laotzu,

No I don't think I got what I paid for. I wasn't perfect in my M by any means. And you know what neither was my H. He wasn't meeting my needs for many years... you know what I didn't go out and have an A.

My WH did it to me twice (that I know of)... even after seeing how much he hurt me the first time.

I'm sure you feel hurt but you must understand that most of us here didn't ask for our spouses to have sex with someone else. And your comment about it hurting even more because of your open marriage was extremely hurtful to those of us who didn't chose or even know our spouses were doing this.

See my trust was that my H would stay faithful and protect me from the hurts of the world. Guess what the one that I thought was suppose to protect me hurt me the most.

If you feel the need to go that is your choice... but understand where the BS that didn't ask for this are coming from.

Still

your comments are very offensive and disgusting

to EVER compare the "trust" you have as something that can't be described unless you experience it................is a joke

WE trusted our spouses NOT to share thier body OR thier heart with someone else and they trusted us to do the same

THAT kind of trust is something YOU can't ever imagine because you haven't experienced it

they betrayed our trust.....we didn't betray them

you trusted your spouse to share his body but not his heart

and you're surprised that he shared his heart too?

if you expose this so called "A" to anyone, i hope your H tells everyone that you are the one who brought the whole idea of an "open marraige" into your lives to begin with

i'm completely horrified at the thought that you believed anyone here would support you or buy into your warped beliefs