Rin,

Not QUITE bouncing off the walls now!

Just nervous energy. The pit of the stomach feeling I used to get every time I'd talk to Drac. The same one I started to get when thinking about saying 'come home'

I got past feeling that way ALL of the time. I can do this now. Light and breezy, Goddess style! Just gotta get it in my head all nice and straight first.

I will TRY to make it happen asap. But am going to trust in God to present the right opportunity at the right time & place.

So, now that part is in his hands, I can concentrate on the way I will ask this.

Eph, so sorry this didn't go well with your WW

The truth is, right now Drac and I are not at odds on anything, so I don't see him trying to pull the old tit for tat deal on me

WHICH further illustrates why I need to do this asap before Mon if possible!

As with any WS,,,,I am keeping NO expectation. Just a supreme hope & total trust in God to work this situation according to His plan

PRAY..for STRENGTH..and for HIS TOUCH on your HUSBAND'S HEART...Notice I didn't refer to DRAC...

Mimi,

Perfect. It is only my H that is important here.

I have re-written the 'talk/request' a couple of times. A friend of mine, who also knows Drac is looking at it for me.

I am getting more comfortable with it as I continue to make it my own and taylor it to Drac.

I will post later if I get a chance

Everyone - feel free to keep those prayers coming! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Awesome, you got it Momma!

I have a special pray just for you and Drac! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Esther (in the Bible) prepared herself (getting in GODDESS mode?) and her heart before appearing before the King to ask for FAVOR. I am praying that you find FAVOR with your H and that he LISTENS and responds.

Thx for the continued prayers!

Drac took kids out last night so no chance to talk. Will see what happens tonite. I have both kids,,so probably won't get a chance.

I wasn't in the right frame of mind when I spoke w/him last night. His friend R just bought a Harley. I asked when Drac was buying one (he's talked about if for a long time).

He just said 'I don't know about that' yead right! So I just asked about the kids and them gave him a light and breezy, 'I gotta run'

He brought them over this am & came in the bathroom while I was naked. Oops! I put on a short gown and came out. I did get a typical WS hug, but it was a hug.

I really think there's been contact based on the way he is acting.

I am also wondering, since I know he talked to his A recently, if he is just playing me completely. He is just being nice, attentive, and keeping OW contact limited/hidden for now to try to make the D go smooth?

That is what my gut is telling me.

I have a busy day to get through

Hope everyone has a good day!

Bugs,

I'm keeping you in my prayers. Keep up the great work.

I would listen to your gut... so be cautious.

Still

Bugs:

It seems that Drac has gotten back in contact with Ho. So.

Get ready for Plan B.

I thought that his R with Ho had ended. Therefore, making it easier for you to win.

But, he went back.

Time to Plan B.

You have down a marvelous Plan A. Drac seemed to have really noticed, and was splitting from Ho.

That process has been stopped.

So.

It's time for you to stop putting yourself through many of the things that you have done.

Plan B.

Work with Steve H on this.

Sorry.

(((BUGS)))

LG

LG,

Was thinking about that myself.

It is just a guess on the contact. It could just be plain old fear. He felt himself getting too close.

Just trying to decide about having the talk about calling Steve.

Was thinking of asking him again about putting in the air conditioner and doing it then.

If I can get him to do that tonight, we can talk tonight and maybe get that set up asap.

THEN after custody mediation and his talk with Steve, we evaluate Plan B?

Decided to Just Do It and called Drac to come by tonight

No go. He is helping his friend C tonight.

So, now I won't see him to Fri night, if then.

Bugs:

SH is the real expert here.

And he gets to talk with you directly.

But you have been plan A'ing for a long time.

It's getting time to have Drac make a choice.

Ask Drac to help with the AC.

Ask him to talk to SH on the date you set up, some time during the week of the 26th.

You felt him getting closer, then he went away. Well, time to choose.

Personnally. Give me an hour with him. I could straighten him out. SH can do better. But I can speak to the mindset.

FWIW.

LG

LG,

I'd send him over to you if I could!

Was it the 5 iron or the 7 iron that you prefer? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Question - any specific reason you mention the week of the 26th?

Bugs:

In Drac's case, I want a lot of weight behind it, so, I'll go with the sand wedge.

However, the phone would work fine.

As for the week of the 26th? Next week is scheduled up. The following week is more open. (my assumption) Since he can only talk to SH until 2 pm, it has to be during work hours. And if you do put it on SH schedule, and Drac does call, he has time to get ready.

And if Drac doesn't want to do it, then you could talk to SH at that time.

LG

Gotcha! Thx!

I had to call Drac about a work issue. He got off quick to take care of it

He sounded really stressed so I sent a quick email, saying 'you sound too stressed! Smile! Breathe! Remember how you told me you don't take it personally? Imagine yourself doing something relaxing --or picture ME doing something to help you relax! Bow chicky bow bow!'

He called me right back. Told me how he fixed the issue. Shared some things from his day. Asked about my day and my work.

It felt like there was something he wanted to say or talk about, but just couldn't do it.

You know how a person's voice just sounds nervous? This is the 2nd time this week he sounded/acted that way??

I was the light breezy sweet Goddess as usual! Lol!

Will have to see how he sounds when he calls later tonite.

Gotta run,,again!

Bugs:

Please Elaborate:

It felt like there was something he wanted to say or talk about, but just couldn't do it.
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You know how a person's voice just sounds nervous? This is the 2nd time this week he sounded/acted that way??

Circumstances???

LG

We were talking on the phone both times.

Good coversation. The first time he'd told me about the lake trip coming up. I had asked my questions on who was going. We talked about where they we're staying, etc. Light and breezy. We had moved on to something else and the conversation was at one of those pauses where it would be an appropriate ending point.

Rather than end it, he would just breath for a few seconds, maybe sigh, say well,,,, and be hesitant in a way he is not usually. He'd even take a breath as if he were going to say something but now say anything

Today was pretty similar. He'd finished telling me about going to help his friend out, after we'd talked about several other things. He acted exactly the same

As if he did not want to end the call,,,all of the above things again.

Does that help?

One item to note. Last night was the last we'd talked and I kept that pretty short. Normally I prompt him to talk about anything and everything. Instead I kept it brief and said I had to go when he was acting like he was in the mood to chat

Don't know if that matters

Any of that help?

Get your focus OFF of HIM and back ON TO YOUR OWN PLAN...

He could be up to almost ANYTHING....

I was almost ALWAYS WRONG when I tried to PREDICT or UNDERSTAND my H when he was WAYWARD...

CRAZY ALIEN... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Oh..and BTW..of course he's still in contact with her...

Remember the POST CARD???

She got to him..

So you have to MOVE FAST, BUGSY!!!

Bugs:

Do you think he is about to lose his Job?

The Boss comes over and tells him he is "Different"

Since he isn't taking it personal, has he lost his "edge"?

???

Otherwise, he wants to tell you something, but obviously can't find the proper opening.

It could be that he is back in contact with Ho. And was part of the lake trip and the "friend" meeting tonight.

Or.

He is looking for an invite. Back home. Whatever. The mediation conferece could be a interesting meeting.

About my earlier suggestion. Drive over together?

But I still think it's time to force a choice.

Therefore, Plan B looms. You can stay in the house.

I'm really stumped at this point. We really need Mimi's analysis here.

When's your next consultation with SH?

LG

ETA: There was Mimi... Posting before I was even finished!