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Well last night we had it out, he told me he didn't want to be married anymore. Than he thinks he can just spend the night, I told him he had to leave.
He packed of everything including the new puppy.
He told me that he had Guilt about the OW and that her husband left he because of him He said he needed to help her buy a house but he wasn't gonna live with her. He is crazy..........
He told me he couldn't believe how much I had changed over the past few months and I was just like the girl in fell in love with but.......it was too late he was committed to the OW now.
Where do I go from here, I'm just ready to throw in the bag. This seems like a direct pass to Plan B or the Divorce court.
HELP
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WH left last night and says he's going to OW.
Was in Plan A and doing pretty good, now I don't know what to do.
WH says he feels guilty for ruining the OW life and causing her divorce so he needs to help her. He says he's not in love with her but cares alot. WH says he wants to help her buy a house.
So he packed up new puppy and all and went to OW/
What to do now? I'm at a loss on how to proceed???
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Sue,
Sorry I don't know what to tell you. But I'm sure others do so I'll pray they come along soon.
What happened today since you last posted this morning?
Ace
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4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)
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I haven't heard from anyone on the site.
I sent an email via Myspace to the OW she replied. I told her what my husband said. Her response was she was tired of all the lies from him. She thought that we divorced two years ago when we separated before. She indicated that they were not planning any relationship. And she said she was never married and therefore not getting a divorce like my WH said.
So all I know is everywhere I turn all I get is lies.
I don't know what to do.
He can't buy her a house without my signature, I checked his credit and everything and nothing is in the works. More lies...........but nothing to worry about.....
How can they lie and make you believe them so good? Where do I go from here?
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call a locksmith tell locksmith you need all the locks changed because you are not sure what happened to an extra set of keys then, once this is done sit down with all your kids and tell them what is going on ASK for their help Pep
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then .... proceed living a good life
WH will come crawling back ... but do not accept a fake husband ... inspect the crawler to make sure it is indeed a genuine husband ... not a lying/cheating copy cat
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OK, the kids are so mad they don't even want to talk to him.
He said he only hurt me and this didn't have anything to do with the kids. He said don't turn them against him, I told I didn't need to do that, he was doing a good job already.
He is just so out of it.....
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believe it or not
YOU have all the power now
and you can afford to sit on your fine butt and wait him out
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[color:"red"]and ..... [/color] WH showed up at home last night, just gives me a grin when I see him and says nothing. I asked him how the lake was and he said "Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies" he sounds like he may be doing drugs any history of that? Pep
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OK, I was thinking that myself, and it feels good.
He walked out the door and said once he closed that door he would never return.
Now all the lies are coming out and I hope the OW is really fed up with him as well.
This should be fun to sit back and watch how it unfolds.
I just don't know if he does contact me how to react and what to believe. I feel so vulnerable and stupid and used.
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do NOT contact OW anymore .... at least for now
let them be
they stink, both of them
keep WH OUT of your house ... he has abandoned you .... he TOLD you he was leaving you ... did the kids witness? if yes, that's GOOD
call an atorney and ask what you can legally do to protect yourself
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I don't think he's doing drugs, he gets drug tested at work randomly and he is very sensitive to that.
I think he just thinks he has 2 women fighting over him and he holds all the power. He is so smug, but he wasn't last night after I told him what I thought and challenged his lame stories.
Like if you get together with OW are you going to bring home to meet Dad, I don't think so, his Dad would not like her type. And Dad loves me. He just looked down at the ground and said NO he couldn't take her back to see the parents and he didn't plan on staying with her long.
He just felt so Guilty for hurting her............What a joke.
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Thanks Pep,
I did respond back to OW earlier, told her it sounded like he was playing us both for fools. Told her he was married and never divorced. She hasn't responded back, who knows how much she is lying.
I am seeing a PI tomorrow, I just need to find out the full story on her. The way this whole thing looks I swear he's paying her for services on a regular basis. She does childcare suppostly but I don't know how she can afford to live where she does.
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Hi ,
WH just called me and I didn't answer the phone.
Than I come back from lunch and I have a message from him, very nasty tells me to stop emailing him at work otherwise he's going to come to my work and tell them I'm using company email for personal business.
I haven't emailed for 2 days since he walked out.
This is the first contact between either of us since he left Wednesday night.
I called him back and said I didn't email him and I have no desire to email him. He says OK
Was this a trap, did he just catch me. Should I have ignored the call and not called back.
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hey Sue,
I'm checkin' in to encourage you to hang in there. Man I wish I knew what to tell you.
Have you been reading other threads and articles on the web site? Weekends are so tough, but don't give up, K?
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Yes I'm reading other threads and they help.
Thank you so much, its like a battle with my head on what to do and what not to do.
I think that NO CONTACT is best bet but when he calls and accusing me of something I didn't do its hard to just sit silent.
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