pHB fails miserably tonight.

Did something happen?

~ Marsh

I failed Guys in a major way tonight.
1st of all I have had a bad day. Then WW B calls me and gets me all riled up and I set out to find WW and OM. I get the cops called on me. WW threatens to have me arrested and OM calls me to tell me that nothing I will do will change the way he feels about her or the way she feels about him.(i got that recorded).

WW calls lady to tell her to call me and tells lady she had been rethinking but this assures her of her decision.

I FAILED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I may think or more to say shortly but I am pretty upset right now. How could I let this happen. I am stupid

Tuesday with SH can't come fast enough.

Just lay low and spend time with your DD.

Wait until you talk to Steve.

What ever you did with WW and OM just let it go for now....

Leave her alone for now.

I know this chit is tough, I was in plan A for 7 months - I KNOW!!

I FAILED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No you didn't. You only fail when you stop trying. Now go be a good dad to your DD.

PHB,

Don't beat yourself up over this.

No one works a perfect Plan A.

This is not as big as you're making it.



WS ALWAYS say things like this!!! "I was thinking about coming back to you, but since you did XY and Z, I'll NEVER come back now!"

It's all Bullcocky. All from the WS's playbook.

Your WW has an A, and is trying to destroy your family and yet YOU expect that your behavior should be flawless? Perfect? Not in this world, PHB.

PLease give yourself a break.

You must not have done anything too bad, otherwise you'd be in jail.

LilSis (a poster here) went into the OW's home and slapped OW and when her WH tried to restrain her, she bit him! She was thrown in jail for 2 days!!!

And yet she's gone on to do a stellar Plan A.

You're not alone.

Please go easy on yourself.

Adultery sucks!

You're going have to choose very carefully who you will speak to...listen to.

~ Marsh

OK Now it really has gotten interesting. OM calls and threaten WW B. WW B now is looking for OM. OM also called me as I said before and tells me I have no case and laughs. Then OM B calls and threatens WW B and his W. Then calls me and Threatens me. I have it all recorded and it was pretty vicious. This is getting way out of hand and big.

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are you confused over my post or are you thinking
OMG

OMG

Please stay out of it.

WTH happened tonight?

What did your BIL say to you that got you so fired up?

How did everything get so out of control?

~ Marsh

WW calls
then OM calls me

Ididn't answer

At least I spoild their evening. Is that what it means by making the A hard

The purpose of exposure is creating chaos in the A.

Sounds like you've done that, for sure.

Where's the down side?

Your WS will spew hatred for a few days, never coming back, hates your guts, blah, blah, blah. All fogspeak.

Have you done anything illegal? I don't think so.

Are you standing up for your marriage? Dam right you are.

Is the going getting tough? Yep, and it could get uglier before things calm down.

Make notes on all this and have them at the ready for your meeting with Steve on Tuesday.

This is not the end...in fact, it may be the beginning!

Sounds like the OM LoveBusted everyone within earshot. If he and WW get together tonight, it won't be pretty.

Trouble in paradise. The fantasy is fading, and fading fast.

Hunker down, ride it out, and talk to Steve.

Best wishes,
SD

I am trying. I am not answering phone for the rest of the night.


THe only thing I did was go to take pix. Then OM taunts me. Then WW ssaid she was worried about me when she called lady. I tell lady about bad day and BIL calling and getting me riled up. Then Lady calls WW back and explains my bad day and tells WW that BS received phone call from BIL and that is what set BS off. Then WW Call BIL to fuss at him. OM calls BIL and threstens him. BIL is hot headed anyway blows up and tells him will will get him and his B. Then OM B calls threatening BIL and me. I just blown up.

I think OM is tried of me causing problems and is trying to get stuf started. Looks like the night is ruined for them. That is why I decided to not answer phone for the rest of the night.

To be perfectly honest I don't know how it got blowed up this big.


BAd things about WW that I don't want to repeat because I might get upset again and I am calm right now.


Beats me unless God wanted this to happen to show them how difficult this will be, or the devil is trying to destroy all things. I'll go with the latter.

Good choice not answering your phone tonight.

Is DD w/ you?

Love her.

I'm outta here for the night.

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~ Marsh

DD with GM tonight, that was my reason for snooping because she wasn't with me.

At this point you are doing the right thing by staying clear of the mess. Don't want to end up in jail for this POS OM.

paint the DD room like you said.

If this takes the next step up from OM, I would call the police and let them know what the OM has said and that you may need to call them later if needed. You know, just letting them know your side of the story first. If they need to come out they can say "Yeah, pHB told us they may happen."

Just my thoughts.

At least I think I did well at that

Notes made and waiting for SH.

If this is the beginning Somebody is going to get hurt after the things I heard tonight,

How did he love bust. He is doing what WW wants him to do PROTECT. or at least that is the way I perceive this. I did make him pretty mad tonight. by taking his pic while he looked at me.

Boy i hope trouble is in paradise. I hope and pray that the Lord will use this for his good.

I think I will just go to bed shortly. I am a little strung out right now.

So, if he got pretty ugly, and your WW got a close look at a non-fantasy side of the OM, don't you think she might wonder how he'd react if she pi$$ed him off. The uglier he got, the better!

You have the high road still... you are doing everything in your power to save the marriage. You are protecting yourself. You love your W and are trying to bust up the affair to give her a chance to return to the marriage.

If you were trespassing when you took the photo, that may result in a restraining order. However, if your attorney will issue a legal ruling ordering your WW to keep your daughter away from the OM, that will be yet another fly in the ointment for their togetherness. You can take their photo in the public domain, parking lots, outside restaurants, just like the papparazzi do, and there's not a thing they can do about it. However, they could try to press charges for stalking, and you don't want to have that on your record.

Chill out on Saturday, don't answer the phone and work on DD's room. It will give you a cooling off period, one that you very much need!

Keep on keeping on!
SD

Thanks the more I think about this the more I dont understand it but I do know all thing s happen for a reason. That's why the cops were called when they were. God was watching his child. Although I wasn't listening, he was watching.

All that being said I think just maybe, God pulled his hand back from the sitch and let madness run crazy. Then pulled things back together. At least he has for me. I think BIL is still chomping but I hope and pray all tempers will tonight and things can be forgotten tomorrow. Probably not, but maybe.

WW went to magistrate to warrant me for stalking, but I think she ended up walking out.