This isn't where I wanted to be; but it looks like I don't have any other options. After only 2.5 years of marriage, I'm getting divorced again. He doesn't want to work, he yells at and threatens my children, he's moody and irritable.........I can't do it anymore. So, I've talked to my attorney and we'll file after April 15. But, here's the hard part: I've talked to my husband about all this, it just made him angry and he says he won't move out, I and the kids have to. Well, he's not working so I know he can't make the payments and we'd lose the house, which I've paid over $12,000 on now. I"m not willing to do that. BUT, he can't afford to move out either because.....he's not working! And not making much effort to find a job either. So I'm stuck with him, things are getting worse........any suggestions?

May God bless you and your family this Easter season.

In the rough times, it's important to remember to count your blessings.

Maybe, just maybe it's time for this man to go get a job and be a "grown up." If he won't move out your attorney can help you with the legal process of "evicting" your own husband. How sad, and it's true, even sadder with Holidays. But think Spring, this is the time of year we clean our houses, sort our clothes - so why not get rid of what's dragging you down even more, and his clothes and you'll have your own Spring closet and a fresh start. Next figure out why you keep going here, I'm going to therapy for "this" and I don't know if it's helpful or not. Last session was the "red flags" that were there while I was dating this "dream man" who really smashed me around, was moody and very difficult. I don't think it's that easy though, I think these pigs of the world are good at recognizing us women who really want life to be different - they know how to pour it on while dating us. Of course if we knew they were like THIS we wouldn't really continue to date them would we, then marry them? However I do agree that there typically are red flags - and we need to know why we didn't run from these crazy relationships to begin with. Don't lose your house, lose the jerk.

anna,

Don't wait till April 15th to file, file before then...the point is WHY WAIT?? If you already know your going to file, then file.

And in that he isn't working it's possible you will have to pay his legal fee's as well.

And in that you are the one filing you could very well request the house (whose name is it in?? Both or yours),
and in that you have custody of your kids, you will most likely get the house anyway..(as he can't even afford the payment) it may be you have to buy him out..

Don't get discouraged, don't let his threats of not moving out get to you, because if it is court ordered that you get the house, you can legally have him evicted and have the police present making sure he leaves. And if he refuses, they can foricably make him do so.

Just move ahead with your plans, just don't wait, the longer you wait, the longer he gets what he want..making yours and your childrens life miserable in the process, he will continue to abuse your kids IF YOU WAIT!!

But I'm curious WHY You are wanting to wait until April 15th??

I'm waiting till the 15th because my lawyer asked me to; he does taxes for people and is extremely busy right now. He is an old friend and will make his fees extremely affordable for me; so it's in my best interest to wait for him and not forge ahead on my own. It's only two weeks, anyway.

I'm sorry. Document h's yelling and threats.