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Dev,
I would ask her if she would want to stay if there were no more conversations? My WW is finally starting to come around 4 months after the A ended and 6 weeks after last contact. You need to not talk about your R/M for several months.
Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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I tried that last night and she just smiled in a "yeah right" kind of manner. She said she feels very pressured coming home and dreads seeing me even, she hates feeling guilty one day, and hatred another day towards me.
On my part, I don't know if I want her to be home, but yet totally ignore me and act as though I were not her husband. Like having someone stay at home who treats the home like a hotel.
What are the chances of my marriage surviving if she were to stay home vs. her moving out? Maybe I need a dose of reality.. 2x4's welcome also
Dev
BS - 31 (me)
WW - 29
M ~2 years, No kids
DDay - 2nd Dec 2006
Exposed - 15th Jan 2007
NC started - 14th Jan 2007
NC broken 23rd Jan 2007
NC broken many times since
Status: WS moved out 22 March 07 "to think"; A ongoing still; 2nd July 2007 - signed Divorce papers "I'm done!"
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Just took a peek at her mobile phone while she's sleeping. Seems like her mind is made up.. her friends expressed concern and support for her, asking if she's told me and how did i take it. Anyway, its goodbye pretty soon. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
Dev
BS - 31 (me)
WW - 29
M ~2 years, No kids
DDay - 2nd Dec 2006
Exposed - 15th Jan 2007
NC started - 14th Jan 2007
NC broken 23rd Jan 2007
NC broken many times since
Status: WS moved out 22 March 07 "to think"; A ongoing still; 2nd July 2007 - signed Divorce papers "I'm done!"
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I can't seem to change the thread title on the first thread anymore, the option to 'edit' is gone. Should I start a new thread?
Dev
BS - 31 (me)
WW - 29
M ~2 years, No kids
DDay - 2nd Dec 2006
Exposed - 15th Jan 2007
NC started - 14th Jan 2007
NC broken 23rd Jan 2007
NC broken many times since
Status: WS moved out 22 March 07 "to think"; A ongoing still; 2nd July 2007 - signed Divorce papers "I'm done!"
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(((Devastated)))
I'm sorry I know this suxs ...
We are here for you.
Still
BW me 46
WH 46
Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
Moved out (him) weekend after labor day
23rd anniversary 10/7/07
Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW
Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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Thanks still... I've started a new thread since i can't seem to edit the title anymore for this.
Really appreciate you guys being here. Not sure if it just hasn't sunk in yet, but I'm strangely enough ok with this, else maybe I've grown up and realized I can't control what she does, only my own actions? Now, that's an interesting thought! :P
Dev
BS - 31 (me)
WW - 29
M ~2 years, No kids
DDay - 2nd Dec 2006
Exposed - 15th Jan 2007
NC started - 14th Jan 2007
NC broken 23rd Jan 2007
NC broken many times since
Status: WS moved out 22 March 07 "to think"; A ongoing still; 2nd July 2007 - signed Divorce papers "I'm done!"
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