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The more I think about this the more I lean to toward not sending anything.
She is mad and dont they say around her "let them stew in their own pot?" Something like that. Let her think about the whole sitch for a while.
Kinda like giving a job interview, let the applacant do all the talking. They will give away something at some point that will give away thier hand.
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I know it will need to be shortened and polished. I am in no rush to do this at all. Later today when I get home I will let you know about a phone call I received today. Let me hear you comments. I will also work on shortening the reply. Didn't even think of legal side. I was trying to show that I wasn't needy and I was working on changing
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Again...why respond at all?
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Jusr received a call from OM's W. She said he called fussing at her about the papers I served on him. He told her he would not be paying for her bills anymore because she didn't call and tell me not to. She said I didn't know he was going to do it. OM told his W not to do it to my WW because then he would not pay for this or that. He told her that if she didn't stop me then she wouldn't be able to get anything because he wouldn't have it to give. She told him that he knows what he needs to do. I told her he is in no position to tell her what to do. she said she was scared she would have to quit school. I told her to get a backbone and not make this easy for them. The easier you make it the longer this will take.
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Owl, you missed it a few pages up where Mr. W suggested that he might want to dispute those claims so that his lack of response couldn't be construed by the courts as an admission of guilt if it got that far.
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Making it hard to have the A - love it
poor girl may have to quit school. Boo Hoo
Now watch out for the shiet to hit the fan when your wife calls you. Blah blah blah - what was that dear, you don't like blah blah and blah either?
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Jusr received a call from OM's W. She said he called fussing at her about the papers I served on him. He told her he would not be paying for her bills anymore because she didn't call and tell me not to. She said I didn't know he was going to do it. OM told his W not to do it to my WW because then he would not pay for this or that. He told her that if she didn't stop me then she wouldn't be able to get anything because he wouldn't have it to give. She told him that he knows what he needs to do. I told her he is in no position to tell her what to do. she said she was scared she would have to quit school. I told her to get a backbone and not make this easy for them. The easier you make it the longer this will take. OM is an idiot! He's giving his BW ideas. Too funny!! Like M2L said, better brace yourself for what your WW is going to say to you. ~ Marsh
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I wonder if he'll blame YOUR WW for not stopping you too.
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Document when OMW called you. Now you need to snoop and gather proof of continued contact. Gather up a boatload of phone contact and get a photo of their cars together at his/her place with a time stamp on the photo. Then you can file your AOA lawsuit. The sooner the better. You need to follow up with your threat.
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Good for you PHB....Now stay strong in the face of what is sure to be the storm of the century from WW....Here is a preview.....Quote"You are an idiot, I was going to stop seeing him until you did this, His wife is going to be in the streets if you do this (I actually heard this one), You are selfish (for not wanting to let me have an A), I hate you and you disgust me and I will never be intimate with you again, I am leaving, I will be filing tomorrow and much more but this is just a preview
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Making it hard to have the A - love it
poor girl may have to quit school. Boo Hoo
Now watch out for the shiet to hit the fan when your wife calls you. Blah blah blah - what was that dear, you don't like blah blah and blah either? I paln on making it very hard. Don't know how yet but thinking of ways or things I can say. This is OM's W that will have to quit school. I am ready for battle.
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Not ignoring you OWL. Just trying to make that right decision on this. If I do decide it is best to reply, I want to have it ready to send.
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OM is an idiot!
He's giving his BW ideas.
Too funny!!
Like M2L said, better brace yourself for what your WW is going to say to you.
~ Marsh What kind of ideas did he give her? I am braced and ready for battle. One thing, is it better to hang up on her or just listen and not respond.
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I wonder if he'll blame YOUR WW for not stopping you too.
LOL
~ Marsh She asked him "why hasn't she went to him and told him not to do it. Is she using you?" He didn't reply.
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Document when OMW called you. Now you need to snoop and gather proof of continued contact. Gather up a boatload of phone contact and get a photo of their cars together at his/her place with a time stamp on the photo. Then you can file your AOA lawsuit. The sooner the better. You need to follow up with your threat. I will have to get a court order for phone records. But I am trying to figure out a way of getting pictures while I have my DD. I don't want to ride around with her taking pix of this. My Lawyer said we would give it until the end of the month before we go any further. Give them time to split thereselves first, if not then blow doors off.
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OM is an idiot!
He's giving his BW ideas.
Too funny!!
Like M2L said, better brace yourself for what your WW is going to say to you.
~ Marsh What kind of ideas did he give her? I am braced and ready for battle. One thing, is it better to hang up on her or just listen and not respond. He told her not to bring your WW up on the same charges you are bringing him up on. She wasn't even thinking along these lines, but NOW that he brought it up, maybe she will. LOL If your WW calls. Don't hang up. Just listen to her. Don't argue w/ her or try to EDUCATE her. If you think you can't control yourself and you are going to LB her then hang up. Otherwise, listen. ~ Marsh
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Good for you PHB....Now stay strong in the face of what is sure to be the storm of the century from WW....Here is a preview.....Quote"You are an idiot, I was going to stop seeing him until you did this, His wife is going to be in the streets if you do this (I actually heard this one), You are selfish (for not wanting to let me have an A), I hate you and you disgust me and I will never be intimate with you again, I am leaving, I will be filing tomorrow and much more but this is just a preview OK lets say she call me and start in on me. I already asked this in another post but Is it better to hang up and not argue or sit and let her vent and not argue or should I even answer some of it. If so, which ones and how. I have read to DO & Don't do list of answers like 'thank you for your truthfulness, 'it seems that way, and 'you have a point. Are there ny other things I may want o have in mind that will totally blow her mind.
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He told her not to bring your WW up on the same charges you are bringing him up on.
She wasn't even thinking along these lines, but NOW that he brought it up, maybe she will. LOL She has thought of it but he told her she better not or he would stop paying her bills. See right now she is in school and he is paying everything for her. If your WW calls. Don't hang up. Just listen to her. Don't argue w/ her or try to EDUCATE her.
If you think you can't control yourself and you are going to LB her then hang up. Otherwise, listen. OK I just repeated that question in another post. I added about responses if i did need to say something.
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Mrs." you SOB - Blah Blah Blah."
pHB" I'm sorry you feel that way."
or "It seems like your having a bad day."
or "I do M by lawyer does D."
or "I will fight for my M."
or "maybe we should talk when your a little calmer"
or "I understand your anger. I would be upset too."
reverse babble would come in good here
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