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Re: Need Advice
Farmass #1802496 01/16/07 09:00 AM
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She is just to immature and I don't think I could ever fully trust her to be the mother of my children.


Yes, you've got it! Figure out what you want your life to look like, and then make it happen! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You are so young, and seem quite bright so you will not have a problem getting the life you want.

I am just so happy to see someone actually thinking about choosing a woman who would be a good mother to his children...in advance.

You will hurt for awhile, but I have this feeling that you won't let it keep you down for very long.
Re: Need Advice
Farmass #1802497 01/16/07 10:09 AM
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I hate to see a M end but in this case AND if what you say about your WW is true then I think you have made the right choice. The last thing you want is to have kids with this "woman" and have her out lining up A partner no. XX or quittig on the M when the first sign of trouble comes.

Good luck.
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Farmass #1802498 01/16/07 11:11 AM
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she always takes the easiest way out and runs from problems


this does not make her a "bad person"

it does make her a bad choice for a wife ... "as is"

she may be a much more mature adult woman down the road ... but she probably will not develop maturity for several years

you don't have to "hate" her in order to pass her up

you simply must accept the reality of "she is NOT ready for marriage"

she is too immature

Pep <~~~ when I was 24 years old I was just as immature as your wife .... maybe more (?)
I got married at 31 ... still married to my "first husband" ... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A

LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders
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Pepperband #1802499 01/16/07 11:18 AM
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this does not make her a "bad person"

it does make her a bad choice for a wife ... "as is"

she may be a much more mature adult woman down the road ... but she probably will not develop maturity for several years

you don't have to "hate" her in order to pass her up

you simply must accept the reality of "she is NOT ready for marriage"

she is too immature

Pep <~~~ when I was 24 years old I was just as immature as your wife .... maybe more (?)


Ditto that, Pepe'le Pieux!
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