Well I probably won't have the room painted by then but I may have her talked into picked outthe colors she want. I tried again yesterday to get her to go look and she wanted to play a game instead. I don't wantto force this on her because she is going thru so much change right now. She told me yesterday that I was the only person she could talk to and trust right now. So I need to be her rock right now. She prayed last night and it was so sweet that I was touched at some of the words she said. I prayed for her in my prayer and she thanked me afterward. I am so blessed. Plus I still can't get over the answered prayer last night. Have a good day

pHB, KaylaAndy gave you a wonderful prayer to think about and potentially use. Consider this also; what did YOU deserve in order to be saved by the grace of God?

Here is another "small thing" that you might find helpful in this difficult time. You might want to go and get a copy for yourself and read it. It's very small and takes almost no time to read, but it is "chock full" of very important stuff about HOW and WHAT Christians should be doing when faced with difficulties.

The tiny book is called When Trouble Comes, by Jim Berg.

God bless.

PHB,

I just want to agree w/ Mr. W.

If your WW was happy and sure that she was making the correct decision she wouldn't feel the need to keep telling everyone this.

Your job is to ask "well meaning" people to please stop talking to you about your WW.

Did you talk to your lawyer yet?

~ Marsh

No didn't talk w/lawyer. I will before tomorrow afternoon though.

WW called my DD earlier and sounded like she was on cloud 9. I just don't understand how a person can do such a thing. I never could have put my DD in this sitch and been ok with myself. Somethings are better off not understanding I guess.

I had another OK day. I used KaylaAndy's prayer today about 5 or 6 times along with my other prayers. Thanks again KaylaAndy for that prayer. I also used it for my WW, i just changed some of the words to make it for her. I am still praying the hedge of thorns prayer also. All of this is just brainracking. I am driving myself crazy with all of this

Last night WW called DD to see when I was bringing her this morning. DD said about 4:30. WW said WOW ok. a few minutes later she called back and said I have to work tomorrow so why don't you go to your aunt's in the morning that way you don't have to come over here then get up again and go over there. DD said she wanted to she her. Then WW wanted to talk to me and naturally fussed and I said she is wanting to come see you. Do you not want her over to come over there? WW said well yes but it just makes no sense. I said for her to talk to DD because she is the one wanting to see you WW.Then I said no I am just going to bring her at 4:30 and that's it. Then WW and aunt called on 3-way to try totalk DD into just going straight over there. DD held her ground about wanting to see her mom. Then again WW wanted to talk to me. WW said you need to encourage her to go striaght over there. I said I will not encourage her to do that because she is wanting to see her mom, and I am not argueing about this with you. Bye

DID I do ok with that. Funny thing is, I woke up late and ended up taking her straight to the Aunts.

They ended up getting what they wanted after all. One less reason for them to believe what you say.

No that's not an indictment of you, it's just the reality of how they will perceive things.

Set the alarm clock, in fact set several, when you have "drawn a line in the sand" if you need help with being consistant to what you are saying.

God bless.

I don't guess it matters to much what I do they have their own little world anyway. I did have DD call when we did wake up and tell her I was going to take her down there because I was late. I think she was upset anyway that I was bringing her that early. He was more than likely gone by then anyway. If he stayed at all knowing he would have to be gone by 4AM. Normally I am never late for anything so I don't think it will enter her mind that I was lying or something. She will right it up as overslept. I hope.

I do know that she has been taking notes on what I have been doing. She will call her Mom to see if I have DD or not. I guess she has come to the point or somebody has told her that she better start doing something or she is going to lose custody. Before a couple weeks ago she wouldn't call at all to find out.

Anyhow this is beginning to be old. I am tired of going thru all of this.

Here is what waywards understand..........

Never say anything you don't mean or can't enforce. If they break the boundary then there must be consequence, that simple.

WW just picked up DD. Didn't get to talk to her but I did go out to the car with DD and I had put on some different new clothes and smelled real good. Thought I would at least try to look my best each time she sees me.

Anyway Decent day with DD and such. Hopefully each day will get better. Like I said, I am just to tired to fight anymore and I want thiis to end. I don't have much fight left.

You're doing fine, PHB.

Glad you enjoyed your day w/ DD.

Do stuff for yourself tomorrow.

~ Marsh

I woke up this morning and saw I had missed a call from WW. I called this morning and she(WW) asked me if my S had called me and told me off for what happened a couple Friday's ago and if I had called her(S) back and told her(S) I was sorry. I said that I haven't even talked with my S. I told WW that I saw her(S) Sunday but I didn't talk to her(S). Why I said? WW said that is what your S said. I said that is what you were told she(S) said but that is a lie along with all the rest of them that you are being told. I said I don't even know her(S) phone #. WW said well OK I will call her and ask. I said I welcome that call and I will even find her(S) # if you want me too because none of that is true.

Now why would she(WW) call and ask me that? Did she(WW) question why S told me off or wonder why I apoligized OR did she(WW) know that what she was being told wasn't true and knew he(OM) was lying to her. Just another page in her(S) long book I guess. Any thoughts?

Your pronouns seem a little mixed up.

I'm assuming S is your sister???

What happened a couple fridays ago...I forget???

Mr. Wondering

p.s. - she may be recording you and trying to get you to discuss a situation "on the record".

Yep My sister.

Friday 2 weeks ago was the day I was taking pix of their activity and she called the law on me.

Hadn't thought about being recorded. As long as I keep telling the truth I have nothing to worry about.

My pronouns and adverbs and neutrons all always mixed up. Usaully I don't even know the difference. English was my worst subject.

OK I went back and read my post and can see where I may have confused you. I added (S) and (WW) where needed it was needed to clarify whom I was reffering to.

Does OM or someone else know your sister????

If so, what intel are you getting from his side of the situation.

Remembering that there are two angles to splitting up an affair relationship. WW AND OM. I think getting an OM to end it is often easier than getting the WW to end it.

Does he have any vulnerabilities??? A good christian boss that may fire him "if he/she knew" of his activities. An ex-wife that he shares custody with that may not appreciate what OM is exposing their kids to? We may have discussed this before but I don't recall.

Mr. Wondering

Yes OM was married to her.

No intel. He tells everyone he is happy. His work allows my WW to go with him on business trips. I don't think he will end it. He tells everyone he has been in love with my WW for over 2 yrs but never said anything about it until August 06.

He's your former brother in law...wow, missed or forgot that.

Was their divorce bitter??? Could this possibly be a revenge affair against her and/or your family??? Could it be a ruse...and he's not really in love with her??? Is your sister on his side???? Do they have children???

W

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In all legal proceedings he should be referred to as

"Uncle ____"

The sickness of the whole thing and the effect on DD8 will be implied.

Mr. Wondering

p.s.- to get this straight. He married and divorced your sister, remarried and had kids with another woman and your WW is getting in line to be wife #3. What does wife #2 think of this whole thing. When she was crying in your arms back in December I'm betting it was because OM decided to go back to his family. She thought it was over and needed comfort. Since he's walked that line before if wife #2 applies pressure on her side...you never know. Not even pressure to reconcile. She could make life difficult for him IF he continues on with Auntee _____.

yes it was. He blames my parents for everything. That is what he is using with my WW. She thinks they don't like her.


Not really sure but I think so, he has done everything he can to ruin everything in their family now he is ruining mine.
What's a ruse? I don't think affairs can have love in them.



Sister is definatly not on his side. They have 1 D whos 11yrs old. They play off of that at times so they can be together. They tell my niece that they are going to be on big happy family.

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