Yesterday I planned on moving back into the house after 3 mnths of giving her space, only to find out that she has taken out an interdict on me preventing me from entering our home. She claims that I am emotionally abusing her and the children yet still expects me to do the running around for her, eg. stay in a different town, leave early every morning to pick up the kids to take them to school, pick up the kids, buy the daily groceries etc.
She is playing a dirty game and although a part of me wants to play dirty as well, I know that it's wrong!
My family and certain friends have told me that I should not help her with the running around as she is being vindictive, but I feel that the kids will suffer as a result. What should I do now?

The two of you need to act like grownups and POJA a plan for caring for the kids. You need to establish clear boundaries of what you will and won't do. You should also see a lawyer and you should call Dr. Harley.

New developments.

Managed to contact OMW and exposed EA. She did investigation, called my W and she confirmed that EA is now PA. 1st time was last weeked and 2nd time over the past weekend.According to my WW, OM told W that he and OMW were getting D. Apparently my WW told OMW that if she wanted to work on her M with OM, she will back off ( Bit too late for that huh?)

OMW called me and informed me of the PA, but I kinda suspected all along, so it didn't hit me immediately.
I di struggle to sleep last night though, only got in a couple of hours. I prayed alot for guidance and strength last night and this morn but am still not sure what to do now.
WW is adament that she wants out and that theres no hope for us, whenever we have the 30 second conversations we do and again last night.
I asked her out to lunch today so that we could have a civil discussion bout the kids and regarding terms and conditions should we D. She mentioned this morning when I went to pick up the kids for school that she is busy looking for another place to stay and should have it before the next court date re : interdict, which is 26th March.

OM has 5 kids, 3 from his 1st M and 2 from his current M, youngest being 6mnth/o. OMW is heartbroken, understandably, also becos of the fact that he left her with the baby, who is currently very ill, said that he was going out of town, only to be shacking up with my WW. And what's worse, WW had the nerve to take our smallest DS with her while they stayed overnight at a hotel. How sick is that??? Now that I'm typing this oput I'm getting really Pissed off!! Want to make her suffer!

But the crappy thing is that in spite of the PA, I still have this gut feeling (like I did about the PA & when it happened) that this is not the end for us, that we still will have the oppprtunity to work on our M. Is this just wishful thinking on my part, do her comments sound like fog talk. My problem is, like I ttold a mutual friend last night, before and after finding out bout the PA is that I still love her.
Was her action payback for what I did, a means for her to feel better about herself as a woman after my betrayel of her with a hooker, which se said made her feel like dirt, or was she hoping to start off a relationship with OM.

OM actually called me last night to tell me that before WW & I were married, he and her were living together untill he was sent to jail (being a drug dealer and gangster, that comes with the territory). WW only told me that he was interested in her, and that she rejected him becos of the lifestyle he led. So that was a secret she kept throughout our M.
I know this is all over the place, I am still trying to make head or tail of it. All I care about is the kids right now, and am worried that if she does want to have a R with OM, what type of environment will they be exposed to. I legally don't have any right over the 1st 2 kids (DD 11 & DS 10) as they are from her 1st M, but DD4 is my biological son.
HELP!!!NEED ADVICE PLEASE PPL!!!!

The fact that she was with OM before you and that apparently you were a rebound relationship while he was doing time is not helpful. I still cannot get away from the addiction. You give the impression that she is a drug addict. So who will a drug addict prefer to spend her time with? Will it be a mutawa or a pusher? By now, drugs are likely her #1 EN. Who can meet it best? You cannot do anything without addressing the addiction.

As far as your WW doing all this just to get back at you, maybe but not on a conscious level. I'm no psychologist but I think your WW was so emotionally abused by you all those years that she is doing this (on an unconscious level) to hurt herself more than to hurt you. You spent a lot of years convincing her she was flawed and unworthy of you. No she is playing that out. She feels better about herself being with OM. I know that all waywards "feel better" when with OP but her past history with OM has a comfort factor to it.

Have you talked to Dr. Harley or any type of counselor?

If OM is still dealing drugs, it's just a matter of time before he goes back to prison.

What you need to do is get professional help and also get a good lawyer.

Okay Mr A here comes a 2x4......Your WW is an entitled, selfish adulteress who worse seeks to remove your children from the most sane parent, you and have them live with a man who has dealt drugs and done jail time.

Stop worrying about her, about reconciliation and about pissing her off.....She's not worried about you. Go get an attorney and get temporary custody, financial support, and access to the family home. She should leave NOT YOU!!!!

She is self destructive and will take all of you with it if you continue to allow it. Don't !!!!!!!

And you have more legal rights over the two oldest than you may realize if she is going to run off and shack up with a convicted felon!1!!!!!!!! Check with your attorney ASAP!