I took my ring off the day I found out my wife had an A, and had the guy in the back seat of the family car... right after they unstrapped the 2 car seats and threw them in the trunk...

You say to take them off when you are no longer married, that was the instant I considered her someone else's woman.

Shortly after D-Day 2 and WW was spewing hateful fogtalk, one night when I couldn't sleep I got up and threw my ring into the ocean. She stopped wearing hers shortly after that.

My rationale, not that she asked about it, was that the ring was a symbol of her vows, all of which she had broken. For me, part of reconciliation would/will be her getting me a new ring and taking some new vows. I haven't broken my vows, so the ring gave her is still pure.

I'm not sure I would do it again this way, but there it is.

Ohhhhh

i thought my wearing his ring meant that [color:"blue"] I [/color] was still committed to him

but from the quote above, it seems that by his giving me his ring, and my wearing it, it is a symbol that I accept that [color:"blue"] HE [/color] is committed to me and our marraige

it also uses the words "OUR COMMITTMENT TO [color:"blue"] EACH OTHER [/color] " and " [color:"blue"] WE ARE ONE [/color] " which aren't really true once your spouse is in an A

all along i have continue to wear my rind as a symbol of [color:"blue"]MY [/color] continued love and devotion and that [color:"blue"] I [/color] am still committed to him

and "we" aren't one anymore....I am

Lots of valuable views/advice here. I thank all of you as I was doing something nobody mentioned & am now questioning it.

I take my wedding band off whenever I am going to see my WH in private. I had thought that by doing this, it would somehow scare him in to thinking that I am now ready to move on myself. My thought was that this would hopefully cause him to "think" he was losing me. Thereby, shaking him out of this fog & helping him to wake up to reality faster. Kind of silly as everything else I do & say is the complete opposite. Guess I am just trying to confuse him & make him think.

I am in Plan A, am 100% committed to this M, & now am wondering if my idea of "making him" come back to reality by not wearing my wedding band, would even work? Nobody had commented on using that as a tactic to try & win their WH back, but has anyone at least thought of this option? I feel really silly, but still very grateful for the wisdom here. Thank you.

Sammi,

Since I took them off, I've been wearing other rings on that finger, with me too hoping that WH would notice that I've moved on so to speak, and maybe scare him. I do believe he's noticed I'm wearing other rings now, but it hasn't done a thing to make him come back as you say.