What exactly does “bully” mean?

Depending upon what state you live in determines legality, but if you FEEL physically threatened then a restraining order is the only way to go. Be careful going down this track and only go there if you feel you need to.



Two points –
1. If his name in on the title then he is entitled to use the truck…..unless,
2. You have a legal separation agreement that remands the truck to you.

Consult your attorney on this right away.



Since you are still on the property (technically in possession of the property) then remove the lock. Take photo’s of the exterior & interior and share them with your attorney. Cite “humane rationale” and offer to replace the lock at your expense, if necessary. (Brownie points down the road with the judge).


Anna, I’m concerned about what I’m hearing here. Do you have anyone who can stay with you for a while (A father, brother, etc.)?

And on behalf of all the men in the world I’d like to apologize for the crap you’re going through. Guys like this give the rest of us a bad name.

Even if you had to pay his first months rent it is worth it to get rid of him. I would not pay next months rent for him however!!!!

Been a busy week, but here's the update and answer to questions:

*He did come over the next day and give me a key; said he was mad at me the day before and so didn't leave one.

*He got the money by cutting up scrap steel from junk in the ravine behind the barn; made $600 by bringing in 3 trailerfulls. Fine with me.....cleaned up the place and he got money, I would have had to pay someone to remove it. Rent on his new apartment is only $250/mo.

*He's got a job, so he's working 8 to 5 daily, haven't really seen him all week.

So, things are going pretty smoothly for the time being, thanks for all the thoughts and prayers!

Good! Keep strong now!