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well, I still have not confronted WH ---(soon!) So I bought the mushiest card I could find and enclosed a very mushy but appropriate poem that I found...he was caught a little off guard as i usually give funny cards...I am being the perfect wife....
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Good for you...Good Plan A...keep your head up... Wonderful job! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Another first done.... just glad it is the 15th,
Actually wsn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. Had "good" news that MOW may be getting bored. He couldn't have a romantic V day with her cause he had our son.
And me I just chilled with my daughter and her boyfriend and went to bed early.
Still
BW me 46
WH 46
Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
Moved out (him) weekend after labor day
23rd anniversary 10/7/07
Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW
Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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I picked up my W from the airport (she came in a day early) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> and brought her to my house so I could give her the gifts I bought. I decided to keep it simple this year. Since I LB'ed pretty bad last night I knew I wasn't the favorite person on her list. She made that comment to which I replied "well what happens when the favorite person on that list is a male and it's not your H?"
So anyways I went to Perfect Peace (Christian store) and got her a keychain and a cross necklace. She did like them. I also started Plan A. Wish me luck!
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BH /FWH (EA - summer 06) - (me)31
WW /FBW (EA/PA - october 06 - ongoing)- 31
Married - 8/22/98......8 1/2 years
Children - 0
Separated - 1/09/07
D-day - 2/21/07
WW filed / I was served divorce papers - 3/5/07
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Good Morning! Good for both of you...I so glad that things turned out better than either of you thought. jrlex...you'll be in my prayer...wishing you the best! Still... You're doing great! I have faith that YOU will be JUST fine! Look forward to hearing from you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Mine was absolutely horrible!!!!!!!
Dealing with the IRS for lunch. Looks like made some mistakes but oh well.
OS decided to not do schoolwork. Has 3 D's and an F. As parents we couldn't understand since the Teachers were signing the homework he needed to do. Found out he signed it for them. Now we have to deal with that. Lots of make up work etc.
We are moving tomorrow again because the apartments we live in have gone completely down hill. A kid actually swung a bat at my kids and since they are kids there is nothing that can be done. Unless the kid would have made contact.
Then YS actually figured out a way to get wrapped up in a seatbelt and I had to cut him out. That was fun.
So other then that the wife and I had a wonderfull day.
BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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Rinder,
We went to dinner and DH surprised me with jewelry...opal and diamond earrings and matching necklace...
My stellar wifely response? A really loud, "Oh, crap!!"
LOL
He laughed.
What did I give my stunningly wonderful DH? Sugar-free brownies from the Girl Scouts.
Hey, I gave him the whole box...does that count?
ROFL...so his bday is next month and I gotta get it in gear...I tell you...
<--too happy for words.
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Kids got WW a card each and Yankee Candles
I got WW two cards, a heartfelt letter, and a artificial flower arrangement (roses)
WW got me nothing, and didn't help the kids get me anything.
But.....
I got the Valentines crafts the kids made in school and SS class - truly from their heart.
<Sigh>
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids. Plan A Thread Plan B ThreadEphesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
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Well, I flipped her on the mattress - does that count? ROTFLMAO!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Good one, MiM ~ glad to see you are able to use your sense of humor, even in this suck situation! ~MF
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. 
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Frog- ROTFLMAO!! Only YOU buddy! I'm SO glad that it turned out SO well! LA- opal and diamond earrings and matching necklace Holy [email]Cr@p![/email] My favorite, Opals! OMG, I would have died! Way to go! What a blessing indeed! You guys with the mattress flipping...ROTFLMAO!!! I can't allow myself to say anymore! Hope you enjoyed! LMAO
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Funny that early in this thread there is a mention of a lump in the throat of apprehension. I had both a emotional AND physical one ! I've got a swollen saliva gland. My day was work, then home to give out candy to kids and then took stepson to Boy Scouts - meet parents, sign up for camp etc... Got home and talked with wife a bit (friendly) and then gave her some gifts and cards. She was mostly "OK - thanx" - pretty unemotional. I am having a hard time adapting to her not having a "soft" side - she doesn't have one or the one she has is well hidden and protected. She is probably the most unromantic woman I've ever met. She laughs and makes fun of anything "romantic". When I comment about a romantic kind of ambiance in a resturant or anywhere her responce is usually "yea - I guess so". There is nothing wrong with it - it is just that even 4 years later I haven't gotten used to it. I always had this impression that women liked romantic type things - something most of us guys struggle with. Valentines token for me ? Nothing - not even a card. I asked and she quickly said "sorry". I just dropped it. I do feel kind of slighted though. I guess it is just more evidence of the the state of our marriage - it's the withdrawal/"whatever" stage for her. I have to remind myself to try to not take it personally and just try to not LB and work to fulfill her EN's. We did excersize the bed springs though - so the day wasn't a complete downer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Well, Notas...I hope that you are taking care of that gland...my boss' son had the same thing...got really big and they removed his...
LOL...always a good way to celebrate the day...
Glad it didn't end so bad for you!
I didn't get anything material either but I was okay with that...H got me diamond earring for Christmas...just little posts that I wanted, something I could wear everyday...and he really didn't get anything for Christmas, things were a little tight...
Next "holiday" for us will be his B-day, and I'll get him a gift more than likily but I'll be [email]d@mned[/email] if I made a big deal out of this b-day this year...I don't want to be the some surprised again...LOL...one year anniversary of D-day coming up...his b-day is the April 18th...
Last year he didn't even get a piece of his cake...there were only a few pieces messing...big cake too...and I just walked to the garbage can and flipped it over into the can...
H was SOOO pissed...Oh, well! I was hurt and he told me "see that's the kinds of things you do!"
Crazy, Wayward talk...I planned that party for a month behind his back...called everyone...booked the place...ashame...
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Ha!!!!
Nobody beat my valentine's day. I am the big wiener!
Found out the seat belt will only cost $200 to replace.
My M problems might help me with the IRS. If the MC says I was depressed, which I was, I can get the penalties waived.
OS might get suspended or dentention. Making him go with me tomorrow to help fix the baseball fields. HA HA on him.
Starting moving tonight.
But most importantly I love my FWW and she loves me and that is why are day was so great.
BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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Rind,
Was at work all day today.... still feeling happy about possibility of MOW getting bored. I know ..I know it still doesn't mean anything but I'm still happy and I haven't been happy for awhile.
Still
Ps. I know I'll be okay.... I just want to be okay with my H by my side.
BW me 46
WH 46
Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
Moved out (him) weekend after labor day
23rd anniversary 10/7/07
Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW
Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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Valentine’s Day will never be celebrated in our house, except for the grandchildren. It was D-Day for me (1 year). FWH never got me anything on Valentine’s Day in 30 years of M but got the OW a very nice gift with intimate words engraved on the back.
troubled_water
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WS/(H) EA 3+ yrs?, PA 1 yr?
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children grown
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Still...I get that...I completely understand it too...nothing wrong with it either! I hope there's a ton of boredom and serious problems for MOW... Guess MOW hasn't learned that she can't climb the ladder of success that way! LOL Frog- You're sick in the head! You know that? LMAO...Deal or not deal? HAHHAHAHAHHA... TW- My heart goes out to you...I'm so sorry that you have had to live throught and with that pain...How are things now? I see that you've been around a little while... I would like to thank everyone for posting...I have really enjoyed hearing your stories, the trials and tributions... It amazes me what we can learn from one another...I hope that you will continue to post...all lumps, anxiety, fears, happiness is welcome... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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