We are definitely one of the marriages in crisis, however we are not yet separated...so not in plan B. My WH was the one who asked the happiness question...basically, if he could be happy with someone else. I don't know for sure if the A is actually ended or not...although I have to assume for now that it is. He is still considering leaving.
Was that the "utility needs" question? Anyway, DW...hang in there. He is still there...and he is hearing the truth. He can try to run from the truth...but he cant hide from it.
I really did enjoy and learn a lot from the seminar. I figure even if WH and I don't recover, I have some concrete knowledge on how relationships should work. Everything really did make a lot of sense and there is definite evidence supporting it. I can see how doing the homework will cause two people to fall in love.
You are right! I think any thinking person can sit thru that conference and walk out knowing that this works. That even skeptics, if they do exactly what Dr. Harley proposes to do over the year...will be in romantic love at the end.
Of course, he did tell of the danger, though. That most couples that didnt begin the at-home work immediately after returning home, almost always didnt make it. So, get your husband to move forward on the lessons...even if he doesnt feel like it. Make it an evening...get some food and wine...and then get on it! We started last night.
I also recommend the seminar whole-heartedly. There is definitely a wealth of information in the program and I do look forward to hopefully mending our relationship.
He spoke of Joe Beam at the end, and that is the other seminar we considered....we chose this one because of the follow-up....although I do remember another post saying that was a great one as well.
My wife also commented on the follow-up that the Harleys do. I think it is key.
One thing I do wish, though, is maybe if they could meet with the couples one-on-one for maybe just a couple minutes. I would have loved to actually meet S. Harley as well as Dr. Harley more formally, but my H didn't want to 'hang' around afterwards. Oh well, at least I was able to speak with J. Harley at bit more...we ate lunch with her and she was a delight to talk to <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> ...i'm so envious of their relationship <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ...hopefully with the homework we'll get there....
Maybe you should get some appointments with Steve. My wife and I are. Mrs. MM even got a little private time with Steve at the end to go over a few things she learned or had questions about. So, think about doing the counseling with Steve while also doing this program. The program will move you forward, while Steve can help both of you deal with the specific issues going on in your lives as they come up.
Btw, when you say 'right front', do you mean on the left half 'right front' or the right half 'front'? ...only 'cause if you were the right half 'front' we sat with you at lunch <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> if not, oh well...wish i could have met you guys
We were all the way on the right...up front. Usually the last ones to sit down after the breaks!! Somehow, we are always late!
I will go check out your thread!
