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LOL! Dawg, we all became hypersensitized through all this. Ya ever notice when you see people driving in their cars, talking on their cell phone, you wonder if those people are talking to their spouses, or an OP?
An affair song would come on the radio and nearly bring you to tears?
You hang on every word and every action the WS makes, and try to not let on you are completely consumed by their every move?
Any of that ring a bell?
It's all normal...so nevermind... LOL!
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FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
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LOL! Dawg, we all became hypersensitized through all this. Ya ever notice when you see people driving in their cars, talking on their cell phone, you wonder if those people are talking to their spouses, or an OP?
An affair song would come on the radio and nearly bring you to tears?
You hang on every word and every action the WS makes, and try to not let on you are completely consumed by their every move?
Any of that ring a bell?
It's all normal...so nevermind... LOL! LOL...who me? I think I mentioned this. There is a song by The Killers called "Mr. Brightside" which is a song of an affair from the point of view of the BS or Betrayed Boyfriend. She found it in my pile of songs on the computer and listened to it three times in a row the other night. Alright, back to reading about flying airpalnes before I go nuts.
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WS - 25
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Crap crap crap double crap on a stick!!!! ARGH!!!!
Just got a visit from the OM to tell me about an accidental run in with each other in the complex parking lot earlier today.
Don't know if she was waiting for him or what, but when he was coming up the stairs, she opened the door as if on her way out.
He told me she kept asking why he wasn't talking to her, etc..and he in turn told her to quit bothering him, it is over and you need to work on your marriage.
Crap. Back to sqaure one.
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WS - 25
D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
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Maybe yes, Maybe not. She didn't get a positive response from OM if what he say is so. So that is good. He came to tell you so I would tend to believe him.
Just continue the plan.
I did tell you she would make a push for contact. But this is not what she was hoping for. A minor setback I would think.
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Maybe yes, Maybe not. She didn't get a positive response from OM if what he say is so. So that is good. He came to tell you so I would tend to believe him.
Just continue the plan.
I did tell you she would make a push for contact. But this is not what she was hoping for. A minor setback I would think. The more I think about it, the more I think you are right. She didn't hear what she wanted to hear from him. It might just give her something more to think about. He knocked on my door about 30 miutes ago and started with, "Uh..just so you know..."
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WS - 25
D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
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I think he gets the picture. Now it's her turn. Just going to take time.
Kee your spy in place for next week just in case.
Meanwhile take care of that cold!
What's sitch with her move?
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I bought her a "thinking of you" card that I was going to leave her when I went on my trip. Kind of borderline mushy, but too bad.
Maybe I should leave it on her pillow for tonight?
It says:
"I thought of you today. And then a smile edged onto my face. And a burden or two evaporated from my shoulders. And I breathed a little easier. And I felt a whole lot happier. All because I thought of you today."
What do you think?
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I think he gets the picture. Now it's her turn. Just going to take time.
Kee your spy in place for next week just in case.
Meanwhile take care of that cold!
What's sitch with her move? I don't know what is going on. I haven't seen her since I left this morning at around 10:45 am. Earlier this week, she told me today was going to be the move out day, but like I said no packing has been done, she didn't take an overnight bag and her toiletries are all in place. Looks like she is here at least one more night.
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As for dividing up property. That's for later if an actual D is put in place. Meanwhile I would tend to say that since it is marital property it will stay here in our home. She takes only personnal items. You are not trying to make this easy for her. IMO
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As for dividing up property. That's for later if an actual D is put in place. Meanwhile I would tend to say that since it is marital property it will stay here in our home. She takes only personnal items. You are not trying to make this easy for her. IMO That is what I was going to tell her this afternoon, but she has been gone since i have been home. Now she is at work and will not be home until close to 2am.
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I bought her a "thinking of you" card that I was going to leave her when I went on my trip. Kind of borderline mushy, but too bad.
Maybe I should leave it on her pillow for tonight?
It says:
"I thought of you today. And then a smile edged onto my face. And a burden or two evaporated from my shoulders. And I breathed a little easier. And I felt a whole lot happier. All because I thought of you today."
What do you think? Hey I like it! Then again I like Mush <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I bought her a "thinking of you" card that I was going to leave her when I went on my trip. Kind of borderline mushy, but too bad.
Maybe I should leave it on her pillow for tonight?
It says:
"I thought of you today. And then a smile edged onto my face. And a burden or two evaporated from my shoulders. And I breathed a little easier. And I felt a whole lot happier. All because I thought of you today."
What do you think? Hey I like it! Then again I like Mush <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Should I leave it on her pillow for tonight? I was planning on making up the couch for her so it will be ready when she gets home, propping up one of her favorite stuffed animals and leaving the card for her.
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WS - 25
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Should I write anything in the card? I can't think of anything right now. Mind is kind of fuzzy.
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Your the one dating her not me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
But yes I most certainly would write something personnal from you as if in dating. This card says how I feel when I think of you. for example.
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Your the one dating her not me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
But yes I most certainly would write something personnal from you as if in dating. This card says how I feel when I think of you. for example. LOL..I know. I'm just not to good when it comes to these things.
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D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
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Me either! That's probably why I'm on here rather than watching the tube or something. Trying to be a better JKG too.
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okay DF remember this... its not about the OM... its about the WW. She has conflict in her and its not because of the OM. You have done a great job to put your finger in this OM leak in the dyke that holds your marriage but there are weak points everywhere... she could do any number of things in her state.... You need to be prepared to act not react.
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You have been doin' great BTW. You just don't see it yet. But the progress has been Super!!!! Way to Go "SuperDog"!!!
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Thanks VR and JKG.
I'm trying. I do have a plan and that I have put into motion. But it is sometimes hard to act when I get thrown curve balls, you know..not knowing what to expect.
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