Court went smooth...we are divorced. She did not show up at court. Was kind of sad but no other choice at this point. Haven't even talked to her in a week or so.

Life goes on...not in a hurry to do anything.

So sorry, SRT.

~ Marsh

SRT,

Sorry man...

What was the court ruling/order for custody, visitation, finances, etc?

Now that you've got everything wrapped up, plan B her wayward behind. You don't have to take her back if she comes back later, but don't have anymore contact with her other than which is necessary.

Divorce...

I basically got everything I wanted...we have joint custody but I am the custodial parent. She has him every other weekend and Wednesday evenings.

I owe her 24 months maintenance $100 per month...she owes $100 per month child support which I will match and start a college fund for S. Basically the maintenance was so she did not have to pay child support for 2 years...so she could get established.

I kept our house and all of the contents/equity...I can afford to keep it and will not need to refi or anything. Basically gave her all of our liquid cash and 10% of my 401K. Kept all of my stock and stock options. I made out very well financially...I am kind of cash broke right now but kept all of my longterm assets and do not owe her anything longterm. It was at minimum an 85/15 split in my favor which was probably unfair to her but whatever.

While in front of the judge he took a little exception to her only paying $100 per month child support...he said this is not 20% of her income. My lawyer explained that this is what we agreed to and that there was a large disparity in income etc...he said well if you want 20% you can always come back later. So I guess I have that in my back pocket.

I am pleased with how smooth the divorce went and I am glad we were able to work out things between each other. It was pretty quick and as painless as a divorce could get especially with a child involved and a fair amount of assets.

As far as current contact between us...things are definitely changing. I am moving on...do not talk to her any more than necessary.

I am definitely losing or have lost the feelings I had for her. I truly feel things are over...do not want her back any more. Once the divorce was completed I just see no reason to have her back in my life.

It is still a process with my son...I know he misses her. But I give him a lot of attention and I think it will just take time. It is a big adjustment for both of us. Being a single parent has not been that bad...keeps me busy but I think I do a pretty good job. I am pretty domesticated...can cook and clean etc...I guess I have to give credit to my mother for raising a son who can take care of himself. My family helps me out a lot with my son...he spends the night at my parents or with my sister every couple weeks.

I just feel blessed to have my son the majority of the time...this would be soooo much harder if I only got to see him every other weekend. I will never understand how/why she chose to give up custody without a fight.

Because she's selfish and wants to act single. Having him more time would slow that down.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />