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hang in there Dude, I have your wing... I found the busier I get the easier it gets... Do something anything to keep the mind occupied. The idle mind is the killer!
otherwise nothing new on this home front. no indication WW is coming out of the fog... No word form her... who needs p,lan B she acts like I don't exist...
I am proceeding forward as best I can, one day at a time...
Considering a part time job just a few hours a week to keep busy... and meet people...
t-3 months and counting to the D.
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This thread riveted me, and is the main reason that I started posting on this forum. I am hoping for some good news? Anything at all? Mostly, I just wanted you to know that I have read every single page, and I feel for you, brother.
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For obvious reasons, this will more than likely be one of my last posts on MB. I will post the occasional update on how I am doing, but they will be sparse. I want to thank everyone here for your support. Many heartfelt thanks for helping me cope with this most difficult time of my life.
Thank you.
Going dark was probably the most difficult decision I have ever had to make, but one that needed to be done. I wrote my letter and explained everything. But, I am not sure she will truly understand why I have done this. Hopefully, one day, she will. 'xcuse me DG, I gotta ask. Y? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> L.
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Just an update, It is my opinion Dog is doing really well! I have formed that since we are pretty much in daily contact with each other for one reason or another. He is my B intermaorary and a pretty close friend at this point.
I would fly out and personally woop him with a 4x4 tween the eyes if he was having a bad time and not calling for support!
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This thread riveted me, and is the main reason that I started posting on this forum. I am hoping for some good news? Anything at all? Mostly, I just wanted you to know that I have read every single page, and I feel for you, brother. Day...heck I don't even know anymore. I stopped counting. Since going dark, I received one TM from her about a week into it asking a question about taxes. I had my intermediary respond. And that has been it. But, I am now in a pretty good place. I am doing VERY well.
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Plan B poster child! Stay the course. She'll come around eventually. Sadly, you may not want her when that happens. She'll be the big loser in all of this.
Wishing you nothing but the best!
SD
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
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For obvious reasons, this will more than likely be one of my last posts on MB. I will post the occasional update on how I am doing, but they will be sparse. I want to thank everyone here for your support. Many heartfelt thanks for helping me cope with this most difficult time of my life.
Thank you.
Going dark was probably the most difficult decision I have ever had to make, but one that needed to be done. I wrote my letter and explained everything. But, I am not sure she will truly understand why I have done this. Hopefully, one day, she will. 'xcuse me DG, I gotta ask. Y? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> L. That question is pretty loaded.
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So long as you are in a good place, and are doing very well, then I won't bug you, or ask for details.
I'm happy for you. I really am. You deserve to be in that good place. I'm glad that you and Jim are tight.
Take it easy, brother.
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So long as you are in a good place, and are doing very well, then I won't bug you, or ask for details.
I'm happy for you. I really am. You deserve to be in that good place. I'm glad that you and Jim are tight.
Take it easy, brother. deleted by DF
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Plan B poster child! Stay the course. She'll come around eventually. Sadly, you may not want her when that happens. She'll be the big loser in all of this.
Wishing you nothing but the best!
SD Thanks SD. I am just moving forward and living life and doing well at it.
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Alrighty then.
Still doing good. She sics her attorney on me on occasion, but no biggie.
I think I have made a decision regarding this whole thing.
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The last line in my sig says it all.
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You're a dolphin? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Dog,
It sounds like you have done well so far. Move back home and let her move out if she wants to. She is young. If she doesn't get professional help, she will rely on family and friends for advice. You have to be the louder voice. Tell her you love her and want to work things out. Let her know that people have recovered from worse situations. If you have to, confront her mother and tell her best friend to stay out of it. It is a touchy situation. Be patient and don't lose your temper if you can help it.
The rumors of my death were greatlly exagerated. MT
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Dog,
It sounds like you have done well so far. Move back home and let her move out if she wants to. She is young. If she doesn't get professional help, she will rely on family and friends for advice. You have to be the louder voice. Tell her you love her and want to work things out. Let her know that people have recovered from worse situations. If you have to, confront her mother and tell her best friend to stay out of it. It is a touchy situation. Be patient and don't lose your temper if you can help it. I spent 4 months doing that. I entered Plan B 6 weeks ago. Since entering plan B, I have been doing really well in my personal recovery. Since seperating myself from the affair, I have gained some clarity I didn't have before. I now know what I want from life and my next relationship I am ok with being alone. and I don't want her back. I wish the two of them well.
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You're a dolphin? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Har!!
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Dog: Dolphin? If only it was that easy.... I do have a memo about some road construction around here someplace.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Dog: Dolphin? If only it was that easy.... I do have a memo about some road construction around here someplace.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Guess I better start packing, huh?
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