I can only speak from my experience, which is to be careful about requests to cut yourself off from others (in this case her brothers). Yes, cut off from other relationships, but friends and family? I'm not sure.......

As for the getting back together bit, if it's what you want and you can have a long hard think that it's got a good chance of working then good luck. The flip side is to make sure whatever made it fail in the first place isn't still there because in the middle of all this is your daughter.

Good luck

Jersyguy,

What are you doing NOW that you did before when you were dating the first time, that you STOPPED doing while you were married?

Your making it a point to spend time with her...your making dates with her..your taking her places (even if to a game)

It sounds like your ex-wife felt that while you were married you neglected her...and now that your not married anymore...
your not neglecting her but actually paying attention to her again, so yes, those feelings she had before would/could come back.

So if you decide to try again, what things would/could you do differently that would make the marriage last?

Would making it a point to put her before your work be helpful?

could you make it a point to set at few nights aside a month to go on actual dates as lovers and friends be helpful? you need to remember that just because a couple marries and becomes parents doesn't mean they are no longer lovers and friends, that friendship as people is the glue that holds the marriage together.

Sorry I haven't posted in awhile

UPDATE

Since my last post a lot has happened.

I have spent seveal night at her house watching tv and cuddling on the coach. We can hug and kiss, but that is as far as it has gotten so far.

She went to Las Vegas about 10 days ago and I decided to surprise her with a massage to the spa. Before she left I gave her a card that said do not open until you arrive at the hotel. The card was a thinging about you card and inside I wrote for "Anyone can catch your eye, but someone special catches your heart. That someone is you."
There is something special waiting for you at the Spa.

She sent me a text late that night saying "OMG! thank u so much! Quite a surprise and i lov it! Thank u for thinking of me and remembering thats one of my fav things ever.
The next text said : Jerseyguy thats so sweet and incredibly thoughtful wish i could hug and kiss u 4 it.
Luv u sweet dreams.

Since she came back on 3/18. She called me on 3/22 and wanted to know if I wanted to get my teeth cleaned (she is a dental hygientist) on 3/24 and she said all it would cost me lunch. Now she has never invited me to lunch so I took that as a baby step. I went and we had a nice time at lunch. We talked a little about our R.
The next day we had our C session (which I thought she would back out on but didn't). She was very comfortable with him and I though it went extremely well. She said she does want to come back with me next time, but she will come back and let me know when. Another baby step.
We had nice ride home again taliking about our R, she keeps saying she doesn't know where this is going but she has to make sure it never ends up in a D again. My C agrees she is no position to make promises, she needs to make sure the changes in my are real.
I invited her and my daughter to dinner that night and we had a great time.
The next day was Sat and I took my daughter and her friend to Dave & Busters and on the way home my exW called me asking me to check her computer. She has major problems with it and since we were going out to dinner w/my daughter that night she said maybe I can look at it afterwords. I was there until 10pm. She was very thankful.

I see myself making strides towards reconciliation, but they just I guess I have a hard time understanding why she is not throwing herself at me.

My C says she needs to take it slow and I need to chill out.
I am not a very patient person so this is tough.

I plan on still making her feel special and wanted, something she has not felt in a long time. Tough to do w/o putting pressure on her.

Any words of wisdom? Should I just act like I have been, eventhough she can't reciprocate those feelings right now in hopes of filling her love back up so she can down the line?