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Glad to hear things went well. You will be sad at first, but things will get better. For me, just having it OVER, was comforting. You will make a good husband one day for someone who deserves you.
I feel for your wife. She is headed down a lonely road.
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Hey Dog,
What a ride my friend. You have given it your all and I am proud of you for that. I agree with B, you will make a great H one day with all you have learned.
Hang around when you can. You can even head over to the D board for more help.
(((Dog
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ME BH 36 - FWW 33
2 kids
DDAY May 06
Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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I am flying your wing Dude, I will email you my phone # use it call anytime...
sorry I have been offline on messenger, had a computer crash and I am still recovering,and ,my messengr is still acting up
Jim
EA Internet DD 2/06, 11/06
PA DD 3/20/07 started in 10/06
WW seperated 2/6/07
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Dog; just curious, but during your talk after the D proceedings, did your now XW indicate that she would maybe like to date you, or maybe, at some point, get back together?
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Thanks all. I appreciate it.
The D will not be final until Sept.
We are supposed to have lunch or dinner next week when I get back from the office. I have a strong suspicion that will be the last time that ever happens.
The 7 years I had with her were the best of my life. I do regret some things that I have done, but I will never regret the time spent with her.
BS - 36 (me)
WS - 25
D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
Divorce Final - 09/14/07
"It's only the fairy tale they believe"
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Dog; just curious, but during your talk after the D proceedings, did your now XW indicate that she would maybe like to date you, or maybe, at some point, get back together? We had a talk about a month ago, about how I feel about things and where I stand. She said that she would not know how she felt about me in the future. We will see, she said she would like to remain friends and stay in contact with me. But a TM once a week, a friend does not make. Once I move, I am sure that will be it.
BS - 36 (me)
WS - 25
D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
Divorce Final - 09/14/07
"It's only the fairy tale they believe"
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Did she give any reasons for moving out of OM's apt. back into her own apt? May be some clues here, but I don't think everything is over, as far as you are concerned, quite yet.
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Did she give any reasons for moving out of OM's apt. back into her own apt? May be some clues here, but I don't think everything is over, as far as you are concerned, quite yet. Didn't ask. She still spends the weekends up there, or pretty much anytime I am home these days. I have a little insight as to the reasoning, and I am sure it was the typical reason. But, it is out of my hands. Whatever happens, happens.
BS - 36 (me)
WS - 25
D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
Divorce Final - 09/14/07
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She may come to realize that through all of this, you not only improved upon yourself, but remained loyal and faithful. In short, you are a known commodity. These are extremely important characteristics for a relationship partner to possess. She may consider this sooner than later.
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as my best friend told me latley on my great 6 years with bobi... The ride was worth the fall...
Jim
EA Internet DD 2/06, 11/06
PA DD 3/20/07 started in 10/06
WW seperated 2/6/07
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She may come to realize that through all of this, you not only improved upon yourself, but remained loyal and faithful. In short, you are a known commodity. These are extremely important characteristics for a relationship partner to possess. She may consider this sooner than later. Time will tell.
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WS - 25
D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
Divorce Final - 09/14/07
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Well...today sucked. I had a flight student scheduled, and they were a no show, so that was a waste.
Came home and went thru some boxes, sorting her stuff and mine. Rather depressing way to spend a B-day.
Found some pictures of the kittens when they were born.
One of those kitten grew to 24 pounds. He isn't fat, either...he is just HUGE. I look at those pictures and can't believe he fit in the palm of my hand.
We have had the cats for over 5 years now. Wow. I will miss them.
It should take me a couple of more days to go thru everything. That will be Thursday and Friday. A lot of memories to go thru.
BS - 36 (me)
WS - 25
D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
Divorce Final - 09/14/07
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More sadness. I am getting my stuff ready to move this weekend. While going thru the boxes and seperating our stuff, I keep coming across letters and cards we have given each other. I came across one of her first letters to me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Oh well....two more days.
BS - 36 (me)
WS - 25
D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
Divorce Final - 09/14/07
"It's only the fairy tale they believe"
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Been there also dude. We still have nearly every letter, card, poem, note, whatever that we gave each other in several boxes.
I read through some of them because of something I discussed in IC a few weeks ago - part of going through my history.
It was painful.
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids. Plan A Thread Plan B ThreadEphesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
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Make sure some of those notes, cards, letters are left in plain view, on top of one of the boxes she will keep.
She, too, needs to remember...
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BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
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Less than 24 hours to go. We might have dinner tomorrow night before I depart to the World of Midnight. We will see.
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Divorce Final - 09/14/07
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two hours until the loading begins. Mostly packed up my stuff and sorted thru our stuff and seperated it. This has overwhelmed me. There were times I just sat and stared at the wall listening to music for hours at a time. Numb.
Never, in my life, did I think I would ever be doing this.
BS - 36 (me)
WS - 25
D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
Divorce Final - 09/14/07
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We finish doing ours at 1pm today Dog and yes I dread it...
God it seems we are flying in formation dude...
You have my # call if you need to lean! We are in the SH*T togeather man... But we will make it if hang togeather!
Jim
EA Internet DD 2/06, 11/06
PA DD 3/20/07 started in 10/06
WW seperated 2/6/07
plan B 4/16/07
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This hurts so bad. I feel like I did on Feb. 10th.
I am sitting here, holding on to Spot...her stuffed tiger and just crying. It won't stop.
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BS - 36 (me)
WS - 25
D-Day - 01/08/07(EA), 02/02/07 (PA)
Divorce Final - 09/14/07
"It's only the fairy tale they believe"
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me too dog, me too. just offer her the get out of jail free card and she gave it back...
man I feel empty... maybe we can lean on each other
Jim
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