my daughter's cheer squad had T-shirts just like that....
its a quote from a movie....I wish I could remember the title!
I'll find out and let you know!

you are doing SUCH a wonderful Plan A

ANCHORMAN!!

I'm kind of a big deal

The Holy Grail Of My Office

that and Sling Blade

THAT'S IT!!!

THANK YOU BC, it was driving me nuts!
My kids quote it verbatim CONSTANTLY!

Anchorman? Perfect! Thx BC!

Lexx-i was a cheerleader a LONG time ago and can totally see the girls wearing those shirts!

Pep-thanks! I am almost done with Plan A, so the encouragement is really needed right now! LOVE the new sig. Line, btw!

Visitation went well. Over 400 people there. Sis did so well. I think She GAVE as much comfort as she recv'd! The shirts were a hit! I am sure Nephew is proud of everyone, but perhaps his dad who was not around much. Oh well, HIS loss

Talked to kids. It was bedtime. Drac just got home from work. FIL had taken care of them all nite

I chatted him up about work. Telling him what a great job he is doing in a tough sitch. Yada yada yada

He was 'decent' asking about sitch here

I sent him a text later, after we returned from Sis's house. Just said 'wish u were here'

So, funeral service this am. Not bothering with any mascera today.

Thx for the continued support all!

((((BUGSY))))

You coulda got you some WATERPROOF mascara....

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Yes,, the Goddess in me should have remembered that!:)

I have to tell you, the 'locals' won't care one way or another. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I told Sis (joking) I will be back here to look for a man--as it should be easy for me since I have all my teeth!

We tease her about the rural area here but I am so glad she has such Wonderful, loving, caring people in her community. They are fantastic.

Talked to Drac a few min ago. I was telling him about some things that happened - he commented about 'how selfish' my Sis's Ex and other son are being

I bit my tongue - I wanted to say "well, you should know bcause U are being the same way!'

He was telling me how hard it is because his new position required HE personally, do so much, and he is 'unable to be home and take care of things"

Again, I bit my tongue! Drew blood this time!

Gotta finish dressing.

As they say here 'later ya'all!'

LOL.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Drac is such an IDIOT, isn't he?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

In case you missed it on my thread

Thought you could use this right now.

Golf Cart A$$ Face

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Hey everyone!

finally back at a computer to check in with my MB family.

Nephew's visitation and funeral were the hardest things I have ever been through in my life.

I know God and everyone was with us, and it truly helped carry us all through it. My Sis has such incredible strength. She had all of us, as well as so many friends around her giving such love.

Though painful for us all, it was truly a celebration of Life. The Life of my Nephew, the lives he touched, and the lives he continues to touch through his organ donation.

We are having another "memorial" of sorts in the area where he has been living for the last 2 1/2 years, as many friends could not travel to KY for services there. Next Sat we are having a casual outdoor bar-b-que and memorial in his honor.

I called Drac after the funeral, got his vm, but did not leave a message. He DID call back. I told him the truth,,, I called because I needed to hear his voice.

The second hardest thing about this past week was not having my H by my side, to be my rock, to hold and comfort me. So many times, I felt so all alone. I did not tell Drac any of that!

He was just "ok" about it. Then I told him that we were planning this memorial,,,,,,,,,and that I want DD to be there. I told him that depending on when we have it, I will pick up or drop off DD to him at the Lake, as I do not want to "ruin" their weekend, but I DO want her there.

He started to argue,,,,,,,,,"She's too young. You are going to take her from ALL THIS FUN, to THAT?"

I interrupted him - "You didn't let me explain. This is not dressing up and sitting in the funeral home, listening to a preacher, and crying all day. This is a causal, outdoor bar-b-que, a CELEBRATION of his life and I want/need her there"

He eventually said, "well, whatever. Let me know"

I was too tired, too sad, too exhaused to deal with it.

I did talk to him later that night and he was fairly kind.

We went to the cemetary yesterday to visit his grave before returning home. I have NEVER seen so many flowers. My sister's back yard was FILLED and smelled like a floral shop and then the entire grave was covered with stands all around it filled with flowers. Such a tibute to a wonderfual young man.

I was almost home and called Drac. No answer. I didn't leave a vm. I thought they might be outside, so I went by FIL house. They weren't there and FIL had not seen them all day. I visited with FIL and Uncle for a bit.

Drac called back. Seems they'd spent most of the day with friends (who I know and like). DD had a great time playing with their daughters who are close in age to her. Drac helped his friend with some work.

They were on their way to a bday party for the daughter of his BF. I just told him to call me after the party.

Am going to get some coffee and then post the "Rest of the Story" about my evening,,,,,,,,,,,,it is Interesting,,,,,,,I'll just leave you with these words -

BOOTY CALL,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> Bugs... where are you? NO fair! Inquiring minds want to know... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

OMG!!!

I'm going out for awhile..but I caught this!!

GODDESS... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Can't wait to hear about this...

While visiting with FIL, he told me that Drac had said he wasn't seeing the Ho any more. That they'd had a fight and broken up. I told FIL that I was sure that is a LIE. We both agreed that Drac lies to us BOTH and we can not believe a word he says.

I had come home and went out on my back deck with a glass of wine. I sat out there all evening. I came in and got one of Grandma's quilts, wrapped up in it, and watched the starts come out while laying on the chaise lounge. It was wonderful. Just thought about Nephew and life.


So, DD calls me and they had just left the bday party. It was pretty early still. She had a Great time at the party. I talked to DSS and he had a good time, too.

Drac got on the phone. He was pretty chatty. Talked about the party, the kids, how he's not ready for the girls to be old enough to have boyfriends!

Told him what I had been doing,,,, we talked about the stars and planets. It was nice. Then,,, the call dropped.

I did not call him back, as I thought maybe there was a problem with the phone. He did not call me back either. No big deal,,,,as I was not surprised since I have been working hard on NO Expectations of the WH!

I sent a text message a bit later - "So, guess that was good night?. I am going to sit here for a bit longer and then take a nice hot bath. Nite"

I had noticed earlier, that the motion light on the deck did not kick on. I checked it, and the bulbs were unscrewed. I found that VERY odd, as I had discovered the same thing a couple of weeks ago. I screwed them back in and it was working fine.

I went in and took a bath. While in the tub, I saw the light come on outside, and then it went right back off. I KNEW it was Drac! He's apparently been peeking in my window before,,,,????

I just operated as normal. Finished my bath,, took my time drying off in front of the window,,,applying lotion to my entire body,,,,,put on my Goddess night gown. Walked around the house doing various things and then got in bed.

Not 2 minutes after being in bed, the phone rings. GUESS WHO?

Drac, asking if I got the TM he sent. I had not. I looked at it, we chatted about all kinds of things.

He then mentions that he "thought we could have s*x from time to time, but that i stopped because you(Bugs) were 'getting the wrong idea' about it,,,,know what I mean?"

Bugs - "no, I don't know what you mean. Do I want SF? Yes. Do I want SF with YOU? YES"

Drac - "well then that's no help if you don't know what I mean"

Bugs -"I've been pretty clear, I think. I felt the same about you BEFORE we were having SF, I felt the same when we WERE having SF, and I feel the same way now. Nothing has changed for me"

Silence for a while.

Drac "Well, I don't know what else to say"

Bugs in a calm, upbeat voice "Ok, well have a good nite, get some sleep"

Drac "Nite"

We'd talked for about 30 minutes at that point.

5 minutes later, phone rings again

Drac "If I were standing at the door would you be interested in opening it and "x"?"

Bugs "Yes, I would be interested, but you'd have to give me something"

Drac "Give you something? What"

Bugs "You'd have to stay here for a while and do "X". This isn't a one way street you know"

Drac"I could do that"

Bugs "Well, that's interesting"

Drac "How about you come open the door?"

So,,,,,,,,,,, I did.

He left an hour and a half later. It was just SF, no love, but that was OK by me.

We did doze off holding each other for a while. He got up to get a drink, and I went to another room and laid down.

He came in and said he had to go. I said, "OK, thanks. Drive safe". No clinging, no attempts to hold on to him, etc. I think it surprised him.

He kissed me on the forehead and left.

I did not text or call like I might have in the past.

I want him to THINK that he is going to be allowed to have his cake and eat it to. My PLAN is not changed. However, I think that last night will help to make it more effective.

He came to ME. I did not INITATE or REQUEST any of it AT ALL!

I made the decision knowing full well what to expect and what NOT to expect. This wasn't me begging for some crumbs. This wasn't me agreeing to something thinking it would be the magical turning point to bring Drac home. In fact, I KNEW it would not.

It WAS Plan A. It was showing Drac my best, giving without expectation, so that Plan B will be more effective.

Ok,,,,, bring on the opinions,,,,,,,

Wow, wow and wow. I'm no expert as you know, but sounds to me like the ultimate ending of Plan A. Boy wouldn't he be shocked? I don't know though and I wouldn't go by my advice. Let the pros tell you that.

I was a little concerned about the peeping though. If you go to Plan B, I'd definitely fix it where that doesn't happen anymore. He gets NO Bugs fix... even a peep.

WOW IS RIGHT! What I wouldn't give for a booty call right now <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> It's been a looooong time! And you handled it so well - I learn a little more everyday from you all.

BUGS!

BUGS!

BUGS!

However....

THIS Can not be how the Plan A ends.

NOPE, NADA, NO WAY.

The Plan B might be near, but not right away.

Take what your FIL said at face value for a minute. WH does lie, but he doesn't like to talk to FIL, cuz FIL busts his chops.

So, no reason to reveal anything to FIL that isn't realistic to a certain degree.

ANd as we all know, the OW can make up with Drac.

So, where does that leave us?

Drac as a free agent.

AND make sure you keep the bulbs screwed in.

There are others that can help better than me at this particular point, Silent Lucidity can provide some guidance.

However, Drac is LOOKING for you. Your Plan A has been WORKING.

Don't blow it up but getting to diverted from your path.

You have kept to your truths. And he is recognizing it.

I do not know what you have done today. You posted at 10:33 and it now 7:17 EST.

I hope he has called. Take the call. Be flirty , Fun and available.

"We can fix this"

"There is room Here"

If this was a first date, what would you do next?

What about that Family Dinner? For his Promotion?

ADMIRATION NEED

OK?

Great job other wise!

LG

Today I did talk to Drac earlier this am

I was not especially flirty but not cold either. pretty much the same as I have been for a while

I cleaned house and laid out on the deck for a while. I had a call with the family about plans for the memorial. I then took a nap

DD woke me up - they had just gotten here and Drac was outside mowing.

I was in shorts and my swimsuit top.

Drac came in for a while when mower broke. He then went into the basement and took a bunch of bins of stuff for the lake trip. I watched from the deck while watering the flowers

He came in, went thru the mail. He agreed to deliver a few things from his work for the memorial. I asked about getting a tent from his friend who rents them.

After telling me the friend would have what I need, he says 'His business is going to have a new owner soon'

Bugs 'really?'

Drac 'yes. Me. After things are settled with us I am taking out a huge loan and buying it'

I was taken completely by surprise so I smiled and said 'well good for you'

He went on about it for a minute or two. I did not say anything, just smiled.

Old Bugs would have asked a bunch of questions to point out how much of a BAD idea it is.

So, quiet about it was the best I could do.

I did make sure to get really close to him and give a couple of rubs.

He seemed reluctant to leave. I thanked him very much for mowing and confirmed I would keep DSS tomorrow night.

He told me he left MY floating lounge downstairs. I said thx. He asked if I would pack DD's bag for the weekend.

I said yes and that when he had time, we'd need to work out the details about the weekend whenever he wanted.

He said ok. He asked if all was ok and said to call if I need anything.

I plan to call after getting DD to bed and telling him a specific 'need' that only HE can meet

LG-I agree, that I do not immediately go to Plan B YET,,, but I am still convinced that it will still be necessary.

I am concerned that while he may be finding me 'attractive' he may also be 'playing' me.

So,,will be awaiting for some more ideas??

good lord!



Dracula is a regular peeping tom ...

I hope he is not filming you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

PS

I think he IS playing you

and

he finds you attractive

they are not going to cancel each other out!

Pep-

Ok, so if he IS playing me AND he finds me attracive,,, and they do not cancel each other out,,,,

Then what?