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Disclaimer, not that I know one or have ever had one, just what I hear from ...er....other websites?
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Marriages don't fail, people do.
(And I don't recall who said it)
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You all are making me blush!
I LOVE everyone's disclaimers!
Just took DSS to his dance. DD and I just came home from Walmart! WhooHoo!
I got a little sad while picking out Mother's Day cards when I saw all of the ones that read to my Wife.
I think I am going to take the kids to Six Flags on Sunday! We will have a ball!
Hope you all have a great Mother's Day!
BS (me) ExWS -Drac DD 9 DSS 15 D Day 11/06 Divorced 10/01/07
"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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See Momma forgot ot pack here toys before she left home! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
I like B.O.B.! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Poor, poor, BUGS!
let me give you a hug!
((((((BUGS)))))
Need a fan? LMAO
Is it getting hot in HERE! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Hey Bugs -- Just got back from my biz trip and had to check up on you!
Wow -- have you got this Plan A down to a science! Very impressive.
Few things for you to chew on:
1. He's flirting back with you on those texts. Can you even imagine how pissed off OW would be that her "boyfriend" is flirting with another woman? He is betraying her. Thats HUGE.
2. He still feels like he needs to hide things from you --and is protecting your feelings. (You have it figured out that OW is most likely still going to be on that trip. And that he probably took her to the concert.) But somewhere inside of him, he's still trying to shield and protect you from that hurt. He still cares about your feelings. Also HUGE.
3. I hope you are not dreading or feeling sad about Plan B. Embrace it. Because he is going to cave. I can hardly wait!
Love ya Girl!
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Lexxx,
Hey! Hope your biz trip went well!
Thanks for the kudos! I think knowing I am on the 'home strech' of Plan A and getting some good reaction from WH has given me the strength to keep going.
I hope you are on the mark with 1 and 2 above -- I have a hard time seeing/believing it from my perspective,,as much as I DO want to believe!
From my position, it feels more like I am being played and that he is protecting himself. So,,Thanks for the more expert evaluation
I am actually looking forward to Plan B. I know it will be hard. I know I will miss him. Yet I know it will be so much better for me. And the better it is for me, will be even better for DD, too!
I gotta go get DSS from him dance. I hope he actually danced with a girl this time!
Luv ya,too!
BS (me) ExWS -Drac DD 9 DSS 15 D Day 11/06 Divorced 10/01/07
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Well DSS did not dance, but did want me to explain over and over what I meant when I pointed out a girl that likes him. This is the FIRST real interst he has ever expressed in girls!
He is cute, sweet, but shy and awkard in social situations
WH left vm at home for kids - but did not bother trying the cell. Yet another sign of Ho being there.
So,,,I sent a text! He can sneak off to the bathroom to read it
Told him kids said goodnight - that I was thinking of the 'things' I want to do with him-and to call me on his way home if he needs someone to talk to to stay awake
I expect nothing, but did enjoy a little giggle when thinking about him 'sneaking off' from the ho to read MY message! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Nite.
BS (me) ExWS -Drac DD 9 DSS 15 D Day 11/06 Divorced 10/01/07
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Wh called and spent quite a bit of time talking to the kids.
DSS makes sure I am not around when he is on w/him. I think WH asks him a lot of questions
He was real short w/me as usual. But he did ask a lot of questions as to Where DD's bday party is today.
Something is up with that.
Any thoughts?
When I asked him what's up, he said 'just ck'ing in w/the kids. Talk to you later'
I am suspicious. Not sure what to think. He did not ask about what time the party was
Gotta get back to cleaning. Yuck!
BS (me) ExWS -Drac DD 9 DSS 15 D Day 11/06 Divorced 10/01/07
"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Bugs,
Just checking in with you today. It's HO weekend for my WH also. Actualy today I think he is probably at a wedding with MOW. How ironic isn't it. I'm thinking if Ho is a bridesmaid... isn't that someone you would want to stand for you at your wedding. There with her married BF while her H takes care of the kids. How sick is that?
I also need to get out into the yard.... and some housework,
Still
BW me 46 WH 46 Together 28 years married 23 3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14 DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW WH left job 4/02 MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up) Separated 7/04 to 10/04 Retrouvaille 9/04 Red Flags 11/05 DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss. Moved out (him) weekend after labor day 23rd anniversary 10/7/07 Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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Bugs,
Just checking in with you today. It's HO weekend for my WH also. Actualy today I think he is probably at a wedding with MOW. How ironic isn't it. I'm thinking if Ho is a bridesmaid... isn't that someone you would want to stand for you at your wedding. There with her married BF while her H takes care of the kids. How sick is that?
I also need to get out into the yard.... and some housework,
Still
PS I think your WH might be trying to get you served!
BW me 46 WH 46 Together 28 years married 23 3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14 DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW WH left job 4/02 MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up) Separated 7/04 to 10/04 Retrouvaille 9/04 Red Flags 11/05 DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss. Moved out (him) weekend after labor day 23rd anniversary 10/7/07 Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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Oopps,
Sorry Bugs repeat
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BW me 46 WH 46 Together 28 years married 23 3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14 DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW WH left job 4/02 MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up) Separated 7/04 to 10/04 Retrouvaille 9/04 Red Flags 11/05 DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss. Moved out (him) weekend after labor day 23rd anniversary 10/7/07 Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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Still,
Hope your day went well sorry to hear about the wedding,,just shows how some fogged out they really are
Dd had a great time at the party. We shopped and ate, then home
WH just called. DD was on my lap while they talked. I overheard him tell her to be sure to tell me Happy Mother's day tomorrow AND that he bought presents for them to give me
I am surprised. I did not expect it. Then, the angry BS in me wonders what he bought the HO. I guarantee he has done something for her --it is the kind of thing he would do!
Good thing Plan B is close.
DD told him we are going to church tomorrow- something we did not do before. He asked me which church and when I told him he said 'if you are going, then that is the one to go to
Yeah, like HE would know! He ck'd out their daycare once and was impressed
Did not talk to me long,, just said he would call tomorrow night??
We will need to talk well before that to coordinate DSS pick up.
Wonder when I am supposed to get those gifts? Guess it is supposed to be a surprise- which I guess is a good thing?!
Am trying to to read anything into it. I think it is probably just because I did bought for him at Easter
Too tored to thin about it right now. DD needs a bath
BTW- Sis, I made soup to take to FIL for his bday and thought of you!
BS (me) ExWS -Drac DD 9 DSS 15 D Day 11/06 Divorced 10/01/07
"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Well, bonus is he's still thoughtful...hold tight to that...
I'd probably have a heart attack myself if STBX did something so nice...I would KNOW something was wrong and he was "kissing behind"...
Let the HO go...cup HER IN YOUR HANDS AND SMACK! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Bugs,
Apparently WH has been bugging DD17 all week about getting me something for mothers day. How he would give them money to take me out.
I'm being negative right now it's just to make him feel better. What his kids really need is for thier father to be there with thier mom on mothers day. Not with the HO. Who is too busy to be with her own children.
Bugs Have a great Mothers Day.
Still
BW me 46 WH 46 Together 28 years married 23 3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14 DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW WH left job 4/02 MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up) Separated 7/04 to 10/04 Retrouvaille 9/04 Red Flags 11/05 DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss. Moved out (him) weekend after labor day 23rd anniversary 10/7/07 Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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I am at the hospital. My 26yr old nephew was in a car accident.
Bottom line - they are telling us he will not recover
Please send all your prayers his way
BS (me) ExWS -Drac DD 9 DSS 15 D Day 11/06 Divorced 10/01/07
"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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I'm so very sorry to hear this Bugs!!! Hang in there.. we'll all be thinking of you and your family.
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Bugs,
Praying for your nephew and his parents, And as always for you also
Still
BW me 46 WH 46 Together 28 years married 23 3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14 DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW WH left job 4/02 MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up) Separated 7/04 to 10/04 Retrouvaille 9/04 Red Flags 11/05 DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss. Moved out (him) weekend after labor day 23rd anniversary 10/7/07 Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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I'll put in a few extra for you at Mass today.
Take care of your family Bugs.
Sending some strength your way.
BS 33 EXWW 35 DS 5 OM1 9/06 - 03/07 OM2 04/07 - present Divorced May 8, 2008
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Thanks everyone
Dear nephew is brain dead. We just signed to donate his organs. It should be all finished within 24 to 30 hours
Pls continue your prayers for my family.
I will update later on the WH failures and then how he showed up after I said I needed him-and then was so cold I am sorry he came
BS (me) ExWS -Drac DD 9 DSS 15 D Day 11/06 Divorced 10/01/07
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Oh, Bugs. Sorry for this to have happened on your special day, much less at all.
May God give you strength and comfort in this time.
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids. Plan A Thread Plan B ThreadEphesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
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I am so very sorry, Bugsmom. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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