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Bugsmom #1818096 06/21/07 08:37 AM
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I say we have our very own little tent revival today...

We can pray for Drac...word from ym attorney...to b still(word for the day), and anything else that comes our way...

i'll set up the chairs!

would you like to hold my hand?

Here, just for you:
http://www.bluemountain.com/display.pd?prodnum=3043567&path=35984&bfrom=1


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Rin,

Thanks for the card,, I won't be able to view til I het home. All of the great sites are blocked at work,,including MB! I use my blackberry to post 99% of the time!

Thanks for setting up the chairs. Please sit next to me & hold my hand!

Praise the Lord & pass the ammunition! (Hopefully we won't need the ammo!)

Who is going to be in charge of the collection?

I think we can count on BC to supply the wine for communion!

Seriously,, my prayers are with you for a good answer from your A today, for Drac to have his heart & mind touched by God, along with the hearts of all WS's out there.

T minus 3 hours


BS (me)
ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07

"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Praying God opens Drac's heart and mind!

Lord, you truly are an awesome God. Thank you for working in the lives of my friends. Today, I ask for a special blessing and a release of the perfect words and wisdom that will reach DRAC’s heart of hearts. I ask that you prevent any interruptions and any wandering of the mind, that DRAC will be able to focus on what is being said to him. I know that your will is for this marriage to be restored because your word says that you hate divorce. Please break DRAC today. Bring him to his knees. Let the words he hears seep deep into his heart. Thank you for your divine intervention in this situation today. And please give Bugs an extra dose of calm and peace today and for the next few days as you work in her life and in DRAC’s life.


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Oh PM!

Thank you so much!

I am sitting here with tears running down my face! Don't worry,,that is a good thing!

Powerful, heartfelt touching prayer brings me the feeling of closeness to the Lord. It is an outward sign of my totally giving it all over to Him, and that always makes me cry.

It is so hard to describe, but the best example is when I was a little girl, and something would be bothering me. My mom would always notice and eventually sit me down on her lap, wrap her arms around me and I would just cry,,sometimes really hard

Then, and only then, would she ask me if I wanted to talk about it.

It is that kind of shelter, love, and warmth I feel when praying.

Can't say thank you enough!


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ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07

"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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You're welcome. I understand. I feel the same way when I write out my prayers to the Lord. Sometimes it makes me tremble. I relate it to how I felt when I was a little girl and I would sit in my daddy's lap during a church service. He had this deep, powerful baritone voice. Just feeling the vibration of his voice was such a comfort to me. I long to be able to do that again, just lean back against him and feel his heartbeat and hear his voice. I imagine that's what our Heavenly Father longs for us to do with Him as well.

You ARE loved and he IS your shelter.

(((Bugs)))


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Bugsmom #1818101 06/21/07 10:10 AM
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T minus 2.5 hours!

Am sitting here being as STILL as possible! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07

"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Don't forget to breathe!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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Bugs picks herself up off the floor,,, looks around,,

What time is it?

What happened?

OOOPS! I forgot to breathe!

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for the reminder. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

What would I do without all of you?

I would likely be one of the following places

1. In the fetal position on the floor for the past 5 months

2. Mental institution

3. Rehab

And the WORST POSSIBLE OPTION at this point in time

4 DIVORCED ALREADY and still wondering what I could have/should have done

Glad to be where I am instead!


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ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07

"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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T-minus 33 minutes
(as long as Steve is on schedule)

My stomach is in knots!

I think I am going to leave the office and go lay in the tanning bed at appt time

That way, no phone calls, no work, just me and God talking.

BTW- countdown to MY followup with Steve, T-minus 20 hours

Anyone have an extra Valium? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


BS (me)
ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07

"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Well, IF Drac kept the appt, it is finished.

SO, do I say nothing unless he brings it up?

I talk to Steve in T-minus 17.75 hrs

It is not as if I expect Drac to call right away and say 'Wow Bugs! Let's run off this weekend to an MB weekend event!'

It would be nice,,

I was thinking of continued light & breezy Goddess. No mention of MB, the appt, anything.

Thoughts!

BTW Mimi,, some day, a very long time from now, you will forgive my cheap a$$ payless shoe shopping ways <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07

"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
Bugsmom #1818106 06/21/07 02:37 PM
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oh bugs;
The next 17 hours will be the toughest on ALL of us.
We are right there with you.

I would wait to get Steve's take before bringing it up to Drac.

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I would wait to get Steve's take before bringing it up to Drac.

I agree, BUT if Drac brings it up, I'd mostly listen. From what you've told us about him, he'll need to process what he's heard. You've done well on the fly before, you'll know what to say or not say.


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Time for me to CONFESS about PAYLESS SHOES...

It was THROWN UP TO ME BY MY THEN WH how the OW bought her shoes at PAYLESS... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

So, nothing against you BUGS..I PLAN TO NEVER SET FOOT INSIDE THE STORE...even though they probably have some cute shoes...

What's so funny is that now SHOE SHOPPING is one of our favorite weekend pastimes..at DSW though...NOT PAYLESS (GAG....)


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ahhhhh -- triggerville.....

explains it!

Cuz personally I shop there for my kids.
I refuse to buy expensive shoes they outgrow in a matter of weeks!

And even for me -- especially just for summer fun shoes!

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OMG! NOW it makes PERFECT sense.

Ugh! Now I will have a visual every time I go there,, which is going to be much less.

I go there because in my line of work, I am often on construction sites, in mfg plants, etc where I refuse to ruin a Good pair of shoes! It just gets too costly!

So,,there we have it. A new reality program --Confessions of a Shoe Shopper! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

BTW- DSW is my fav place for good shoes

PM - thanks for the heads up reminder to be in LISTENING mode If Drac brings up anything.

Reading SL' wants vs needs thread today helps w/that mindset! Great stuff over there today,


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A 'little birdie' told me that Drac was in his office with the door closed today,,and arrived at a meeting late around 1:30

So,, appearances seem to indicate that he kept the appt! Whoo hoo!

Now, just 15.5 hours until we hear how it went.

The last hour I have been working on a power point presentation,,which gives my mind the chance to wander

One minute I am thinking I will be thrown into Plan B right away.

Then it is that Drac has convinced Steve it is over and done with. Period. End of story. Please proceed to the D-Line for further instructions!

Of course,,am hoping beyond hope that there is HOPE with some positive responses from Drac to Steve.

Uuugghhh. How much longer?

Mooommmmyy, ARE WE THERE YET?

Just thinking, suspicions of something being terrible being wrong started back in Sept, so it has been a 9 month rollercoaster ride so far.

It took the same amount of time to produce a perfect baby girl and THAT was MUCH easier than this! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07

"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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There is no way Drac convinced Steve that it is over and done with. No Way, No How, 100% DID NOT HAPPEN.

So you can stop thinking about that one. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

If Drac lasted the whole session, which it sounds like he did being he was late for a meeting, then progress was made.

He's comming around, I can feel it, and I had baked chicken for lunch so I wouldn't be feeling THAT. It's gotta be progress, just gotta be. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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Ah, the firm voice of positive thinking,,,witjh gastric influences aside! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks BC! I needed the positive vibes!

I haven't yet heard from him, but that is not surprising.

I was talking to one if my sisters (IRL sisters:) on the way home tonight. She said she would not be surprised if Drac chose to 'back pedal' soon,,, but she thinks it would be temporary at best. Of course, she does not know about any of the MB activities

Also, there is a HUGE amount of hurt on her part,,my family's part,, and even on my part over how Drac acted during the loss of her son. That will be a big hurt to heal if we get to recovery


Anywya,, it's going to be a long 13.5 hours!


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ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07

"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Well, Drac called on his way home from work. Talked to the kids and then me

He was pleasant and talkative. He asked if I had season passes for the amusement park,I said yes, why?

Apparently,the kids told him we were going again on Sat
I was getting ready to ask him to join us when he said he is going golfing w/his friend C. We talked about him taking up the sport.

I gave the usual admiration and support as much as possible. He hung on the phone for a bit with not much to say,, and then said for us to have a good night

No mention of his appt and I did not ask

Sooooo,,,we are now at T-Minus 12 hours.

wish he would have said Something about it!!!

If I were a nail biter, I'd have none left!


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ExWS -Drac
DD 9
DSS 15
D Day 11/06
Divorced 10/01/07

"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom
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Drac: "Uh, Bugs....about the appt. I had with that guy....ummmm...well I've been doing a lot of thinking lately and that guy convinced me that we COULD have a happy marriage by meeting each other's needs. Do you think you'd be willing to have me back?"

There ya go, sistah bee...that's what he'd say if he was able to speak after hearing so much wisdom from S.Harley, Esq.

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