Mimi:

About this:

"He could be up to almost ANYTHING...."

That's right. But the hesitantcy.

"Never let them see you sweat"

Drac is letting Bugs see him sweat.

Ho could be pregnant as well.

Remember, the post card said: "FROM ALL OF US"

Laters, Drac.

LG

Like I said it could be ANYTHING...

It does not matter.

He's still a WAYWARD...not much LOGIC there....

Major goal..get him to talk to Steve PRONTO...

Cause when he goes back in with her now..it may be DEEP..FOR A WHILE...sorry, BUGS..it's the old "Break up to make up" scenario.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I was thinking the EXACT same 2 scearios as you LG!

Of course my new, improved MB Goddess powers telling me it is BAD news about the Ho
And
My heart hoping and praying it is him wanting me.


BTW- his job is very secure. The boss just told him to slow down. He can't fix everything all in one day. He IS very good at his job,,,I just think he attitude is different.

Mimi,

I want to have the talk about phone consult w/Steve asap.

Problem is, I won't get to see him until Sunday night now.

My thought is to ask him over for a Father's day dinner.

So, guess I am in Plan A for now.

I don't have anything scheduled w/steve yet

I didn't feel that my H REALLY wanted ME until way into RECOVERY...

I mean to the place where it was ME and ME ONLY...

I was told to ALWAYS ASSUME continued contact unless you have proof to the contrary...

I'm trying to prepare you so you won't be surprised, Bugs...

It's incredible how LOWDOWN WSes can be...

Mimi,

I KNOW yor are right.

Yet, YOU also know how we BS's are soooo susceptable to only seeing the GOOD and hoping for so much when the WH is Nice or Seems like the H for even a brief glimpse!

Thanks, as always, for helping me Prepare!

Trying to help you learn from my experience.

ACCEPTANCE OF THE REALITY OF THE WS is best, IMO.

This is not meant to make you feel HOPELESS...cause I think you have lots of reason for HOPE.

This is meant to HELP YOU WITH THE FIGHT..to realize the TOUGHNESS OF THE BATTLE!!

You have a LONG WAYS TO GO YET..so don't let down your guard...

You have to STAY TOUGH..to be PREPARED for a lot more to come...

I agree with you Bugs on seeing that breif glimpse and hoping...

That's what I saw tonight...or that's what I think I saw tonight...big difference in my case...

I have so much hope for you...tons and tons and tons!!!

Rin & Mimi-

Yes, I have to remember how oh so charming Drac can be,,,but he is still DRAC, not H!

Last night's convo was very brief. He said he was on the way home from C's and was really tired. Said he'd call this am,,which means he calls the KIDS at the sitter's, not the house where we would talk.

I sent some funny emails to him this am, one a bit suggestive

Am going to call later and ask him to water my flowers for me

Then am going to wait and call again to ask him to dinner Sun night

He has been pretty responsive when I call him and ask for help. I need to do that more during the final days of Plan A.

He almost never calls me during the day and I have been hesitant to call him, thinking he is too busy. That was a mistake.

I think I need to do that reaching out.

Time for some work.

Oh--BTW, Rin, glad POWS was nice last night. But BEWARE! I know you will!

Just called Drac to 'are you busy?'

Drac'well, busy but not too too busy. What's up?'

Bugs 'I just called to see how you are this am'

He started out sounding down saying he is sooo tired.

I kept it light and breezy and he perked up.

Told me a story about his new kitten attacking him in his sleep last night and a few other minor things.

I said, well guess I'd better get some work done,,,

And then he goes into another story about something that happened at work. Even included 'I had wanted you to hear the voice mail'.

Then he said he was going into a meeting and we ended.

He really does not realize how much he is going to miss me, does he??

Bugs,

He isn't going to know what hit him when you go into plan B.

Keep up the amazing work.

Still

I almost feel sorry for Drac ... almost

TOO funny!

Well, all I am signing off for the weekend. Won't have any access til Sun night!

Hope I don't have severe withdrawl!

Have a great weekend all.

Happy Father's Day to all of you GREAT DADS! You have some Very lucky kids!

Hey, BUGS...POWs can kiss ny rear as far as I'm concerned...nice or not, he's still an @$$! LMAO

I think that it will just be nice to be NICE to each other in the future for exchange of the kis...I have nothing to offer him otherwise...

he's got to much work to do on himself for me to even consider having a future with him! Sad, but reality!

Thanks for the warning! I'm one of those sincere believers that really thinks that Drac is going to lose part of his sanity without having you in his life...I'm extremely hopeful in regards to your sitch...

Well, you have a great weekend and I look forward to hearing from you when you are able...take care! And oh, give yourself a hug for me...you know since you're a Charlie's angel and all! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Happy Father's Day everyone! Hope it was a good one!

I feel like I've been gone from here for a month!

Let's see,,,,,, Friday I am on my way to traffic school and talk to Drac on the phone. I ask him about his weekend plans. He tells me about Sat plans to help his friend R landscape. He says they have nothing planned for Sun.

Bugs - "Well then how about you let us make you a nice Father's Day Dinner"

Drac "I guess we can do that. But, will it cause an issue with what we have coming up on Monday" (meaning custody hearing, but not saying it straight out)

Bugs "What kind of issue do you mean? If you have a problem with it, you don't have to come" (not what I planned to say but it just slipped out.

Drac "I don't know. I know you don't want to talk about it so I just don't bring it up."

Bugs "Well Drac, there really isn't anything to talk ABOUT. You know I don't want this. I don't think it is the right thing for us or for our family. I love you and think you should come home because I know we can fix this. I have found something intriguing, something different. It's something that has options we haven't considered before that I think could help us.

I've been thinking about it and wanted to ask you if you would be willing just to listen about the ideas for 45 minutes. It's not that I want you to force you to do anything you don't want to or to shove anything down your throat. It's just someting to consider and it would really help me out if you would be willing

Do you think you could do something like that for me?"

Drac "Yes,,,I guess I could do that. What, I just sit and listen?"

Bugs "Well it would be over the phone, talking to a guy. He's someone I've done counseling with. It would be an exchange of ideas. You can hear about the ideas, and then you can even tell him why it won't work. It would be a 2 way street. Even if what comes out of this is that you are able to talk to him so that I can better understand things. You see, I"m stuck. I belive that we can fix this. I need help to get unstuck. So, you are willing to help me?"

Drac "Yes I will."

Bugs "Great! We can talk about the details next week. I'll call you Sunday when I am done with class."

Gotta check the laundry and then will post about TODAY! I will tell you that Drac just left about 15 minutes ago,,,,,

Great news Bugs. I am so glad that he agreed to talk to SH.

There is a light at the end of this tunnel - it's you.

So,,,,, I get out of class this afternoon, run to the store, buy shrimp, potatoes, salad, corn, and steaks. Am on the way home and call Drac's phone. DD answers and we chat.

I am getting close to home when she tells me that they are at the house. Drac had been mowing the grass. He gets on the phone and sounds a bit crabby with the kids, but not bad. I tell him to send DSS out to help with the groceries, as I just pulled in.

I walk in, set down my stuff, walk up to Drac, put my hand on his waist & raise my face/lips for a kiss & GOT one> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Drac had made drinks and sandwiches for himself and the kids that they had just started eating, so I asked if they would be ready for dinner in about an hour to hour 1/2. He said yes,,, it was just a "snack"

He said he felt hot and sweaty when I asked how he was. So, I said, "Go take a shower". He declined.

I went about the business of getting things ready for dinner. I had everything prepped and was getting ready to make shortcake for strawberries & shortcake when I realized I was out of mix, and needed to go to the store. Drac came in the kitchen and said he decided to take a shower. So DD & I ran to the store while he showered.

After eating some peel & eat shrimp for an appetizer, he came in the kitchen while I was making salads. I told him the corn needed 10-15 minutes more. He says "Wow, you really went all out."

Bugs "Well, it's Father's Day, you should get all of your favorite things. "

Drac "Really? Then I thought I'd just get "X" (SF act)" laughing

Bugs "well, that can be on the menu, too, part of dessert" Smiling & laughing.

Drac "well, I was thinking it would be nice before hand. But could you make it happen in the 10 minutes before the corn is done?"

Bugs "Is that a challenge of my abilities? Or of yours?"

We bantered back and forth. He finished the kids salads and we had 'dessert' first while everything stayed warm on the stove.

We ate dinner and it was really nice. He settled in to watch tv, and did so for a couple of hours. I gave DD her bath and then we all played Uno together.

Rescue Me, one of his favorite shows was coming on. I sent the kids in to their rooms and we watched it together. He was telling me how he HATES one particluar female character, in fact, he said it several times. Later in the show he was saying how EVERYONE of the characters reminds him of someone. He told me a couple of the characters and who they reminded him of IRL.

The next scene had the character he HATES. I asked who she was IRL for him. He looked right at me and says "You don't want to know". Now, I took that to me the HO??? Hopefully not ME!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

He said he was the main character "Because I'm as f'd up as he is"

I replied, "Not hardly" He snorted with doubt.

We finished watching the show. I got another thanks for dinner. I gave him a plate of left overs, got a half way hug, and he was gone.

So,,,,,,,,,,,,,,overall good things I think??? Still trying not to read into these last 2 Sundays. I think Plan B is still on the near near horizon.

HOWEVER, I am calling FIRST thing in the morning to scheduel a session w/Steve for him. I'd asked Fri about what time would work for him and he hedged a bit. I know his schedule changes a LOT, but I have a general enough idea that I am going to go ahead and schedule it.

The BIG question right now is about mediation tomorrow. How to handle it??? I know he is not going to cancel it.

UUGGHHH - - the rollercoaster is making me queasy again!!! HELP!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Eph,

Thanks! I think that is the NICEST thing anyone has said to me today!!

Hope you had a GREAT Father's Day!

What time is it tomorrow? Can you call your laywer and ask him to come up with an excuse to postpone it?

Like Oops, my Laywer's busy today, we can't do the mediation, oh, well...perhaps in another week...

Everything sounds great...I'm still so hopeful!!! :0

Great job Bugs!

Thx Rin!

Mediation does not involve lawyers,so I am not especially freaked out

In fact, I do not HAVE to agree to anything tomorrow if I don't want to.

When Drac brought it before (not on Fri). He did not have the letter, just knew about it from his A. He did not know the time or place. He said 'it's at X, right with the GAL?'

I just said I did not have the letter in front of me

I am really hoping he DOES think it is the place he named, as that is NOT the right place! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

If he asks ME again, I am NOT telling him anything. Not my problem or responsibility!

Oh, in that case, do you FEEL okay? How's your stomach, any headaches, coughing, sinus problems?

LMAO... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I'm sure that it will all work out...of course, you could do an OPen and Honest statement will him, I don't want to do this and we stop the madness!

I don't know BUGS, just throwing some things out there!

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