Ani,


""What is the difference between cake eating and fencing?""

There really is no difference.

This is all my definition. Fence sitting is when the WS cannot let either party go EMOTIONALLY and cake eating is having SF with both parties and enjoying the fact that wayward is such a STUD or FOX depending on gender.

At least that was my definition as I posted to you.

""My husband has said many times that things could get really ugly at work if she found he moved back home to work on our marriage.""

OK, stop right here!! This is the EXACT definition of SEXUAL HARASSMENT!! PLEASE SPEAK TO AN ATTORNEY.

""He said she can make his life miserable.""

"" He says he's looking for a new job.""

He says - he says...........talk is cheap.

IMHO

k

I agree talk is cheap. I'm just trying to figure out is he just saying these things as a way to buy himself some time, not committing to come home or if he is truly concerned about his job and what might happen/

This is making me mad, I'm sorry to say.

You hate her, but don't want to rock her boat or her H. Hasn't it been said many times here at MB to let the chips fall where they may when an A is exposed.

What the worst that can happen to this little tr*p? Her and her H are fired? So the F what. She (and your H) did this, let her live with the effects of it.

If your H really wanted to make things right, I mean REALLY WANTED TO, nothing would stand in his way. Right now he doesn't feel that way b/c he is still getting a little something from the OW.

You will keep living with the question of "what to do next and when to do it" until your H is away from OM and no longer sees or talks to her. Do you see that?

I would call an lawyer and get their advise before I do anything else.

Then I would love to write HR a letter detailing everything - names, dates and places.

Let the Bit** feel your power for once!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

YOU COUNT TOO

Let me ask you a question.

What would you do for your loving H?


please answer without asking me anything first.

I would do whatever it takes to give my marriage a fighting chance.

Sure you would so what is keeping your H from doing the same?

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His addiction to the feelings he had with the OM.

Maybe2late-
Thanks. You're right. If he wanted to make our marriage work he would. What do you suggest I do next? What is my next step?