You need to at least expose to OMW. However, exposure should be like a tsunami of truth. Catch him off-guard, so he doesn't have any way to spin it. You should expose so that people are sucked into it like you were. This man is a predator.

On your front, you need MC. Don't just let this blow over. You need to get to the bottom of why this happened, and put barriers in place to prevent it from happening again.

I know it must suck right now, but at least be thankful that your WW agreed to cut it off and shows remorse for it. Most don't end the A that easily. Also, watch out for further contact. This was an addiction, and she will go into withdrawal and want to make contact again. Help her get through withdrawal.

Jim

BS - 32 (me)
FWW - 33
Married 8/31/03
No kids (but 3 cats)
D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA)
NC agreed to - 11/8/06
NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
Status - In Recovery
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