My 14 year old has missed nine days of school already. They started on 30 Aug. Migranes, stomach aches and such. Last night she said her chest was tight & she had to take a deep breath every few minutes to catch up. She didn’t get up for school this morning & I had to go wake her. She showed up at 12:30 as I was going in to see her counselor & let her know what is going on with Mom.<P>Anyway, I saw her in the hall & she said she still didn’t feel good. Took her to the emergency room. They poked & prodded for a while, did an EKG and a chest x-ray. Didn’t find anything wrong, but said perhaps an upper respiratory infection was coming on. If it got worse I should take her back. So far she is okay.<P>Jeez, what else is gonna happen?<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A>

Chris, how difficult for you. When my daughter was in 2nd grade my H lived 5 hours away working on a thesis for eight months. She complained of stomach aches and head aches, too. Doctor couldn't find a thing. They went away as soon as he came home.<P>So sorry she has to go through this and suffer the consequences of her mother's poor decisions.<P>Still, she has the best Dad looking out for her.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Hi Chris -<P>Saying prayers that she will be OK!!<P>Does she speak with her counselor? I know that stress can lower the immune system.....<P>hang in there.<P>Hugs,<P>Sheba

Chris,<BR>Bummer, My daughter had symptoms like that, turned out to be Allergies. When it rains it pours!!!!! Things like this really get us down, and when they say they can't find anything, that's good but we wish there was at least a simple explaination that would make it go away. I'm sending you some energy-------> !!!!!!! This too will pass for you and your daughter. <BR>Almost <P>--------<BR>TIME

Chris, Sounds like the affects of what is going on in her life. Children get just as stressed as we do. I can't remember but are you taking her to a counselor if not please do, and not the one at school. You need to find someone that deals with this kind of problem. School counselors are great but they just don't have the time to spend with each child like they should. Also since she is having migranes, she see a doctor for that at least to give her some time of medication to help them. Migranes can becaused by stress. This is just one way children deal with stress and one way the stress comes out, in illness. She will be alright children do cope especially if we keep reassuring that they are loved and IT IS NOT THERE FAULT. Hope this helps a little.<P>------------------<BR>di<BR>

I'm sorry Chris. Having our kids sick is the scariest thing.<BR>Hopefully she's just having a bad cold, all kids are going trough that in here, I guess it's the time for it.<BR>And as Sheba says, stress does lower the imune system.<BR>Keep us posted<BR>Kat<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.

Prayers to you and your daughter are going up right now!!<P>My oldest daughter had similiar symptoms, turned out to be asthma... which, by the way, is exaserbated by stress.<P>Hope she (and you!) is feeling better very soon!!<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

Chris,<BR>I feel for you, I know what you are going thru. I was enviuos of you because you didn't have to deal with your w and her infidelity in your life but it sure messes up your parenting.<P>I had a bad night too, nothing to compare with yours though.<P>I was to take my daughter to couseling tonite since my w. was scheduled to work tonite, so I made arrangement for neighbors to take my son to football practice. So good so far.<P>Then I get home and get the mail.<BR>There's a note from the bank, I made a $1000 error in a deposit, so now I'm that much poorer. At least I didn't bounce any checks!<P>I also got a local tax notice. It said I owed taxes. I called and asked why I owed if it was being taken out of my check. Guy couldn't answer that. I called my tax advisor and we determined that my new company has been taking the money out but has been sending it to the wrong city!! I guess somebody can get the money to the right place.<P>Anyway, i get my son out, take my daughter to counseling which went well. My daughter payed me a compliment saying I don't get mad like I used to ! I told her it was because I now have Jesus in my heart !<P>WE finally get to football practice and my son is standing there freezing ! I had sent him out in tee shirt and a mesh jersey. It must have been in the low 50's when I picked him up. I couldn't believe I hadn't had him dress warmer.<P>I got him home and in a warm shower and some warm food. I then went for a run, and when I got back looked at the damage that the skunks had done to my yard, it was worse that I expected but fixable if I get some time. Meanwhile, my supper was still on the stove on warm but somehow still managed to burn ! The pan is still soaking.<P>I guess I didn't mention the mixed news. This morning w stopped in and we talked, but somehow ended up arguing about the divorce papers(she said I was trying to punish her and keep her away from the kids)saying she would never forget this.<P>When I got home today, before I opened the mail, there was a message from w that she had set up a joint counseling for next week !!<P>Sorry to butt in on your thread!<P>Hope everything turns out well for your daughter.

Thanks all. She has had migraines the last few years. We took her to the Dr. last year. Even did an MRI. Couldn’t find anything wrong. Gave her some Motrin & something else. Usually happens about once a month. Hmmmmm!<P>She did start her period in January this year & they have gotten worse since then. Probably that & Mom. I am going to get her back in for a physical and also to see the child psychologist. Perhaps a teen support group for similar circumstances.<P>RWD, jump in whenever you like. Keep your chin up guy!<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A>

Chris, Sounds like you have everything under control. I think a teen support group would be a great idea. They need as much support and confirmation that there are others in the same boat as we do. Maybe you could check to see if there was some type of forum on the net like this only for her. Of course you would then have to share the computer. But you still sound like you are away ahead of the game in understanding your daughter Good For You. Good luck.<P>------------------<BR>di<P><p>[This message has been edited by SDS (edited October 07, 1999).]

Chris -- I will be saying an extra prayer for your daughter. Hope everything turns out to be just a cold.<P>God Bless

Prayers for you and your daughter... I've had migrains... icky things.... Some foods trigger them too, so keep a mental note of what she eats before she gets these...<P>cozy

I wish her a very speedy recovery. I hope she's feeling better very soon.

Chris - add my prayers for you and your daughter.<P>Lori

The tightness in the chest does sound like ashtma, but probably is more related to stress and emotional trauma. I feel so bad for both of you. I cannot imagine leaving my children, in particular my daughter. I'd like to smack your wife up side the head!<P>On another note, I am in the process of summarizing the findings of that research paper you pointed out to us a couple of weeks ago, (for my book) and wonder if you would mind reading that part to see if I have interpreted all the data correctly and written it in terms that the average Joe can understand. Let me know, I should be around most of the day!<P>Thanks.

HOPE SHE IS FEELING WELL. You sound like an excellent, empathathic father that ALL men should try to emulate Chris. You are in my thoughts today.

Hope she feels better real soon. Prayers here...<P>------------------<BR>Joan <P>"Turn your wounds into wisdom..." That really cool black gal who was on Oprah all summer.<BR>

Sorry to hear it Chris..... Anxiety is a powerful thing. Hopefully in time this will pass. You guys are in my thoughts<P>------------------<BR>Rutger......One day at a time.<P><BR>

Hi, Chris,<P>Bingo! (on 'once a month') I have had migraines during three times in my life: during puberty, when on the pill (had to get off), and when pregnant. Oh! Make that four - the last few months - the dreaded 'perimenopause' (I'm ONLY 43!!!) . Between that & major stress, I'm not surprised.... also, do check out the asthma thing, esp. if she is doing any coughing, esp at night. I think both migraines & asthma can be triggered by allergies... might want to start a food diary and/or take her to a good allergist?<P>Good luck & keep us posted. BTW, how is your little one doing? (never rains, it pours, huh? ). You're doing great, Daddy! <P>------------------<BR>~suse~<BR>Rome wasn't built in a day.<P>p.s. Think I like icons? <p>[This message has been edited by suse (edited October 07, 1999).]

Thoughts your way, Chris... and to your daughters.<P>I’d bet my mortgage this has a lot to do with stress and is directly applicable to what your W is doing. May well be exacerbating what Suse wrote, but if you were one big happy family again (or still), I would imagine the “attack” would have been a lot milder.<BR>