STILL!!

That was a mini FU wasn't it??!!

3 days, too! Good for you! You DO deserve the BEST! Glad you believe it yourself, as that is the key.

Be strong! If you need some inspiration, ck out the posts in my thread from INeed. Some great stuff there!

Cheering you on!! {{Still}}

Bugs,

It was a mini FU without actually saying FU. It was what "I" needed to do. Maybe pretty selfish on my part.... but I guess it's okay to be selfish occasionally WH certainly does it frequently.

I have been checking out the inspirations from INH on your thread. Just don't have much to add so I read and gather strength. I truley believe that through her God is speaking to all of us and I'm finally listening.

I will still pray for WH, but my prayers are now for his healing his relationship with his daughters.

Still

(((Bugs))) thanks for the cheerleading you have helped me immensely.

Whoa, Still, that is a complete 180 for you. You sound confident in your choice, unwavering. You will need this confidence in the months to come. I think we all hit a wall, and lose it, have no more patience for the short sighted, ill mannered wayward behavior.

You've been through the ringer with this man; he's been wayward for a mighty long time, and never reached for recovery. It's easy to rebound back to wayward behavior when you never eradicate it in the first place.

I had wondered so often how long you were going to be able to continue in this fashion without either breaking down or breaking out. You are more than willing to recover, so recovery yourself, and the happiness will follow, for you will earn it. You have earned the happiness you have now, so enjoy it.

I would say, be sure to talk to your kids about WHY you did what you did and why you choose to move on now. They need to understand that you were doing all that you could for the marriage, and that marriage is not to be entered with the idea that you can just leave when things get tough.

Otherwise, I'd say that I am happy that you have found peace.

Silent,

Thank-you for the encouragement. I do feel very confident in my choice. It was a long time coming. You are right I couldn't keep on the path I was going.... I don't know if some others situations were making me feel like I shouldn't give up. That marriage is worth fighting for. I fought for my marriage for going on 6 years and was doing it all by myself. I do agree that I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown, wanting the idea of what a happy marriage should be. WH needs help he is sick in his mind and heart.

My kids are thrilled for me.... thay saw the difference immediately. They know I fought the battle that at this time is unwinable. They know why I wanted to save my marriage.... because I loved thier dad and made a commitment to him. And they understand why I'm giving up, they don't want thier dad back in our house. Life is much more peaceful and calm. Not much yelling... only when we are PMSing with three woman that can be most of the month <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I do hope this attitude continues... not to say the rollercoaster ride won;t go away but the dips may not make me as sick. The day we go before the judge will still be difficult because I did want to save it so bad. Not all marriages are meant to be saved. My kids and I will have a more emotionally healthy life than WS that's for sure.

Still