able to show her your new upbeat attitude again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Although, I, like you, hate it that your DD is on the schedule she is.

Can you keep her during the week?


~ Marsh

I told my lawyer I will find a way to be able to keep her thru the week. I will find a way. When I go back to my normal job it will be much easier to do just that. Bad thing is I work every other weekend on that job. But I can even work that out.

GOOD!!!

Now, I want you to change the title of your thread to read: I'm back in Plan A, and had a couple of victories today!

~ Marsh

Ok I changed the thread title.

BTW I am still smiling <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> and I can't stop LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I wonder where M2L is.

LOL

Enjoy the victories!

But, remember this isn't called a rollercoaster ride for nothing.

Today she had no power over you.

Today, you chose your attitude, your words and your actions, w/o allowing your WW to influence you one bit!

It's empowering, isn't it?

~ Marsh

PS: I'm sure M2L will be here in the AM. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

OK I plan every day on being like this. I know its a rollercoaster but I am preparing myself to NOT let WW take my joy or smile. I am going to lay down but I may check back if I can't sleep. I am pretty keyed up right now.

M2L Where are you? I have been waiting for your comment aboutthe meeting.

I have not gotten the letter from the lawyer to OM yet but will update on it when I do.

Bump for M2L

Marsh here is my plan for tomorrow. I go the WW house to pick up D and be at my best. Then she will ask I think where are you going and I will say Skiing you wanna go. Wait for expected answer and then say ok and smile and walk go on. I may inform her tonight of where I am going but not to tell D. Just to give her some think time but I haven't decided on that yet. I am thinking if she has time to think she will build a defense. I don't know? What cha think?

Hmmm, if I was going to be asked to go skiing, I'd want some time to find my ski pants, get a sitter, buy some chapstick...

I'd make mention of it tonight. Also, be sure to tell her it's your treat.

Don't expect her to say yes.

You're just planting seeds.

~ Marsh

OK since you put it that way I will mention it to her tonight. I am not expecting a yes but definatly sowing seeds. The Lord showed me yesterday that the seed doesn't sprout right up. Its time to grow roots and then breaks ground. Just thought I would share that.

Sorry I'm late, what did I miss????

Family things last night and meetings this AM.

I am up to speed on the new posts and I think the meeting went great.

Your ww knows (or will soon) you are not a push over and that you will fight for your M and F.

About the rollercoaster part - it takes it out of you. Yes you get the good high days and think "I can make it" then the rug gets pulled out from under you and you want to cash in your chips and head for home.

It helps very much when you know that this will happen and how to deal with it. You will still have to ignor the crap and threats that WILL come from your ww mouth. Just ignor it.

This thread reminds me of MWIL (mywifeilove). His wife moved in to her own place and was seeing someone. MWIL Plan A her while she was not living at home. Today they are happy in love and he still comes around a times. Maybe try a search for his story.


I would tell your wife about the skiing tonight also

"ww, I thought it would be fun to take DD skiing and would love for you to go with us. Ski some, hot chocolate maybe pizza after."

keep up the good work

Agree w/ everything M2L said, especially about how you WILL have tough days to come. They ARE to be expected. But, we'll help you get through them.

And yes, his sitch does remind me of MWIL...damn inspiring love story!

He did an awesome plan A, followed by a pretty quick Plan B.

I gave you these links before, PHB...you should definitely read them.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...part=1&vc=1

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...part=1&vc=1

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...part=1&vc=1

~ Marsh

Marsh and M2L now that both of you are up to speed on the meeting do you think he will view it as a scare tactic or will he think about it. Marsh mentioned it may cause LB's between OM and WW(I hope so) but I know that OM lawyer will try to downplay this and WW will tell him that to. But We planned for that at the meeting and will turn the heat up more if this doesn't work.

One thing I failed to mention was that my Lawyer said that she could see I want to work on M and she was going to do everything possible to help with that. She even said she she wouldn't charge me for any of the letters and time right now. If it goes to court then she may but she said she can see the hurt and determination in my eyes and she was going to fight for me and my M. She said she can get real mean if needed and she enjoyed that because most of her clients are ready to quit.

Wow a lawyer with a heart??


I think they will see the letter as a scare tactic. Like Marsh said, these things do add strife to A.

This is the part I was talking about a few days ago when I said "make the A difficult. Now this OM has you pulling back on your wife. Before it was just a great easy thing (the A). All fun and not too much work. Now it will be work and lawyers and meybe court. OM may just think it would be easier to get a new woman to date.

Just received letters to both WW and OM. Give me a few to take names out and stuff then I will post Them

Letter to WW's Lawyer...

Your letter of December 19th requested BS's cooperation in entering into a Separation Agreement. I continue to represent BS with regard to the domestic issues, and my client has repeatedly expressed his desire to reconcile his marriage with his wife. Specifically, he has indicated to me that as recently as December 20th, your client had indicated her desire to reconcile the marriage and to build trust again, including allowing my client to have her e-mail password and to share cell phone records with him. Our clients also had a date on December 22nd in an effort to discuss reconciliation further. For all these reasons, my client remains committed to reconciling the marriage and insulating his family from the efforts of OM in pursuing your client.

To that end, I have notified OM, on behalf of BS, that he is to have no further contact with his wife. Should you be contacted by OM, please be advised that my client is serious in his desire to pursue legal action as necessary to prevent OM's unlawful interference with his marriage. Further, OM has been advised to have no further contact with BS's daughters.

For purposes of response, however, in the event your client is unwilling to reconcile her marriage, then my client stands prepared to move forward in pursuing an action to insulate D from the adulterous relationship and in insuring she have access to her mother on a regular basis, while retaining primary custody. My client hopes this will not be necessary and that our clients will reconcile their marriage without further attorney intervention.

Thank you for your consideration.


Letter to OM...

Dear OM:

I represent BS with regard to your recent unlawful conduct in engaging in criminal conversation and alienation of affections as to BS's wife, WW. Specifically, my client is pursuing reconciliation with his wife; and his wife has expressed interest in reconciling as well. To that end, my client is making formal demand upon you to have no further contact with his wife, in lieu of BS pursuing a more formal action in the form of a lawsuit for alienation of affection and criminal conversation. My client has significant evidence of your conduct with his wife and wants nothing more and will expect nothing less than you to cease and desist your intrusion upon his marriage.

Should you retain counsel, please forward this letter to your attorney’s attention; and let it be known that my client will make no further request upon you prior to filing an action in this regard.


What do you think?

Man I love it when the lawyers are working for you and not against you.

Good letters I think.

I know I would not want to receive a letter like that

Oh, let me add:

When WW and OM get these letters, your wife will be mad as he)). She may tell you:

"I was willing to work on our M, but now it's over because of what you've done. Forget it now buster."

I quoted this because they almost all say this crap... Doesn't mean a thing except that you are rocking their boat and making the A hard on them. GOOD!!!

watch for it