LMAO...
a form of post-traumatic stress disorder due to my childhood and marital situations.
Welcome again...2 the club! LOL
No, but we have certain triggers that if we do not learn to control they can be set off.
Good...we have to learn to move those buttons...I had to learn to move mine...FWH was/is the same way...mentally/verbally abusive...only when angry...slow progress...
As we talk I'll get into more... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
when you think you are moving forward only for that forward momentum to be stopped and it seems as if you have to start over again.
Breathe...it's a good thing...be still...you seem very centered right now and committed...just as I and others here, we have to have patience for the S to get their footing and caught up...
I'm in the same boat...can you explain a little more what you DO see from your W?
My wife has told me that she has given me another chance and all she needs is time.
This is a great thing to know! Hold it dear to your heart. Perhaps, as I fear, that that changes you are making are temporary...given your history of making amends and then, abusing again...time, time, and more time...
I can say that my FWH's words from the past sometimes still split me in half...she has triggers too...How much time to the two of you spend together per week?
But do to my current situation especially when one of my behaviors was to accuse her all the time of having an affair when i had had one, how would I approach it at this time.
Perhaps you could do a little O&H drivebys...like: I am ashamed that I accused you of having an A in the past when I was. I worry about you when you are gone for long period of time. I was wondering if you could give me a courtesy call once in awhile just to let me know that you are okay. I would appreciate it, and it would make me feel loved.
If I was to even raise the question I feel that it would be the end of it all.
I have learned that our fear is usually great that what actually happens. Perhaps you can state this also:
I am fearful that you will think that I am trying to control you.
The opposite of fear is courage... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Faith...pray for your fear...sometimes I end my prayer with your reluctant daughter... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
